adamskaa Posted November 7, 2012 Posted November 7, 2012 It just seems to me that some girls just use me to make themselves feel better, but then make me feel like crap. What happens is that I get to know a girl, really nice and all this, tell her that she is beautiful, gorgeous, etc (they are actually gorgeous so I'm not just saying it) I start thinking that they're interested in me and then after a while, they just stop talking to me, like they've got what they wanted and just found someone better. I guess it makes me feel useless and such. Am I going wrong somewhere?
SWEETIE33 Posted November 7, 2012 Posted November 7, 2012 Have you ever had amazing chemistry with someone? Have you had sex that makes you see stars? These are feelings that you must recognize so you can attract the right person.
Author adamskaa Posted November 7, 2012 Author Posted November 7, 2012 I've had amazing chemistry with one girl and that was it, never had sex so that's out the question
xra Posted November 7, 2012 Posted November 7, 2012 What happens is that I get to know a girl, really nice and all this, tell her that she is beautiful, gorgeous, etc (they are actually gorgeous so I'm not just saying it).... Am I going wrong somewhere? It sounds like you're going wrong my focusing on nothing but external appearance. You only mention the beauty of these girls who seem to dump you for no reason - what about the personalities of these girls you're attracted to? Do you have anything in common with them, similar interests/hobbies/things to talk about? What do you do together? If the only attraction for you is their physical looks, that would explain a lot.
Author adamskaa Posted November 8, 2012 Author Posted November 8, 2012 It sounds like you're going wrong my focusing on nothing but external appearance. You only mention the beauty of these girls who seem to dump you for no reason - what about the personalities of these girls you're attracted to? Do you have anything in common with them, similar interests/hobbies/things to talk about? What do you do together? If the only attraction for you is their physical looks, that would explain a lot. Oh I get to know the person also, I don't just go for appearance. I don't know what it is.
Shaun-Dro Posted November 8, 2012 Posted November 8, 2012 It just seems to me that some girls just use me to make themselves feel better, but then make me feel like crap. What happens is that I get to know a girl, really nice and all this, tell her that she is beautiful, gorgeous, etc (they are actually gorgeous so I'm not just saying it) I start thinking that they're interested in me and then after a while, they just stop talking to me, like they've got what they wanted and just found someone better. I guess it makes me feel useless and such. Am I going wrong somewhere? To be honest, you're just the typical wuss that most women use to booster their wavering egos. Grow a spine and try to sleep with these women before you gush over them.
todreaminblue Posted November 8, 2012 Posted November 8, 2012 It just seems to me that some girls just use me to make themselves feel better, but then make me feel like crap. What happens is that I get to know a girl, really nice and all this, tell her that she is beautiful, gorgeous, etc (they are actually gorgeous so I'm not just saying it) I start thinking that they're interested in me and then after a while, they just stop talking to me, like they've got what they wanted and just found someone better. I guess it makes me feel useless and such. Am I going wrong somewhere? Dont give up there is someone out there for you don't listen to the posts that say get over it ya wuss or grow a spine take what advice that i sound and not condescending ....I believe things happen for a reason the girls that backed off from you because you were nice to them means they weren't right for you there could be lots of reasons why they decided to back off you might not even be the reason in fact i could say when a girl backs off from a nice guy it is something in her and possibly a lack of compatability with you......some girls like games and some dont, you need the ones that dont.......everyone suffers setbacks......some more than others....you have to bounce when you crash....and then you get up and try again when you feel you can.....when you develop feelings for someone and they are unrequited you have to also take time out so you can recover....bouncing is knowing you need to take time for yourself to recover......dont try and get straight back out there you go in injured and thats not good....get yourself in the right frame of mind to approach the dating pool..try diving in the deep end not the shallow end.....and belly flops happen sometimes expect them, but one day that perfect pike dive is coming for you ...you do it and then all the belly flops seem worth it.....best wishes in the deep end hope you find your pike.....deb
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