Leigh 87 Posted November 7, 2012 Posted November 7, 2012 How do you show your partner affection? I was talking to people about this, namely the couples on facebook and social media who constantly declare their love to one another. Lets start with facebook. I have talked to people and my own partner about the facebook couples who say things like " I am so lucky to have the bestest boyfriend ever, blablablabla I love you so so much baby":sick: You know - couples who write long messages for every one to see, about how much they love and appreciate their partners. I am not looking badly upon them, it is just not me and I cannot help but laugh at it a little, and I would feel massively uncomfortable if I met a guy who did this to me:sick: Of course, I would rather see those in love couples than people who treat their partners like crap! And I am wrtiting this because I am bitter or jealous; my partner showers me with love and affection in public and kisses and is affectionate in front of his friends, he just feels silly declaring it on facebook. Of course, there are other ways to show affection! What about in public, for instance? What is acceptable to you? Do you find it rude when couples make out in public? I do not mind couples kissing and cuddling in public, but it would suck for people who are newly single after a bad break up! As for my partner, we hug and kiss in public, but we do not make out or act all over each other all of the time in front of everyone. Lastly, what about in private? My partner is big about hugging in bed, he needs me to hug him a lot and hates sleeping separate. Just wondering what y'all do in terms of showing your partner affection. 1
Els Posted November 7, 2012 Posted November 7, 2012 I personally feel that the facebook thing is just attentionwhoring, because it is clearly for public consumption, not that of your bf/gf. If you wanted to tell your bf/gf, you could very well just tell them IRL, or even use the damn phone if you're apart at the time. Once in a while is okay, but when a couple does it ALL the time, I have a niggly feeling that they're more concerned about the public face of their relationship than the inner strength of it. Other than that, I don't care when people kiss and cuddle in public - sometimes people just feel the urge to cuddle and happen to be outside at the time. The bf and I grew up in a conservative culture, though, so we generally keep our public stuff on the down-low, mostly sticking only to hand-holding and arms around each other. Would most definitely not kiss in public, even though it's fairly common where we are now.
Mrlonelyone Posted November 7, 2012 Posted November 7, 2012 In my younger days I had a BF who carried me in his arms through the lunchroom in highschool. I had a GF, wrote about here here as 'S' who would sit in my lap right in class in college and we would make out right in front of everyone. Since I really became an adult I don't like to do that or see that. To be honest it's not polite. People in the Rlship may think their love is beautiful but others just want to eat, work, do whatever. The people who do the whole constant affirmations of love on Facebook thing can be sickening. Especially if it's after they have been an item for a while or are married. We get it, your married or whatever. I am certain I would feel the same way were I in a relationship, but I admit it's that much more irritating because I am not, and it feels like I never ever will be.
threebyfate Posted November 7, 2012 Posted November 7, 2012 We hold hands, a quick peck on the cheek, quick hugs on meeting or parting or he puts his arm around me or guides me lightly and politely with his hands. We do banter and flirt as a generality and pay genuine compliments to each other, here and there. So, basically normal stuff, nothing terribly PDA.
Necris Posted November 7, 2012 Posted November 7, 2012 I personally do not care if people display affection publically it doesn't bother me, though personally I don't do it but that's because I've never had a girlfriend or anything close in my life. I do remember 2 times were public displays angered me. About half a year ago I was driving to a McDonalds to get some food when suddenly this huge dually pickup decides to stop in the middle of the parking lot blocking me and these two women decided to get out and start kissing. I'm like dafuq!? No one wants to see two old lesbians making out in the parking lot, that level of rudeness was uncalled for and I just want to pick some food up and go home, and they are blocking me. 2nd time wasn't a public display of affection but worse, I was chilling in my dorm room playing videogames on a Friday night as usual, and then here comes my roommate at 1am drunk and with a girl, he introduces me to her then they go and have sex right there in the room with me right there, there was no warning at all, and then he tries to cover up the sex noises with loud country music as well. Afterwards the girl tries to plead with him to stay in the room and he kicks her out. Instead of apologizing to me for this, he just looks at me and says "****ing women, man" and then takes a shower.
