joe321 Posted November 7, 2012 Posted November 7, 2012 I hope someone on here can take the time to read this and give me an honest opinion... I was with my ex for a year. We were best friends for a while before that and fell in love. Jobs,friends, and other problems caused us to become distant and she one day told me she didn't want a relationship anymore. I was devastated for a while after that. She continued to call me everyday and act like nothing was different after we broke up. We even slept together and told eachother this is the last time multiple nights. As time went on and my sanity disappeared I decided it was smart to have no contact. She would cry and tell me she loved me but not want to be with me...4 Months later she is with someone else and is happy. But my NC has turned into her texting me random things about our old habits from the relationship everyday. I cant ignore the girl cause i love her. I left out the part where I mention she means everything to me and I truly thought she was the one. She wants to come over tonight to hang out even though she is with a new guy she claims she loves. What should I tell her. I plan on this being the last thing I say to her.
River Rain Posted November 7, 2012 Posted November 7, 2012 Why does she want to hang out with you? Did she say she wanted to be friends? She could be wanting to reconcile, her current bf could have been a rebound. I believe in second chances...whether they work out or not, I will always try. So if that's what she's after, it might be a good thing she comes over. Or...she could just be missing what you two had because she can't get that with the new guy and she wants to see you solely out of the fact that she's seeking the emotional connection. If that's the case, you two could get intimate then she'll drop you again tomorrow. If you're prepared for either scenario, and you said you still love her, then let her come over.
todreaminblue Posted November 7, 2012 Posted November 7, 2012 I hope someone on here can take the time to read this and give me an honest opinion... I was with my ex for a year. We were best friends for a while before that and fell in love. Jobs,friends, and other problems caused us to become distant and she one day told me she didn't want a relationship anymore. I was devastated for a while after that. She continued to call me everyday and act like nothing was different after we broke up. We even slept together and told each other this is the last time multiple nights. As time went on and my sanity disappeared I decided it was smart to have no contact. She would cry and tell me she loved me but not want to be with me...4 Months later she is with someone else and is happy. But my NC has turned into her texting me random things about our old habits from the relationship everyday. I cant ignore the girl cause i love her. I left out the part where I mention she means everything to me and I truly thought she was the one. She wants to come over tonight to hang out even though she is with a new guy she claims she loves. What should I tell her. I plan on this being the last thing I say to her. You have to tell her no........if she was truly happy she would nto want to hang out with you as i don't think it is considerate of the guy she is meant to be happy with...its best not to entertain any thought of spending time in each others company especially if it was sexually charged relationship things happen ....don't see her anymore tell her you are unable to see her a random call now and again maybe........if she wants to spend time with you she is invested in you....there has to be no sexual tension on her side if you were to remain friends......sounds like there is that tension there from you and her both....spending time together fact to face.....its a"it wont be positive" for either one of you unless the boyfriend is with her....deb
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