suckered Posted November 6, 2012 Posted November 6, 2012 I wonder if I am crazy. I am with a guy who tells me that we are compatible in every way except "it doesn't make his blood boil" when he thinks of me sexually. He says that it's mostly to me not being his ideal type. He says he loves me and wants to marry me. He rationalizes that every relationship is different and that passion is just not a strong point to this one. He also says that having it all is rarer than winning a lottery. It makes me want to break up with him. The thought of my man not being that turned on by me I am not sure if I am being irrational. He also says that there are a lot of relationships and marriages like this, it's just that men are less honest about it.
veggirl Posted November 6, 2012 Posted November 6, 2012 No I haven't and i would be suuuper uncomfortable with that. What's he gonna do when he DOES meet someone who "makes his blood boil"? No thanks. How long have you been together? Has he always felt this way?
rach24680 Posted November 6, 2012 Posted November 6, 2012 It's a tough one, if he says he wants to marry you, he must love you a lot and it's hard to find a guy who wants to spend the rest of their life with you. But man!!!! If my guy said that to me, i'd rip his **** off! Rationally, has he always felt like this? how long have you been together? do you have a good sex life? because if you've been together a long time, i know the passion does die down, but it doesn't go completely. If the sex life has always been a bit poor, then i'd reconsider. everyone needs passion and good sex to complete a marriage as that's the only person you SHOULD be sleeping with. think carefully before committing!
pteromom Posted November 6, 2012 Posted November 6, 2012 I would not marry him. If you do, you will be signing up for a lifetime of sexual incompatibility. If he needs an "ideal type" to make his blood boil, what will happen when aging takes its toll on you? How much will it take for you to go from seeming "acceptable" to "unattractive"? The right guy will boil for you. Not for just your LOOKS, but for YOU. Don't settle for someone who is telling you upfront he isn't that attracted to you.
mesmerized Posted November 6, 2012 Posted November 6, 2012 Break up with him, period. I cant fathom how you can even think of continuing this relationship. And let me tell you this, if he doesn't dump you now he certainly will one day. That or he will cheat. It's inevitable.
SensitiveTJ Posted November 6, 2012 Posted November 6, 2012 I wouldn't stay for a second if a girl told me I was just "acceptable." I don't think you should either. 1
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