dannyhep Posted November 7, 2012 Posted November 7, 2012 A week ago, me and my ex began to talk again. We got on quite well and we decided that we would take it slow and see how it goes. During this week we have had a few serious conversations because we both have been with people in the time that we weren't together. These serious conversations do not help me at all because it stops the relationship being fun. The fact that I'm so in love with her means that i need to make it so she is truly happy. She keeps getting upset because she see's the person that i had been with between us getting back together and this sometimes ends with her saying she cant be with me. The problem I'm facing is that, we did have a serious conversation the day before yesterday and yesterday her phone had died so we didnt really have a chance to talk and to re-settle any bad feelings. She texted me last night saying her phone had died and thats it. she didnt reply to my texts at all and then i asked if she was going out and she said 'yes' she is 'really drunk'. 2 o clock this morning i get a phone call with her being upset saying that shes been kicked out of somewhere because id slept with a bar made (I actually haven't). So I said id go get her because she had been left by herself. When i get there after she tells me to hurry to get to her, she tells me that she hates me, that all i ever do is hurt her and that when i tell her how i feel it makes her feel sick. Now i really don't know where i stand or what to do? she was half a sleep this morning when i told her what she said and she said it wasnt true what she did say. that shes an emotional drunk. but i really dont know where i stand now. I love her to pieces and all i want is for it to work but i cant trust that she wants me or feels anything towards me. This is driving me crazy. any advice on what i should do or consider will be greatly appreciated. Thanks
NavyAirTraffic Posted November 7, 2012 Posted November 7, 2012 Sorry to say but this is probably doomed. It's hard enough when 1 person needs to deal with jealously but when both are having trouble coping with what their ex did while broken up, it adds way too many variables. My suggestion is make 2 rules: Rule 1- you will talk one time about it (clear the air), or if you've already spoken about it Rule 2- never talk about it again, never bring it up. Nothing good comes from talking about an irrelevant past. Either both truly work to move forward or you'll be dead in the past.
hutch Posted November 8, 2012 Posted November 8, 2012 You both a going to have to let go of the past to move forward. If she can not truly forgive you then it will never work. This will be a reoccurring fight for all time without forgiveness.
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