Dazed_Confused1989 Posted November 6, 2012 Posted November 6, 2012 After a LT relationship (5 years), is it still normal for the dumpees mind to wander back to the relationship and to the ex? I find it happens to me frequently. I can't seem to shake it, and sometimes breakdown. I understand that it takes a while to heal a LT relationship. But, she's always on my mind in some way or another. Is this normal to be feeling like this after 2 months? How do you keep an ex away from your thoughts, aside from staying busy? At this point, I don't feel like I can ever remove her from my daily thoughts...
TopCat22 Posted November 6, 2012 Posted November 6, 2012 I don't think you can. I think it's completely normal to feel this way. They were a big part of your life for a long time and nothing can erase them just like that. You have to find small ways to distract yourself. As time goes by you will think about her less and less. Sadly there is no other way.
Sav Posted November 6, 2012 Posted November 6, 2012 It's completely normal..broke up for a few months now and still think about her..occasionally i tear but im definitely in a better place now
21flames Posted November 6, 2012 Posted November 6, 2012 Totally normal, put it this way 2 months is 3 percent of the 5 years you spent together! We met 5 and a half years ago, together every day the majority of that, it's only been 2 months for me too and going through the same as you but I'm really, looking at the bigger picture of are time together, what she did, I did, the bad parts, that makes me realise she did me a favor, not for what she did to me or what I have been through since the split and going through now but in the long run. I know I am better off with a person like her out of my life.
KatZee Posted November 6, 2012 Posted November 6, 2012 Of course this is normal! You can't possibly think you'd be even remotely healed 2 months out of a 5 year relationship. Especially since YOU'RE the dumpee. It's going to take time, and most likely lots of it. You're going to have good days, OK days and terrible days. Everything you see will remind you of her, and that's not something that goes away overnight. Getting out with friends, doing new things does help to an extent, but it's no miracle cure and I wouldn't be surprised if a year from now you're still feeling some things from this split.
Sunslides Posted November 6, 2012 Posted November 6, 2012 From what I have gone through and I was also told this... You will think of your ex 1 month for every year spent with the ex. So... look for 6 months. We all get better... Time heals.
21flames Posted November 6, 2012 Posted November 6, 2012 People saying a month for every year, half the time of the relationship etc etc. I just don't believe you can put a time guess on anything, people and their circumstances are very different. It will take how ever long it takes and I doubt you will ever forget someone you spent a lot of time with, you just won't care what they are up to or think about them everyday.
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