sweetkiwi Posted November 7, 2012 Posted November 7, 2012 i'm not even friends with my man on facebook. Its basically for talking to my family and friends in california. Its just not important to me. And yeah sometimes when i'm bitter i get mildly irritated about people's love love love all over. I'm the girl who loves pda. There's nothing wrong with it unless it impedes the flow of traffic. I love affection. My current man plays with my hair, holds my hand, we snuggle on the couch, in bed we fall asleep holding hands. Its sweet. He always gives me a kiss hello and goodbye even if i'm sleeping. Its important for me to be physically close to my man. But i also enjoy my alone time and being able to be near eachother and not humping. 1
rocketman122 Posted November 7, 2012 Posted November 7, 2012 people in the US are quite reserved with showing affection in public. come to europe im not going to comment about facebook. in the real world im a very warm touchy feely person and my lady is like that as well. me more so. she goes crazy when I touch her. public or not, my hands and lips are all over her. she can never get enough. at restaurants, I always sit 90° so I can touch and caress her. the more I touch her the happier she is.
todreaminblue Posted November 7, 2012 Posted November 7, 2012 How do you show your partner affection? I was talking to people about this, namely the couples on facebook and social media who constantly declare their love to one another. Lets start with facebook. I have talked to people and my own partner about the facebook couples who say things like " I am so lucky to have the bestest boyfriend ever, blablablabla I love you so so much baby":sick: You know - couples who write long messages for every one to see, about how much they love and appreciate their partners. I am not looking badly upon them, it is just not me and I cannot help but laugh at it a little, and I would feel massively uncomfortable if I met a guy who did this to me:sick: Of course, I would rather see those in love couples than people who treat their partners like crap! And I am wrtiting this because I am bitter or jealous; my partner showers me with love and affection in public and kisses and is affectionate in front of his friends, he just feels silly declaring it on facebook. Of course, there are other ways to show affection! What about in public, for instance? What is acceptable to you? Do you find it rude when couples make out in public? I do not mind couples kissing and cuddling in public, but it would suck for people who are newly single after a bad break up! As for my partner, we hug and kiss in public, but we do not make out or act all over each other all of the time in front of everyone. Lastly, what about in private? My partner is big about hugging in bed, he needs me to hug him a lot and hates sleeping separate. Just wondering what y'all do in terms of showing your partner affection. I think holding hands hugging and quick pecks are appropriate basically if you have to look away because you can see people playing tonsil hockey i think its awkward for onlookers and awkward if it were being done to me.....i wouldn't feel comfortable with that as far as in the bedroom if you sleep separate that isnt a relationship and my ex wasnt big on hugging after..... snores were common...i don't mind hugging and i don't mind if they don't feel like it..i am flexible..as long as there is some form of affection i miss spooning smilin........anyway pda's are personal i guess..affection on the street shoudlnt be what is in the bedroom there should be some distinction that's my opinion...keep the saliva swapping tonsil hockey to behind close doors..making other people feel awkward isn't a past time of mine...its not how i was bought up..deb.
zebracolors Posted November 7, 2012 Posted November 7, 2012 going to agree with Deb. some displays of affection are acceptable when they don't make on lookers feel awkward for any reason. But holding hands, light kissing, touching hair, arms, etc would all be okay to me. These usual casual things are best if you both want other people to know you and he/she are an "item", without the need to go too far.
GirlontheLam Posted November 7, 2012 Posted November 7, 2012 Light PDA is fine in my book. When you are bordering into get a room territory it is overkill. 1
Author Leigh 87 Posted November 7, 2012 Author Posted November 7, 2012 Thanks for all your responses ! I am about to start reading them all.. However, I do want to make sure you all know that I have nothing against those lovey facebook couples~! I think it is really sweet, it just is not my style.
Author Leigh 87 Posted November 10, 2012 Author Posted November 10, 2012 Recent facebook status I saw a few mins ago. GIRL: Waking up to next to the one boy who makes me happy each and every day, I couldn't ask for better :) I love you baby BOY: Waking up next to you everyday Is the best and one and only gift ill ever need from you, my beautiful baby girl i love you with all my heart and soul forever and alwayz Can someone pass me a bucket? And she added me on facebook because I know her best friend, who agrees wholeheartedly with me about public displays of affection..... My partner calls me "beautify baby girl" and other such names (princess, beautiful angel, all the GAY sounding names haha) But never in front of people, or declaring it on social media hahahha! Guys who readily do that, to me, first of all: turn me off with their open displays of affection, and make them less manly to me. Secondly, I would assume he would do the same thing to EVERY GIRL, and that I was not special.
tori0001 Posted November 11, 2012 Posted November 11, 2012 That is so sweet and romantic. Yelling from the roof tops letting people know how much you love each other.
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