ReadMyThread Posted November 7, 2012 Posted November 7, 2012 Ok guys you knew my plan and I went through with it. I broke NC and now she is going crazy. I sent her a Facebook message saying, "I've been indecisive on wheather I should respond to these messages you sent me but you said, "Please talk to me..." Therefore if you want to talk, you know my number." Then 40 minutes later she texted me, "Hi...:/". I came on hereto post about it before texting her back and she sent me another text 10 minutes later saying, "I'm sorry...". I still haven't and then BAM! 4 more texts messages from her saying this... "It's coming from my heart. Now that I lok back on it. You were the best thing that has ever happened to me. I ****** up. I cry at least 5 nights a week knowing I push the best thing in my life away from me for someone else who doesn't/didn't even like me. I don't know what else to say other than I'm sorry and I fuc*** up and I'm not just saying that because I know you wanna hear it. I'm saying it because it's true. I miss you David. I'm so sorry." I haven't responded to that either and now she has texted me again saying. "I'm going to leave it at that. I guess. Hope life is treating you well. I ****** up about something else too though....." WHAT!? I'm scared to find out about what that is. Maybe she got pregnant by him. That's all I can think of. Oh my god I'm scared. What should I say guys? She said for a guy who "Doesn't/didn't like me" DOESN'T!!!? So she is still talking to this guy? Is that what this means? I don't know what to say back guys. Help me. I should ask what she wants right? Why she was trying to contact me? Or do I go off what she said?
Dkp Posted November 7, 2012 Posted November 7, 2012 I'm in no position to give advice I'm in somewhat the same situation expect mine hasn't apologized or wanted me back yet. I kno how you feel though you want her back but what I ask myself is if he were to come back would it really work? Would you feel special anymore? Is it just for right now because they feel guilty and in a month or so go back and do the sane thing?if you think it could work then I say just go with your heart. You can get all the advice but your the one that will have to go thru it. You have to ask yourself is it worth it.
Push_Through_It Posted November 7, 2012 Posted November 7, 2012 Ok guys you knew my plan and I went through with it. I broke NC and now she is going crazy. I sent her a Facebook message saying, "I've been indecisive on wheather I should respond to these messages you sent me but you said, "Please talk to me..." Therefore if you want to talk, you know my number." Then 40 minutes later she texted me, "Hi...:/". I came on hereto post about it before texting her back and she sent me another text 10 minutes later saying, "I'm sorry...". I still haven't and then BAM! 4 more texts messages from her saying this... "It's coming from my heart. Now that I lok back on it. You were the best thing that has ever happened to me. I ****** up. I cry at least 5 nights a week knowing I push the best thing in my life away from me for someone else who doesn't/didn't even like me. I don't know what else to say other than I'm sorry and I fuc*** up and I'm not just saying that because I know you wanna hear it. I'm saying it because it's true. I miss you David. I'm so sorry." I haven't responded to that either and now she has texted me again saying. "I'm going to leave it at that. I guess. Hope life is treating you well. I ****** up about something else too though....." WHAT!? I'm scared to find out about what that is. Maybe she got pregnant by him. That's all I can think of. Oh my god I'm scared. What should I say guys? She said for a guy who "Doesn't/didn't like me" DOESN'T!!!? So she is still talking to this guy? Is that what this means? I don't know what to say back guys. Help me. I should ask what she wants right? Why she was trying to contact me? Or do I go off what she said? She is just using a cliffhanger to get you to talk to her. Dont BITE. If you absolutely need to say something, tell her that you need a day or 2 to gather yourself again and then you will reach out. Dont do anything desperate because you are caught up in your emotions right now.
NavyAirTraffic Posted November 7, 2012 Posted November 7, 2012 Grow a pair dude!! Either find out what she wants (the truth, dig deep) or don't. You tested the water with that initial message, either jump or get away. 2
Push_Through_It Posted November 7, 2012 Posted November 7, 2012 especially when the biggest 2 emotions you have right now are excitement and fear. That combination will only lead you to say and do things you will regret. I suggest you shut your phone off for the night and dont read anything until at least lunchtime tomorrow. If you do it first thing in the morning you wont be thinking as clearly and may respond out of instinct instead of coming the from calm, cool, collected place that you need to be in before dealing with this situation.
Simon Phoenix Posted November 7, 2012 Posted November 7, 2012 You should have sent the gibson thing right off the bat. Now you are in emotional tamponville. I knew this would happen. You weren't proactive and now you are getting all of her emotional whatever dumped on you.
ImYours Posted November 7, 2012 Posted November 7, 2012 You are never going to have your closure or move on unless you two speak. I HATE TEXT messaging. Seriously a killer in forms of major communication. You can either sit and wait for her to call and wonder, keep receiving text, ORRRR Just call and say what needs to be said. "I dont have time to text, what is it that you need?" Texting to me is a way to not deal with issues. So easy to hide from your feelings... Has she calle yet?
