manofmystrey Posted August 3, 2004 Posted August 3, 2004 Hi there ladies. Where to being. I got out of a long term relationship of 7 years in jan and i am ready to move on and start meeting new people and start dating again. But here is my problem i have no idea where to start. I have no idea how to approach a woman. For a few reasons, but mostly cause i am scard. I am not sure how to start a conversation and i dont want to come to a girl and lay on the crappy pick up lines or anything like that. I guess what i am asking is how to break the ice and get up the confidence to talk woman. what kinds of things do woman like to do. i have heard the "can i buy u a coffee" line so many times. i dont want to come acros like a fool with lines from the early 90s. What are some general things that woman like. Or general ways to build the confidence to talk to woman.
InLove13 Posted August 3, 2004 Posted August 3, 2004 You said it best - you gotta have the confidence. Just be yourself, know that you are worthy of recieving love, and that you are really special. Smile a lot, make eye contact. When you approach a woman that you would like to talk with, compliment her. Talk with her a bit to see if you would like to get to know her better, then maybe chat about an interesting movie or concert coming up that you would like to see - if she seems interested also, say it would be fun if the two of you would check it out together - just be casual and see how she reacts...go from there. I hope this helps you out!
FolderWife Posted August 3, 2004 Posted August 3, 2004 Well.... The best pick up line, is catching her looking at you, and smiling. If she smiles back, then feel free to approach her. If she doesn't smile back, she may not have noticed that you were looking at her. Therefore, move a little closer, catch her glance again, and smile. If she still doesn't smile back, she's probably not interested. If she does smile back, then she's ready to be approached....or even if she's not ready to be approached, she's nice enough to smile at you, so she's not going to be too cruel when she turns you down Then walk up to her, and say "hi" Let her say hi back, and then introduce yourself, and ask her an appropriate question...if at a party, "Are you here alone?" If at a bar, "May I join you?" etc etc.... If she seems interested, get her number. If she doesn't seem interested, be polite, and say that you hope you see her around Smile the entire time....never make any facial expressions, because since she doesn't know you, she may misinterpret them. *for instance, if you make a silly face at something she said, because you thought she was making a joke, she might get insulted, because she was SERIOUS* so wait until she laughs to laugh. Don't call her that night, or the following night. Call her the night after that. Movies are a great first date, because there's NO TALKING INVOLVED......but get there early, so you can talk a little bit. Also, go out for ice cream afterwards or something small, so that you can get to know each other. See, this way, going to dinner or something AFTER the movie, gives you the movie in common to talk about. If you go before the movie, there may be too many awkard silences, that would make you too nervous to enjoy the movie. Going to the movie first gives you something to discuss at dinner/drinks/ice cream, that way you don't have to work too hard to find something to talk about. The next date *should you chose to have one* could be something more fun, like bowling, or pool. Have fun!
FolderWife Posted August 3, 2004 Posted August 3, 2004 Oh yes, and women LOVE compliments *not, "that's a pretty necklace, but rather, " you have pretty hair"* Only five per date, though...otherwise, you'll come off as an obsessive freak
InLove13 Posted August 3, 2004 Posted August 3, 2004 I agree with Monday - no compliments on accessories or clothing (however saying she looks great in her outfit would work - not: that's a great shirt). Another example: You have a beautiful smile.
Author manofmystrey Posted August 3, 2004 Author Posted August 3, 2004 thank u ladies for the advice, i guess my biggest issue is the confidence issue. My ex always used to hate the things i did she did not like my cooking though i think i am not bad and my friends tend to agree. she hated things i liked like art and movies and going to places i have never been. That is what has killed my confidence
InLove13 Posted August 3, 2004 Posted August 3, 2004 Well, it is a good thing that you are no longer with her then! She wasn't right for you - the person who is will love and respect everything you do, and boost your confidence. Good Luck!
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