caseinpoint Posted November 6, 2012 Posted November 6, 2012 There's this guy I know from an activity club we go to. I don't know him well but we've chatted a few times. I've noticed a couple of times that I let slip some words that could come across as flirtatious comments (I didn't mean them to sound that way but only realized it on hindsight. I can sometimes be to quick with words). And he acted like he would welcome the flirting or whatever my comments insinuated. Guys, would you act this way only if you like the girl? Or is this normal male reaction?
veggirl Posted November 6, 2012 Posted November 6, 2012 Wow talk about over-analyzing. My words COULD HAVE come off as flirting. He MAY HAVE been receptive to that. Huh? So are you interested in him? If so, actually flirt with him, leave it clear that's what you're doing and then see how he reacts, I guess.
Author caseinpoint Posted November 7, 2012 Author Posted November 7, 2012 I should have explained my question better. I meant to ask whether the guys' perception of the girls would have an impact. Would their reactions differ had the comments (flirtatious/with sexual innuendos) come from a girl they think is good looking versus someone they aren't attracted to? Please answer to the point. Whether I like the guy or not isn't relevant. Or if you prefer, you can take this as a general or hypothetical question.
gaius Posted November 7, 2012 Posted November 7, 2012 Would their reactions differ had the comments (flirtatious/with sexual innuendos) come from a girl they think is good looking versus someone they aren't attracted to? Depends on the guy. Most guys like sexual attention from women even if they aren't attracted to them, so they might welcome and encourage a little flirting. The real test is when you try to get them into an exclusive relationship.
Author caseinpoint Posted November 7, 2012 Author Posted November 7, 2012 Depends on the guy. Most guys like sexual attention from women even if they aren't attracted to them, so they might welcome and encourage a little flirting. The real test is when you try to get them into an exclusive relationship. Interesting. So they aren't "selective" at that stage. I would have thought the attraction part would play some part.
jw123 Posted November 7, 2012 Posted November 7, 2012 Maybe I'm weird but I'm selective. If I flirt back it doesn't mean I want to jump your bones but it does mean I find you attractive at some level. The amount I flirt back depends on how receptive I am. If I escalate the flirting that is a sure sign of a strong attraction on my part. But that's just me- I'm a bit reserved and not a natural flirter.
Author caseinpoint Posted November 9, 2012 Author Posted November 9, 2012 I was chatting with this guy I got to know during happy hour yesterday. He said some guys are just naturally flirtatious. To other people, it may look like they're flirting. But to them, they could be oblivious to it. Agree?
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