Chris_1979 Posted November 6, 2012 Posted November 6, 2012 (edited) Ok so i met this girl a few weeks ago, we swapped emails and had some chit chat until a few days later she asked me if i fancied going for a drink. Our night out was great, we had loads in commom, spent four hours chatting and got on great. On the way home I asked her if she would like to meet the next weekend and she said she would have to check her diary, i gave her a kiss on the cheek and went home. A few hours later she texted me to say what a lovely night she had, i replied that i did too and left it at that. Ok so now the confusion starts! I left it 2 days and texted her to ask her out for dinner the next weekend (this was on sat evening). I had no reply until the next evening when she sent me an email asking me out for dinner the following weekend!! She said she was not sure what days she was free and would let me know. On the tuesday she texted me and said she was near my work and would i like to meet for coffee, we met, had a lovely lunch and she again re-iterated she was not sure what night she was free over the weekend but woukd let me know. When she left she gave me a big hug and a kiss on the cheek. About an hour after i got back to work i texted her to say "it was lovely to see you again". I got no reply to this text but later that evening recieved an email with a link to a video we had discussed over lunch, we chatted a little via email, nothing was said of any importance and i went to bed. Come thursday i had still not heard from her about when she was free over the weekend. I sent her an email to say hi and see what her plans were. I got an instant reply saying she was free on saturday but she is so busy she can only spare a few hours, i replied if she was too busy i did not mind having a rain chek for later in the week! Guess what! I got no reply! Come saturday i finally decide to call her as as far as i knew we were still on for dinner. She never picked up, went to answerphone, so i left a polite message saying that as she never replied to my email i diddnt know if we were still on for dinner! About 5 mins later i got an email saying she had a massive essay due on the monday and was really stressed and could we please re-arrange for the following weekend, she apologised and even added a few kisses! I replied "no worries, give me a bell when you free! X" Ok its now tuesday evening, ive had no reply to that last email, no contact whatsoever!!! Can someone offer me some advice on this? I do really like her alot, we got on so well the two dates we went on and she seemed really up for a third, infact left it open for a third! Do i call her again or just sit it out? Edited November 6, 2012 by Chris_1979
InJest Posted November 6, 2012 Posted November 6, 2012 Should have ****ed her(or at least went for it) instead of kissing her on the cheek. Ignore her until she gets contact. When she does, ask her over to you place to watch a movie on whatever night. If she says no, then tell her to let you know when she can. Do not respond to anything other than her telling you what day she can.
Author Chris_1979 Posted November 6, 2012 Author Posted November 6, 2012 Good advice, just seems very odd the way she is acting. Have been outta the dating game for ages and i donlt like the games!
InJest Posted November 6, 2012 Posted November 6, 2012 Go after other girls. Don't put anymore effort into this one. No emails. No cute videos. If she does come over and won't at least give you head or more, drop her altogether, and I honestly suggest you kick her out right then. Games suck but if you're direct, and willing to drop her cold, you have a much better chance of moving things along and with little effort. 2
mortensorchid Posted November 7, 2012 Posted November 7, 2012 She's not interested. If she was she would at least do the courtesy of responding to you somehow. Her behavior sounds odd to begin with, but you should just let it go.
dasein Posted November 7, 2012 Posted November 7, 2012 Agree with injest, open mouth kiss on the first date, if she turns cheek, one more invite if the date was really good otherwise, else move on. Consider taking the reins with specific plans for a specific time going forward. If she says no without suggesting a definite alternate date and time, wait a few days and repeat a specific invite for a specific plan, if she declines this time, without a specific alternate time, it's not on, go to other options. Avoid texts asking out for dates, call on the phone. Good luck.
Leegh Posted November 7, 2012 Posted November 7, 2012 I would "turn the tables" and let her wonder about you. I would not call her for a while, and she if she contacts you. She could be playing hard to get, but she does seem to be taking it to an extreme. I would do literally nothing now, and possibly if you haven't heard anything from her by Thanksgiving or Christmas, you could send her a brief e-mail wishing her a happy holiday season, or something casual like that, and see what she does. It would be a turnoff to me if someone is so extremely "busy" as she is, and even if a relationship was established, would she have the time? Is there any way, she could already have a boyfriend/husband and literally can't get time away? Just a thought.
Author Chris_1979 Posted November 7, 2012 Author Posted November 7, 2012 Thanks for all the advice guys. A bottle of wine last night helped me think clearly and i deleted her number and all her emails, i now have no way of contacting her unless she gets in contact with me. Sobriety made me feel a bit s**t though :-( Just hope sane women still exist in this world cos i swear i never meet one!
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