AMusing Posted November 6, 2012 Posted November 6, 2012 Hey all, I'm brand new to the online dating world, stepping into it very skeptically and slowly. I filled out the profile, answered some questions, but don't have a picture and I'm "invisible" (i.e. nobody can tell if I check out their profile). Anyway, it turns out I am a nearly perfect match with a man in my office complex. Like, super compatible. I haven't talked to him one-on-one before, but I thought he seemed quite nice in person. So, what's the etiquette for contacting a person you know in real life? I only see him in one large group meeting twice a month, so chatting him up at work isn't really possible. Is it weird to send a, "Hi, I know you!" message? Like I said, I'm an online dating newbie, don't want to commit a faux pas. Thanks!
SoonMyFriend Posted November 6, 2012 Posted November 6, 2012 I have a similar situation to you - I have a crush on a coworker that I rarely interact with but I know he's on an online dating site (and an active user). I also know he finds me attractive but he hasn't made a move yet since I became single. I have discussed this with a number of male and female friends. The initial agreement was I should approach him in person if possible. However, since several weeks have passed since our last one on one interaction (or any real interaction), I am leaning more towards sending him a message to the effect of "Hey, you came across my searches!" and then make a lighthearted comment about OLD and then close with some obvious intentions... Several of my guy friends indicated they wouldn't have a problem with this. Most of my guy friends agree that it's a huge ego boost to have a female approach them (both in real life and OLD) and at least at the end of the day I'd get my answer. I would say go with what you feel comfortable doing. It's easy to hide behind the computer screen (and can save an awkward moment at work). But there's something to be said for flirting in person and making a connection... I will keep you posted so long as you keep us posted
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