jefermelesyeux Posted November 7, 2012 Posted November 7, 2012 this is a random question i've been wondering about for a while now. would anybody ever tell someone they were interested in them, when they truly weren't? just to be nice? this whole concept makes no sense to me. i doubt anyone would do it, but i'm just curious. have you ever done this? or have you ever had an experience with someone who did it to you?
HeldbyGravity Posted November 7, 2012 Posted November 7, 2012 I would never do that to someone :/. I wouldn't want to lead them on.
taya Posted November 7, 2012 Posted November 7, 2012 this is a random question i've been wondering about for a while now. would anybody ever tell someone they were interested in them, when they truly weren't? just to be nice? this whole concept makes no sense to me. i doubt anyone would do it, but i'm just curious. have you ever done this? or have you ever had an experience with someone who did it to you? yeah you should never do that to someone but so many people do it they just dont have the balls to say how they really feel .i wont lie a few times i dident have the balls to tell a few guys how i really felt because i dident want to hurt them but i never lead them on i think they could have tell by my actions
taya Posted November 7, 2012 Posted November 7, 2012 Not telling them IS leading them on. Women LOVE LOVE LOVE to whine and cry about how guys need to open up more....and how a guy needs to communicate more....how many of you guys have heard this over and over?? BUTTTTT when it its the womans turn to communicate, all that preaching gets flushed own the toilet. Most women only want the guy to open up and communicate when it BENEFITS her....not when it puts her on the spot. When you sit back, and put it all down on paper. You find a TON of contradictions that come out of a womans mouth. well your not me i know i dident lead them on i dident tell them because at the time i felt scared beacuse i dident want to hurt someone feeling that dont mean i did things or went any were with them ..but its life we all learn now i know to tell someone how i feel... but i dident tell those guys but i know i dident lead them on i make sure they knew from my actions i dident like them ..so i know what i did and dident do
dasein Posted November 7, 2012 Posted November 7, 2012 Agree with others generally, and whether one or the other is interested or not is generally not the best way to obtain interest in the early going. Be fun, light and flirty, ask out. Avoid "do you like me, I like you" type conversations as they create pressure. Flirt like a madman though, and you will know directly if they are interested.
Spreeley713 Posted November 8, 2012 Posted November 8, 2012 I would never tell someone I'm interested in them if I'm not just to spare their feelings. It's a cowardly BS move. I'd rather be upfront and honest with someone than lead them on and hurting them worse when they find out the truth. I've had guys bs me because they didn't want me to get upset or they thought it was the nice thing to do. It sucks.
todreaminblue Posted November 8, 2012 Posted November 8, 2012 this is a random question i've been wondering about for a while now. would anybody ever tell someone they were interested in them, when they truly weren't? just to be nice? this whole concept makes no sense to me. i doubt anyone would do it, but i'm just curious. have you ever done this? or have you ever had an experience with someone who did it to you? when i split up with my ex years ago i attempted dating i wasn't ready and i was not stable,I played with players more self destructive behaviour on my behalf i didnt hold myself in high regard put it that way.....there was one guy i was talking to who i actually respected and i liked....i let him go because i knew i wasnt in a good place and didnt want to take him there........i remember that he got upset and that made me feel pretty crappy because i did like him...i did the right thing by him not for myself but by him i did.....he was a nice guy... thankfully that stage i went through is over but i wont forget i hurt someone...i am careful abtou feelings and it is not me to hurt soemone i hate it...i hope by me letting him move on he found someone wonderful and sweet like he deserved to have...at least he didnt get to know how messed up i really was.....deb
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