KatZee Posted November 7, 2012 Posted November 7, 2012 Well... alright... she's emotionally vomiting all over you right now. Relax... and answer this question. What do you WANT? Do you want to try to work it out, OR do you want to continue moving on in your new life without her? (What's the background info here--- reason for split, time since split, etc., I haven't followed your threads). Find out what else she messed up with, and then I would lay down a final message. One either telling her, "We can't be friends I'm too betrayed, I'm moving on with my life, good luck to you" OR one in which you guys try to reconcile. Those are really the only two options you have.
NavyAirTraffic Posted November 7, 2012 Posted November 7, 2012 Nothing wrong with texting, it allows people to think clearly before sending. However talking is paramount. I don't know your entire back story, but if she left you SHE MUST DO ALL OF THE TALKING!! You are not responsible to fix this she is, she must explain what is different this time. He hasn't posted in a bit. he's in it deep. Good luck.
Survivor12 Posted November 7, 2012 Posted November 7, 2012 I'm sorry to be negative, but....it sounds to me like what she's sorry about is being dumped by the other guy. Don't fall for it. Don't settle for being second choice. Sure, she wants you back...to feed her fractured ego. Take a step back. Don't be too eager to respond. Just because she's throwing you crumbs doesn't mean that you have to pick them up. 2
thembones Posted November 7, 2012 Posted November 7, 2012 You want her back don't you? You texted her and basically egged on the response that you wanted. You got it (or think so), then why not just say what you have to say and try to meet her in person. That is what I did and I failed. You have a LOT more going for you at this point. Don't leave it go for too long (imo) as she might just get pissed and wonder why you texted her if you were not going to reply in the first place.
Author ReadMyThread Posted November 7, 2012 Author Posted November 7, 2012 ReadMyThread didn't close the "friend" door, she relieved herself of guilt and doesn't want him to think poorly of her. The Good News is he will get the "closure" that he wanted. Well, turns out this was exactly what it was I guess lol. After everything she said, I waited about 40 minutes to respond and I said, "You said please talk to me... Is this all you wanted to talk to me about? How bad you ****ed up and how sorry you are?.". That was an hour ago and she has not responded back so I guess she was just relieving herself of her guilt I guess. Which isn't a problem to me because I did in fact get the closure I wanted and it made me realize how pathetic she is. I wouldn't want to be with someone like this person. She is immature and insecure about herself. EVERYTHING she probably just said was just a lie to ease her guilt. That's sad. But hey, now I KNOW she doesn't want to be with me and now I know for future break-ups. Lesson learned. I don't seem to be so upset as I thought I would if this were to happen. You know at first I was like, "That was all just for her. I'm going to send her a message telling her how much I hate her and I know that that was all just for her selfish needs and so she could think I forgave her and not hate her and that I will never forgive her for what she did and I would say all these other mean things" but what good would that do right? lol. Life will go on and I don't regret breaking NC. Now I can finally move on without the thoughts of...."Us" lol. 1
Author ReadMyThread Posted November 7, 2012 Author Posted November 7, 2012 Well, turns out this was exactly what it was I guess lol. After everything she said, I waited about 40 minutes to respond and I said, "You said please talk to me... Is this all you wanted to talk to me about? How bad you ****ed up and how sorry you are?.". That was an hour ago and she has not responded back so I guess she was just relieving herself of her guilt I guess. Which isn't a problem to me because I did in fact get the closure I wanted and it made me realize how pathetic she is. I wouldn't want to be with someone like this person. She is immature and insecure about herself. EVERYTHING she probably just said was just a lie to ease her guilt. That's sad. But hey, now I KNOW she doesn't want to be with me and now I know for future break-ups. Lesson learned. I don't seem to be so upset as I thought I would if this were to happen. You know at first I was like, "That was all just for her. I'm going to send her a message telling her how much I hate her and I know that that was all just for her selfish needs and so she could think I forgave her and not hate her and that I will never forgive her for what she did and I would say all these other mean things" but what good would that do right? lol. Life will go on and I don't regret breaking NC. Now I can finally move on without the thoughts of...."Us" lol.
thembones Posted November 7, 2012 Posted November 7, 2012 Well, turns out this was exactly what it was I guess lol. After everything she said, I waited about 40 minutes to respond and I said, "You said please talk to me... Is this all you wanted to talk to me about? How bad you ****ed up and how sorry you are?.". That was an hour ago and she has not responded back so I guess she was just relieving herself of her guilt I guess. Which isn't a problem to me because I did in fact get the closure I wanted and it made me realize how pathetic she is. I wouldn't want to be with someone like this person. She is immature and insecure about herself. EVERYTHING she probably just said was just a lie to ease her guilt. That's sad. But hey, now I KNOW she doesn't want to be with me and now I know for future break-ups. Lesson learned. I don't seem to be so upset as I thought I would if this were to happen. You know at first I was like, "That was all just for her. I'm going to send her a message telling her how much I hate her and I know that that was all just for her selfish needs and so she could think I forgave her and not hate her and that I will never forgive her for what she did and I would say all these other mean things" but what good would that do right? lol. Life will go on and I don't regret breaking NC. Now I can finally move on without the thoughts of...."Us" lol. Glad you did what you needed to do and sorry it did not work out. Thats life, welcome to my boat on the nearly same scenario. Glad you were prepared for it though. Women are a tough breed my friend...
