What does he want now?

[Angeleye]

Hello Everyone,

 

I could use some advice? My ex and I broke up last February we were together for eight months but he was not ready to offer me the relationship that he feels I was looking for. I did in fact move on but my heart was so broken as I have never loved any man the way I did him. He was my closest confidante. He was very traditional and so was I. Our personalities complemented one another as I am pretty calm and he is quite aggressive. I literally did everything for him but truly loved doing it and he was very appreciative. We didn't speak after we broke up for quite some time but we reconnected in June only as friends. I still love him in fact I always will but I cannot wait around for him because he isnt ready. He told my friends that he hopes he can find another woman like me because everything about me was perfect other than the fact that I am ten yrs older but in fact look younger than him. We met up in August and he was so nice to me. He kept saying promise me you will look like this forever. Hello not possible we are all going to age. I will always do my best to stay in shape and healthy but that is all I can promise. He told me he missed me and that he was still single. I am quite intelligent and did find him to be cold the next couple of weeks. At the beginning of Sept he sent me a message saying he wants to cut all ties and needs to move on. I respected his decision and DID NOT contact him at all. But to be honest I was truly devestated but I picked myself and focussed on me and my job. A few weeks later a couple of his friends one I met through other people and one through him and they added me on facebook.The one I met through him was liking all my photos commenting on my statuses and asked me to go for coffee. Although I was not interested I did agree to go but as friends and I made that very clear. After almost two months I was at the gym working out my ex sent me a text saying I see that you are best friends with so and so you're pathetic. I was so hurt because his opinion had always mattered to me but he told me he wanted nothing to do with me. When it came down to it we resolved and I deleted his friend from facebook because I dont want any drama. He said he knows my motives are innocent but his his friends are not. Since then he has been texting every once and awhile but He answers me when he wants to and ignores me when he wants to. I bumped into him at the gym last Thursday but I did not bother him I went about my business and he did in fact say hello. He then texted me that night and we texted for a couple of hours. Then the following night he sent me a text saying Dont take this the wrong way but when I saw you last night you looked very good. Your hair looked fabulous and I am impressed at how well you are taking care of yourself. You lost a lot of weight. I didnt know what to say in return so I said thankyou. I am so confused he broke all ties with me said he was seeing someone back then. Now what does he want from me. This is so hard for me as I am trying to move on but I believe that we could have been super happy and he told my friend that no woman has ever respected him or treated him like I have. Please help I would appreciate any advice. Thankyou so much.

Edited November 6, 2012 by Angeleye

[Angeleye]

Thankyou so much Tiffany but here's the thing he isn't seeing someone and I knew he lied to me when he said it. I just don't understand why he initiated contact. I like you do not want to make the first move. My intuition tells me he truly loves me and maybe he was dating someone but it didn't work out. I'm a very humble person but it will be hard for him to find someone who will do what I did for him. I made him dinner every night while he worked and went to school. We were not living together but I left it for him on his doorstep. When he needed anything from me I was there. I thought of him all the time and put his needs before my own. In fact, he said that to my friend that I was the most unselfish woman he ever met. But he threw it away not me and Tiffany I am so afraid to get hurt again so so so afraid. Thankyou so much for your response