jefermelesyeux Posted November 8, 2012 Posted November 8, 2012 it seems to me that the act of holding hands is one that is becoming increasingly extenuated. in my opinion, holding hands is a very intimate gesture and symbolizes togetherness and commitment. i love holding the hands of the guy i'm with, whether we're in a private setting or out and about where i know it's safe to publicly display affection. but there have been a few instances recently which have made me question the intimacy of hand-holding. for example, the most recent date i went on. at one point we ended up going back to his place and cuddling. we were holding hands and watching television. do you think it was a good sign, or is hand-holding just "something that people do?" i wonder sometimes if it's a step in the right direction, or if it just comes with the territory, so to speak. does that make sense? what does everyone think?
rocketman122 Posted November 8, 2012 Posted November 8, 2012 it seems to me that the act of holding hands is one that is becoming increasingly extenuated. in my opinion, holding hands is a very intimate gesture and symbolizes togetherness and commitment. i love holding the hands of the guy i'm with, whether we're in a private setting or out and about where i know it's safe to publicly display affection. but there have been a few instances recently which have made me question the intimacy of hand-holding. for example, the most recent date i went on. at one point we ended up going back to his place and cuddling. we were holding hands and watching television. do you think it was a good sign, or is hand-holding just "something that people do?" i wonder sometimes if it's a step in the right direction, or if it just comes with the territory, so to speak. does that make sense? what does everyone think? I understand your POV. cheapening of it though. I dont think so. I love holding my GF and I grab hers everytime were together. IMO, kissing is the most intimate..even more so than intercourse itself. something very erotic about it. 1
MrCastle Posted November 8, 2012 Posted November 8, 2012 Ehh. There's so many better things to grab besides a hand. 2
sweetkiwi Posted November 8, 2012 Posted November 8, 2012 i don't hold hands with guys i've just met. Or went on a date with. Its adorable and sweet and i love when my man holds my hand. But if a random guy wants to i will shoot him down. Even after a kiss. We all have our own ideas of intimacy. Thats okay! But what someone considers intimate or not has no bearing on my opinion of either them or the act. If you hold hands with someone and you don't want to you are only cheapening it for yourself.
Eternal Sunshine Posted November 8, 2012 Posted November 8, 2012 In my experience, that's just something people do. Usually, after guy has kissed me (dates 1-3) he will feel free to take my hand and hold it as we are walking. Some of those guy proceeded never to call again.
xdahliax Posted November 8, 2012 Posted November 8, 2012 I love holding hands. I mean, the first real hand-holding is up there with the first kiss. The last time I really liked someone, I constantly had the song "I Wanna Hold Your Hand" in my head. I suppose that's because I don't want a fling, I want someone to walk through life with me. There are other forms of intimacy, but none that really represent what I want for the long-term. 2
Author jefermelesyeux Posted November 8, 2012 Author Posted November 8, 2012 I understand your POV. cheapening of it though. I dont think so. I love holding my GF and I grab hers everytime were together. IMO, kissing is the most intimate..even more so than intercourse itself. something very erotic about it. I agree about the kissing thing. I think it can be very passionate and exciting. Just being in a guy's company and knowing he is mine can be erotic for me.
Author jefermelesyeux Posted November 8, 2012 Author Posted November 8, 2012 Ehh. There's so many better things to grab besides a hand. Right, like a penis. Maybe not for you, but for me.
Author jefermelesyeux Posted November 8, 2012 Author Posted November 8, 2012 i don't hold hands with guys i've just met. Or went on a date with. Its adorable and sweet and i love when my man holds my hand. But if a random guy wants to i will shoot him down. Even after a kiss. We all have our own ideas of intimacy. Thats okay! But what someone considers intimate or not has no bearing on my opinion of either them or the act. If you hold hands with someone and you don't want to you are only cheapening it for yourself. I tend to move a bit quickly. Maybe it's not the best idea, but I personally have no problem with it. I definitely wanted to hold his hand, so I was glad when we did. I'm just unsure of its significance anymore.
Author jefermelesyeux Posted November 8, 2012 Author Posted November 8, 2012 In my experience, that's just something people do. Usually, after guy has kissed me (dates 1-3) he will feel free to take my hand and hold it as we are walking. Some of those guy proceeded never to call again. See, that's my problem. How do you show all signs that suggest you're interested, and then just move on? It doesn't make sense to me. :/
NoMoreJerks Posted November 9, 2012 Posted November 9, 2012 Holding hands was my favourite thing to do with my ex - whether at home while watching TV, or when walking around, or waiting for our meal at a restaurant. It's not cheapened at all -- I for one did it out of true and deep feelings of love and desire for intimacy with my ex.
MrCastle Posted November 9, 2012 Posted November 9, 2012 Right, like a penis. Maybe not for you, but for me. Nope. For me it would be an ass 1
todreaminblue Posted November 9, 2012 Posted November 9, 2012 it seems to me that the act of holding hands is one that is becoming increasingly extenuated. in my opinion, holding hands is a very intimate gesture and symbolizes togetherness and commitment. i love holding the hands of the guy i'm with, whether we're in a private setting or out and about where i know it's safe to publicly display affection. but there have been a few instances recently which have made me question the intimacy of hand-holding. for example, the most recent date i went on. at one point we ended up going back to his place and cuddling. we were holding hands and watching television. do you think it was a good sign, or is hand-holding just "something that people do?" i wonder sometimes if it's a step in the right direction, or if it just comes with the territory, so to speak. does that make sense? what does everyone think? I only hold the hand of a guy i am with...it is an intimate gesture to me...i hold my kids hands or they grab my hand when i am crossing the road if i zone out or feel like holding my hand..or they are abotu to ask me to spend money on them..it is a sign of closeness....but then....things have changed with dating and intimate gestures...i dont think for the better.....deb
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