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There's a couple of people I know, this one German, single woman, late 30's....lives in a reclusive part of town. She's part of a close circle of our friends, however...has stopped attending to events we tend to enjoy, because she's tired of the venue.

 

But might occasionally go out to it a couple times of year, just to get caught up on the friends, but typically doesn't go to other events, like BBQ's, Pool parties, etc...sometimes her friends have to pull her teeth, even if the place is within a few miles of her home.

 

She has some weird policy about not dating within her social circle either, the same reason people don't date at the work place.

 

So typically, she stays in on a night she has off, or just goes off and does her own things. Reclusive at best.

 

Are these the same kind of people that wind up online dating instead of getting out and socializing?

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I'm thinking of multimillionaire men who are in a position to be picky. :rolleyes:

 

Hey, it could happen... write a book that becomes a bestseller, or invent some comically simple gadget that millions of people can use... all you'd have to do is sit at home and the royalty checks would roll in.

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Yes and then they wonder why they are single and no one they date has anything in common with them.

 

Everyone wants a GF or BF who they can relate to. There are three kinds of those people.

 

  • Long time friends and friends/relatives of those friends.
  • People you work with (or in the same field as).
  • People you grew up with in the same town or part of town.

 

If one rules those natural and age old social networks the only thing left is meeting people online at random. Then they wonder where the good men are.

 

Perhaps it's a version of the Maddonna-whore complex. Wherein they just cant see anyone they truly relate to on a non-sexual level as also being a sexual option.

 

It's so sad though too because if one looks at historical long lasting marriages and romances it's always from those groups.

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this one German, single woman, late 30's....lives in a reclusive part of town....sometimes her friends have to pull her teeth

 

Are all the people confined to this reclusive part of town toothless? Are they banished from the normal part of town until they decide to wear dentures?

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It's kind of funny, she joined an outdoors Meetup only to be booted due to inactivity, the leader of the group tends to "clean house" at times, and she got booted while back.

 

She just didn't care for going out on hikes with people unless she could bring her dogs with her.

 

And I said that I knew of a few people that did bring their dogs with them on our hikes, and she mentioned that the state she lives in isn't "dog friendly" whatever that means...and she prefers to go on private hikes, and doesn't like her dogs around people she doesn't know all that well.

 

She is more of a one-on-one kind of person when she socializes. Even when she goes to group events, she doesn't particurely enjoy them.

 

 

Yes and then they wonder why they are single and no one they date has anything in common with them.

 

Everyone wants a GF or BF who they can relate to. There are three kinds of those people.

 

  • Long time friends and friends/relatives of those friends.
  • People you work with (or in the same field as).
  • People you grew up with in the same town or part of town.

 

If one rules those natural and age old social networks the only thing left is meeting people online at random. Then they wonder where the good men are.

 

Perhaps it's a version of the Maddonna-whore complex. Wherein they just cant see anyone they truly relate to on a non-sexual level as also being a sexual option.

 

It's so sad though too because if one looks at historical long lasting marriages and romances it's always from those groups.

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