yongyong Posted November 7, 2012 Posted November 7, 2012 could it be a deal breaker if a guy grabs a girl's hand on first date? (after having coffee, we walked around the street)
kerme Posted November 7, 2012 Posted November 7, 2012 No, not if things are going well and it fits the mood.
Author yongyong Posted November 7, 2012 Author Posted November 7, 2012 I think I really messed it up. Met her at the bar. Got her # after talking a lot. I had a good feeling since we talked a lot and she had a good vibe towards me. Met her today at a coffee shop. Talked for an hour and she was showing genuine interest whole time. I asked her to walk outside. It was such a nice day. we were talking and laughing while walking. I grabbed her hand. we walked like that for several minutes. she told me it was too soon to hold hands and moved her hand. she said she had to go and I asked her what she was doing this weekend. she said she would probably working all weekend. Everything was good till I grabbed her hand. Maybe I looked too eager or sexual by holding her hand....
GirlontheLam Posted November 7, 2012 Posted November 7, 2012 No, she'll let you know if it is a problem but not reciprocating.
jw123 Posted November 7, 2012 Posted November 7, 2012 No worries. If she doesn't like it there wasn't going to be a second date anyway
todreaminblue Posted November 7, 2012 Posted November 7, 2012 could it be a deal breaker if a guy grabs a girl's hand on first date? (after having coffee, we walked around the street) no its natural.....i would say tonsil hockey might not be appropriate for a first date or second for that matter or third date even....smilin.... holding hands is sweet...best wishes....deb
Author yongyong Posted November 8, 2012 Author Posted November 8, 2012 I can kind of guess why she went cold as soon as I grabbed her hand. she is 23 but she seemed very nice and cultivated girl. she is one of those 'clean' looking girl meaning she doesn't have any party girl vibe and looks like it will take a while just to kiss her. I wouldn't grab her hand if the conversation was going very dry. I wouldn't grab her hand if I asked her to grab something after a class. (since it isn't a date) Since I got her # at a bar and she decided to come out to meet me 2nd time, I figured she might be interested in getting to know me? I thought holding hands was the most innocent way to connect. I sent her 'it was nice meeting you. don't take too serious on holding hands' but she didn't reply. I don't know. I think this is why guys go back to PUA thing because being genuine doesn't work so they need to figure out what needs to be done.
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