Author Waytoblue Posted November 9, 2012 Author Posted November 9, 2012 beenburned,I think it is the same in my state.That is something I will be discussing with my attorney.And also finances incase he tries to pull leaving me high and dry with debt or stops helping pay for his responsibilities. He is still in the I don't know who I am or what I want mode.But yet calls and txt's me while at work,has sat and cried.Talked about having dreams and vision and doesn't want to end up in a nursing home a bitter old man.The OW has entrepeneur capabilities...so this vision stuff is probably being fueled by her. I also saw him online,once again(I have an account he knows nothing of and I am saving,copying everything I can)responding to this:I may not get to see you as often as I'd like.I may not get to hold you through the night.But deep in my heart I truly know.Deep in my hear,you're the one I truly love.And I can't let you go.....his reply was everyone needs to feel this way. Sooooo,as I strongly suspect he thinks he is in love with this woman and in lala land big time.He never talked this kind of thing before.The vision,dreams and reaching for a better goal,blah,blah.This woman went into business with her ex and the business was bankrupted.I'm sure he is having dreams of OW helping him reach some goal of making things happen.He said:she doesn't have fear and is able to make it happen.Well,if so hope she's ready to help him pay off all the debt he is in up to his eyeballs to have funds to make something happen,lol. So,yes I really need to watch my back and get a plan for myself.And protect myself. 3
freestyle Posted November 9, 2012 Posted November 9, 2012 [quote=Waytoblue;4381202 So,yes I really need to watch my back and get a plan for myself.And protect myself. This is the best thing you can do in this kind of situation--you need to keep your wits about you, even though you'd probably rather curl up in a ball & cry. Start getting your ducks in a row, but don't be obvious about it. Right now your H does NOT have your back, or your best interests in mind. 2
Author Waytoblue Posted November 9, 2012 Author Posted November 9, 2012 I did the curling up and crying.It hurts,it does but I am now going into fight/survival mode. I also hope she doesn't mind the alimony payments that will be coming out of his check as well...I am usually not that type but he wants to play?He can pay for it.He has been stating if we would happen to split we need to be civil about it but then says he doesn't know if we will split.He needs to be rational and think about it,lol.That it's hard to just toss something away in the heat of the moment without really thinking about it.He broke down crying saying he doesn't know what to do about this(aka how am I going to manage being with this woman without loosing my @ most likely.)And that he is hurting me and should let me go because he is causing me pain.I see the real under lying theme here.He is not fooling me one bit. What he is thinking is I'll put the screws to him finacially and he knows he will still have debt(a lot of it is in his name only but not all).Well,he is absolutely correct.I won't walk away with nothing.Not after all of this.
Artie Lang Posted November 9, 2012 Posted November 9, 2012 this is NOT mental illness. your husband is a total D*UCHEBAG! you need to take care of yourself, as this situation is taking a horrible toll on you. have you exposed his atrocious behavior? 1
Author Waytoblue Posted November 10, 2012 Author Posted November 10, 2012 Artie Lang-I have made it known to my family so he is exposed to them.He is extremely angry with me for doing so. My Mom called the police because she heard what he was saying to me over the phone.This was the night I found he was still talking to this OW.The police pulled him over and came to our home with him to gather some of his clothing.He stayed in motel that night.So,I'm sure half the town knows it now. My husband puts this big Christian image out there offline(and no offense to Christians)and is forever trying to help people,rescue people.He claims this is because he cares.But in reality it is to make himself feel better...about him. 2
Gagirl Posted November 10, 2012 Posted November 10, 2012 A patient's confidentality has been violated. You need to contact the hospital and provide them a copy of the recording, when it was taken, what website it was posted on and the account that it was posted from. Do not let your husband know you turned him in. He will at least get kicked off the website.
frozensprouts Posted November 11, 2012 Posted November 11, 2012 this is NOT mental illness. your husband is a total D*UCHEBAG! you need to take care of yourself, as this situation is taking a horrible toll on you. have you exposed his atrocious behavior? my son used the term "jakassery' the other day...i think it applies really well to the way the OP's husband is treating her.... OP... something i found very useful when I was trying to keep records of everything that was going on was to email copies of everything to myself at a web based email address ( gmail or what have you0...that way you an access the information you need from wherever you are, and you don't need to worry about losing it if your computer crashes, you lose your phone, etc. 1
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