Treasa Posted November 8, 2012 Posted November 8, 2012 My relationship with my boyfriend of eight months is coming to an end. He isn't interested in sex, he tells me he shouldn't be my emotional tampon (the one day a week I may tell him I want cuddling), yet he asks me all the time to rub his back, cuddle him, etc. I let him go to bed extremely early because we're a few hours apart usually, and yet he lives with his parents, doesn't have a job, and just plays video games all day, or other types of games all day. I will occasionally tease him, and he will tell me to "officially f*** off" or go to "f***ing hell". And yet he'll call me names. Argh. I know it's verbal abuse, but I stupidly let myself get sucked in by another jerk. You'd think I'd know better by now After he told me twice in a row to go to f***ing hell, I just hung up. He didn't call me, and I'm not calling him, so I guess it's safe to assume it's over. Just hurts, though, especially when you really love someone.
Seq37 Posted November 8, 2012 Posted November 8, 2012 (edited) As much as you may be hurting right now, you need to know if it's truly over to move forward with life. Never assume. Make sure you stay strong because better things will come your way, life is way too short to put up with any form of abuse. Edit - What did you guys fight about? Was it because you were teasing him and he took it seriously and left? Edited November 8, 2012 by Seq37
PYTpisces Posted November 8, 2012 Posted November 8, 2012 Its never ok to be abused... physically verbally emotionally. Thats not love... it's counterfeit love. Harsh words like that are disrespect. It doesn't matter how angry he was. Be with someone who, even when they're mad, will fight fair and always honor your feelings with respect and LOVE. Find out why you keep getting "sucked in by jerks." If this is a pattern it can be broken with a lot of introspection and healing.
Author Treasa Posted November 8, 2012 Author Posted November 8, 2012 It's because I was joking around about how his 15-year-old brother, who is really extremely smart, got a math question on FB wrong that I got right. He said I was "having a go at a child" before telling me to F off, and if asking today via email if I'm thinking about how it was wrong to do that. This morning he emailed me to tell me it's the most angry I've ever made him.
PYTpisces Posted November 8, 2012 Posted November 8, 2012 It's because I was joking around about how his 15-year-old brother, who is really extremely smart, got a math question on FB wrong that I got right. He said I was "having a go at a child" before telling me to F off, and if asking today via email if I'm thinking about how it was wrong to do that. This morning he emailed me to tell me it's the most angry I've ever made him. Its still not okay :-/.... if he's capable of being that disrespectful when hes that angry I don't even want to imagine what hes capable of when infuriated.... In my opinion verbal or physical abuse are just one of those things that you dont forgive... I mean, yes, forgive because it's the Godly thing to do, but it's a one strike you're out type of deal.
veggirl Posted November 8, 2012 Posted November 8, 2012 What's there to love about a guy who tells you to F off, isn't physically affectionate, doesn't want sex and is apparently too lazy to get a job?
Author Treasa Posted November 11, 2012 Author Posted November 11, 2012 Well, last night I broke up with him and then hung up. He immediately called me and started being really sweet. He later sent me an email saying he's just really depressed because he has no money and he hasn't found a job yet (he was laid off along with everyone else from his last one, and then had to have surgery and recovery from that, which took a few months), and with Christmas coming up, his dad recently having been diagnosed with diabetes, his uncle having died (all true), he was just depressed. I still told him I wouldn't let him treat me like that anymore. We're working on things now, but he knows I love myself more than I love him, and if it comes down to a choice, I'm certainly not going to allow myself to be his kick toy.
Pete123 Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 (edited) Even though hes going through problems he shouldn't treat you this way, if anything he should want you more... thats how i would be atleast. If he lacks a job he should stop playing video games all the time and go out and get one. You deserve better Edited November 12, 2012 by Pete123
Author Treasa Posted November 13, 2012 Author Posted November 13, 2012 Pete, thank you for the smile. Too bad you don't live around here!
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