Author jayy23 Posted November 9, 2012 Author Posted November 9, 2012 I feel for you man. Mines got a me a lot of the same stuff too. Some stuff I returned to her, which might have been a mistake. Only because her parents opened it before she did.. which caused more drama. But the rest of the stuff I kept or use still. For me photo's and all were more reminders, and I just sent them back to her. I just kept things aside now and it doesn't bother me. I just tell myself I deserve some of these things because she left me. It;s not like I hurt her and threw her away. So if it;s something expensive I've just kept it. I asked her if she wanted any of the stuff she got me back but she told me no that I was just to keep everything including the pictures etc.. it's funny cause she finished with me 2weeks after her 21st birthday and I spent £300 on a gift for her just like everything else I ever got her was all expensive she asked me if I wanted any of it back but I told her no to just keep everything.
Author jayy23 Posted November 9, 2012 Author Posted November 9, 2012 Oh man read ure post, I'm totaly feelin ya. Ure in the exact situation I was in but u know what? Even tho u think shes the one for you, maybe even your soulmate. It will get better, with time it heals day by day... Just _DON'T_ sit at home waiting for the scraps like a puppy. Move on it's the ONLY way to get past thoose feelings.. Get out there, do stuff enjoy YOURESELF. If it will be you and her again then maybe it will, only time can tell that. But atm she seems really stressed and what not.. Theres plenty of them out there, even tho it's hard to even think like that atm... I've been down your road man but I'm working hard with myself to get myself in better shape mentally and physically, u shud too! Regards from the viking in the north Over and out! Yeh man I'm goina just try my best to look forward and LIVE LIFE HARD. I've tried my best with her and thrs nothing more I can do. It's down to her now. And yeh she is really stressed out with uni just now thats all she wants to concentrate on at the moment. Haha Noway as I've been writing this out she has just sent me a msg... lets see what it says.
LostOne1 Posted November 9, 2012 Posted November 9, 2012 I asked her if she wanted any of the stuff she got me back but she told me no that I was just to keep everything including the pictures etc.. it's funny cause she finished with me 2weeks after her 21st birthday and I spent £300 on a gift for her just like everything else I ever got her was all expensive she asked me if I wanted any of it back but I told her no to just keep everything. THat's the risk we take in a relationship. It's technically an investment that may or may not work out. Sure it;s by the heart, but we financially invest too and well.. it;s better than you spending £2000 on a ring for her and then breaking up. In my case I didn't spend as much on my ex as she on me. But the difference was I had no cash to spend as a broke student with no loans. While she had loans so she could pay for stuff more easily. At the end of the day, I stopped thinking of what she got me and I got her. I think more of the fact that she didn't have it in her to give us a chance again and me a chance after I showed her the changes and effort I was putting into it. And it means some other girl will appreciate my efforts now. I learned A LOT from this relationship and will just push on hoping I find someone that meets my needs more. I kinda have made a checklist now this time before I choose someone, and I need majority of the things there. Some are unrealistic, which I wouldn't see being checked unless it was a miracle and some are very reasonable.
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