NavyAirTraffic Posted November 7, 2012 Posted November 7, 2012 Don't be so sure yet. It's only been 1 hour, anything could be happening. She could be contemplating a response or what to say, she could be busy or busy enough to not give the response the proper attention it requires. Your response wasn't the most inviting either, almost like you challenged her, that's another factor to consider. If she responds please don't push, it'll seem like a challenge to her. To get to the root nudge her "what do you want to talk about" "I don't understand" "please explain". Be very vague but inquisitive, not demanding. Allow her to spill the beans, help her get it out, try not to force it. Good luck.
Author ReadMyThread Posted November 7, 2012 Author Posted November 7, 2012 Glad you did what you needed to do and sorry it did not work out. Thats life, welcome to my boat on the nearly same scenario. Glad you were prepared for it though. Women are a tough breed my friend... Yeah they are. Lol. Ridiculous. I'll be honest I wasn't prepared lol. I thought all that stuf she was saying was true but when she didn't write back it was like... Wait a minute lol. But it didn't hurt. Just deactivated my Facebook. Now i can live lol.
Author ReadMyThread Posted November 7, 2012 Author Posted November 7, 2012 Don't be so sure yet. It's only been 1 hour, anything could be happening. She could be contemplating a response or what to say, she could be busy or busy enough to not give the response the proper attention it requires. Your response wasn't the most inviting either, almost like you challenged her, that's another factor to consider. If she responds please don't push, it'll seem like a challenge to her. To get to the root nudge her "what do you want to talk about" "I don't understand" "please explain". Be very vague but inquisitive, not demanding. Allow her to spill the beans, help her get it out, try not to force it. Good luck. NO MORE FALSE HOPE! PLEASE!!! lol just kidding . I guess you could be right but I'm going to see it this way for my own sake. She seen it, and deleted it lol. At first I was like, "maybe she just fell asleep" lol. Silly me. I do feel better though. If she does happen to respond I honestly don't think I would want to respond back. I asked if that's all she wanted to talk about and she didn't reply so, apparently it was lol.
Author ReadMyThread Posted November 7, 2012 Author Posted November 7, 2012 I tried to get you to shut this down by not opening yourself up to being a "friend". You ignored what we told you. She is already in her car driving down the road. Yelling at her and then slamming the door at this point is pointless and only makes you look immature and weak. Yeah your right. But even if I would have gone with what you said exactly, I would have got the same results lol. Okay wait... This b**** just responded back and said, "I guess that was all.....". Why does she put all these dots as its like she is waiting for a response? I ignore this right gibs? I think she has made her point clear.
suladas Posted November 7, 2012 Posted November 7, 2012 Yeah your right. But even if I would have gone with what you said exactly, I would have got the same results lol. Okay wait... This b**** just responded back and said, "I guess that was all.....". Why does she put all these dots as its like she is waiting for a response? I ignore this right gibs? I think she has made her point clear. I don't get what she is doing to you man, it's really weird. It sure doesn't seem like she wants to get back together or anything, almost unsure of what she wants?
Author ReadMyThread Posted November 7, 2012 Author Posted November 7, 2012 I don't get what she is doing to you man, it's really weird. It sure doesn't seem like she wants to get back together or anything, almost unsure of what she wants? Yeah your telling me!! Lol. She sent another text right after that that said, "actually I don't even know why I messaged you again clearly it was also a mistake...bye I guess David." What's going on here!?
CptSaveAho Posted November 7, 2012 Posted November 7, 2012 Nothing..... See what happened... we told you to stay NC, you get a free pass because you're young and its your first time but this is a learning lesson 0 good comes from this and will ever come from this
Author ReadMyThread Posted November 7, 2012 Author Posted November 7, 2012 SHE SAID IT!!!!! Here is what she said!! "I want you to forgive me. People make mistakes and I made a huge one and I wish I hadn't. I want you back but that isn't going to happen.. But please that's all I need is forgiveness and actually forgiveness not you just saying it so I leave you Alone." She said we wants me back! Does she mean it!? What do I say!?
Author ReadMyThread Posted November 7, 2012 Author Posted November 7, 2012 Nothing..... See what happened... we told you to stay NC, you get a free pass because you're young and its your first time but this is a learning lesson 0 good comes from this and will ever come from this Respond to my latest update please.
CptSaveAho Posted November 7, 2012 Posted November 7, 2012 SHE SAID IT!!!!! Here is what she said!! "I want you to forgive me. People make mistakes and I made a huge one and I wish I hadn't. I want you back but that isn't going to happen.. But please that's all I need is forgiveness and actually forgiveness not you just saying it so I leave you Alone." She said we wants me back! Does she mean it!? What do I say!? Alright stop This is called self talk... she's not talking to you, shes talking to herself Put your phone/fb away and take a break
Author ReadMyThread Posted November 7, 2012 Author Posted November 7, 2012 Alright stop This is called self talk... she's not talking to you, shes talking to herself Put your phone/fb away and take a break I feel she is sayn that because she thinks I won't take her back. She is a very doubtful person.
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