d_vine61 Posted August 3, 2004 Posted August 3, 2004 [font=times new roman][/font][color=darkblue][/color] I am so confused with this guy I'm dating (we've been dating for 2 months). When I first met him we would go out and we would always see eachother at least twice a week. He was always the one calling me and inviting me to go out or hang out I told him that this "relationship" is something serious for me and he told me the same thing. Lately, though things have been really weird, he is a very busy person he works, he is going to start school and is always doing something during the day, and I understand that but it's been over 2 weeks since I've seen him I got upset and told him he doesn't have time for me anymore and he got upset and told me not to act like he's ignoring me. He told me that they had been making him work a lot and he is trying to get everything ready for school and that I have to understand that the only real time he has time to go out is at night (and its too late for me) that he doesn't want to come to my house because he's going to be too tired, but what I don't understand is how he was making time before and now it seems he doesn't want to put any effort into trying to see me. I've made comments to him a few times telling him he doesn't have time for a girlfriend and he changes the subject, I don't understand him I tell him he doesn't have time for me but he gets upset with me for saying that when the truth is he doesn't have time. What do I do I need some advice please I'm so stressed because I feel pushed to the side and that he really isn't interested in me anymore
Pained Posted August 3, 2004 Posted August 3, 2004 He may be trying to avoid you for some reason. He may really just be that busy. In either case, my advice to you is to find your own hobbies, activities, and friends. When he has time, and if he is still interested, he'll come around.
FolderWife Posted August 3, 2004 Posted August 3, 2004 Well, it does sound like he's lost interest. Do you call him, or does he call you? I used to have guys chase me, then after two months of dating, they'd stop seeing me at all. My advice would be to not call him, and to not nag him to see you if you want things to work out...that's the only chance you have. If you are pushy, and continue with this "you don't have time for me" junk, then he's going to finally dump you. If you continue to nag him for some time, he's going to dump you. If you dont' call him, and give him some space, then he might come back to you. Not calling, and not nagging is the only chance you have. Again, NO CALLING. You won't listen, though. Anyone I ever tell to not call doesn't listen. I didn't listen, and I got dumped. So keep calling him, and keep nagging him, and he'll dump you.
SweetBee82 Posted August 3, 2004 Posted August 3, 2004 ^agreed 100% I'm somewhat on the same boat with you. My bf is constantly working at his Army office all day and rarely sees me. But I don't let that bother me because I trust him completely. I do have my own life other than him so that takes most of my time. But the moment we're together, wow it's really intense! So just give him some space and try not to think about him all the time. If you keep on pressing the subject then he'll be fed up and will leave you. Hope everything works out!
Author d_vine61 Posted August 4, 2004 Author Posted August 4, 2004 Thanks for the advice, and he is the one who calls me I rarely call him the only time I do is if I missed his call for some reason, but I will do what you guys said thanks I'll keep you posted on the situation.
SweetBee82 Posted August 4, 2004 Posted August 4, 2004 Keep us posted. But one thing for sure... when you 2 see each other again, it will be worth the wait!
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