jayy23 Posted November 6, 2012 Posted November 6, 2012 Why can't she just give me a straight forward answer about if she wants to be friends or not? I'm not even to botherd if she doesn't but I need her to just tell me straight up so I can just stop thinkin about what she wants. She asked if we could not talk for 3months so she could think about things I respected that and even left it one extra month. So sent her a msg and got no reply and that's fine with me but all I ask of her is to just tell me if she don't want to talk atall anymore. I don't understand how it could be hard to just say to me if she don't want to talk instead of letting me guess. If she doesn't that's fine I really don't mind but I want her to say it. What's she playing at? I feel that if she can just let me know its the last step to moving on. I don't deserve to just be left in limbo. The being friends thing was her idea to begin with. Could she be thinkin anything else? Or is she not ready?
CptSaveAho Posted November 6, 2012 Posted November 6, 2012 how hard is it to move on and figure out what you want? why are you so worried about what an ex wants when its crystal clear that she doesnt want you. its been 4 months... she told you to be friends with her to let you down easy and soften the blow and make her feel better... what has it gotten you?
Author jayy23 Posted November 6, 2012 Author Posted November 6, 2012 how hard is it to move on and figure out what you want? why are you so worried about what an ex wants when its crystal clear that she doesnt want you. its been 4 months... she told you to be friends with her to let you down easy and soften the blow and make her feel better... what has it gotten you? I'm not worried and I know that but it was just to be mature about things and so I could just get an answer to my question to put my mind at rest nothing more than that. But just as I have been writing this she has just sent me a msg I haven't read it yet.
LostOne1 Posted November 6, 2012 Posted November 6, 2012 my ex did the same... and my ex never answered my questions, never sat down to give me closure... nothing. She got nicer over 2 months and more talkative.. but never willing to give me what I needed or wanted. Wether that was getting back, getting the truth out etc... I got bits and pieces, which I kinda have put together. But honestly you won't get much from her. She's going to enjoy knowing you'll chase her for answers and she can string you along like mines did. Once you let go, she can't hurt you no more. You just have to understand it's over like I did and accept she is evil for not giving you the truth and answers you need and seek out for. And if she can't do that, then why care about it anymore? 3
veggirl Posted November 6, 2012 Posted November 6, 2012 Do yourself a favor and accept her silence as a "no". She doesn't want to re-open communication with you, and if she says No, it will do that.
sweetkiwi Posted November 6, 2012 Posted November 6, 2012 its not a matter of evil. Or right. Sometimes you don't get answers in life. And more often you won't like the answer you get. Being friends sounds good in the beginning but its basically impossible until both people have gotten over everything and can forgive themselves and their ex for what each did wrong. In this case it sounds like she had a change of heart about the friendship. Thats her right. And i think she should give you the answers you seek. But she hasn't yet so maybe you'll never get them.
Author jayy23 Posted November 6, 2012 Author Posted November 6, 2012 its not a matter of evil. Or right. Sometimes you don't get answers in life. And more often you won't like the answer you get. Being friends sounds good in the beginning but its basically impossible until both people have gotten over everything and can forgive themselves and their ex for what each did wrong. In this case it sounds like she had a change of heart about the friendship. Thats her right. And i think she should give you the answers you seek. But she hasn't yet so maybe you'll never get them. I didn't do anything wrong. The funny thing is she doesn't think she has but she obviously has. I got my answer from her anyway she sent me a msg half n hour a go.
Frank13 Posted November 7, 2012 Posted November 7, 2012 I didn't do anything wrong. The funny thing is she doesn't think she has but she obviously has. I got my answer from her anyway she sent me a msg half n hour a go. What did her message say?
Author jayy23 Posted November 7, 2012 Author Posted November 7, 2012 What did her message say? I put another post up after this one. (When realisation kicks in) and put what she said in that thread.
Frank13 Posted November 7, 2012 Posted November 7, 2012 Ok, thanks. Would have been better to continue the thread here since that what we were following.
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