dustpull Posted November 6, 2012 Posted November 6, 2012 I've been there for him through thick and thin, when he wasn't over his ex, he confided in me, and I had to deal with all his bull****. When he went hot and cold towards me, then pulled me back in and he warmed up towards me for the whole month, calling me a potential relationship to his friends, making future plans with me. 4 Months, of intense emotions, and in the end, he just left me for another person without even considering my feelings. He just kept saying how sorry he is and how he's irresponsible, but honestly, why would you even go that low to lead someone on, tell them you're not ready for a relationship, then jump to another? I don't get it.... at all..
Leigh 87 Posted November 6, 2012 Posted November 6, 2012 Some people are selfish and care more about themselves than they do about other peoples feelings. People like that are either: too nasty to care about how their actions could upset people or they would never set out to deliberately upset you, but they are too thick to realise that they are doing something that will OBVIOUSLY affect others. I am often amazed at how people can do things with so little disregard for other peoples feelings! But, we need to know there are many people out there who just look out for themselves. Feel sorry for the girl who this guy is now seeing; he is not a particularly nice person, which he proved, so your better off without him. You sound like you would be better suited to a guy who treats people with respect, and tries hard to avoid hurting people.
todreaminblue Posted November 6, 2012 Posted November 6, 2012 I've been there for him through thick and thin, when he wasn't over his ex, he confided in me, and I had to deal with all his bull****. When he went hot and cold towards me, then pulled me back in and he warmed up towards me for the whole month, calling me a potential relationship to his friends, making future plans with me. 4 Months, of intense emotions, and in the end, he just left me for another person without even considering my feelings. He just kept saying how sorry he is and how he's irresponsible, but honestly, why would you even go that low to lead someone on, tell them you're not ready for a relationship, then jump to another? I don't get it.... at all.. Instabilty causes people to do things they normally wouldnt do....unfortunately I thought i was ready to date years ago and i wasn't it was too soon after a very traumatic breakup i was drinking on meds not mentally stable.....playing with players and leaving the nice guys out of my crap......i wasnt well at all looking back on what i did, pretty enebriated actually..... now, i would not consider going out with a player would not consider anyone but a nice guy and would not lead a guy who was nice on.In saying that I haven't dated yet.I do think I am ready to date.still having rough days i think every one has them......My values I have alway s believed in are here to stay.....one of them is i dont hurt others and be true to what my heart tells me..... It is possible to lead people on and not be thick and not know what you are doing...it is possible to be sick and lead people on......and some people just truly suck..when i lead someone on i was sick and i still think i sucked for doing it....its not how i want to be or even how i am now, some people can actually change.and realize what they did was wrong........ .........deb
Author dustpull Posted November 6, 2012 Author Posted November 6, 2012 Instabilty causes people to do things they normally wouldnt do....unfortunately I thought i was ready to date years ago and i wasn't it was too soon after a very traumatic breakup i was drinking on meds not mentally stable.....playing with players and leaving the nice guys out of my crap......i wasnt well at all looking back on what i did, pretty enebriated actually..... now, i would not consider going out with a player would not consider anyone but a nice guy and would not lead a guy who was nice on.In saying that I haven't dated yet.I do think I am ready to date.still having rough days i think every one has them......My values I have alway s believed in are here to stay.....one of them is i dont hurt others and be true to what my heart tells me..... It is possible to lead people on and not be thick and not know what you are doing...it is possible to be sick and lead people on......and some people just truly suck..when i lead someone on i was sick and i still think i sucked for doing it....its not how i want to be or even how i am now, some people can actually change.and realize what they did was wrong........ .........deb You are right about 'instability', he's brought up about that alot. He said ever since his ex broke up with him and after they both officially ended things, he's still in love with his ex. But he's always had a hard time letting go and moving on, and he's always confided in me. I've become less of a relationship material to him and more like a therapist, like a friend. That's why he said he doesn't want to lose me and hopes this wouldnt ruin our friendship. Well no ***** sherlock ofcourse i will, you've led me on and put out the excuses to not be in a serious relationship with me (even though you called me a potential), and just jump to another wagon He's not in a relationship with this person yet though, he said they're only 'seeing each other' aka dating I suppose. I ended our friendship today which was very very hard to do, I really fell for this guy and I thought he was the one for me. We both helped each other to get over our exes, and we have so many things in common and we both find each other very attractive. Not only that he shared alot of things with me. This is the perfect definition of a lead on. And he had the audacity to string me along all this time. And he still tries to be friends with me. Some people...... I swear to god........ If only he wasn't such a sweet and attractive guy, i wouldnt have a hard time letting go. It just sucks cause he's a 9 to me
Mcnulty Posted November 6, 2012 Posted November 6, 2012 He's a 9??? Doesn't take much to impress you then??? Complete ****...user and narcissist.
flitzanu Posted November 6, 2012 Posted November 6, 2012 Some people...... I swear to god........ If only he wasn't such a sweet and attractive guy, i wouldnt have a hard time letting go. It just sucks cause he's a 9 to me well, that's totally important. if he wasn't pretty then you wouldn't call him an ass? sometimes people just DONT' want you, that's just how it is.
Author dustpull Posted November 6, 2012 Author Posted November 6, 2012 well, that's totally important. if he wasn't pretty then you wouldn't call him an ass? sometimes people just DONT' want you, that's just how it is. "I hope noone else comes and sweeps you off your feet cause I'm definitely interested in you. I can assure you noone else can sweep me off my feet cause I felt as though you already have. You're very special to me, I really like you alot. I see myself doing alot of travels with you in the future" I guess he just DOESN'T want me.
Mcnulty Posted November 6, 2012 Posted November 6, 2012 He's a psychic as well as a psycho!!! Lovely!
Author dustpull Posted November 7, 2012 Author Posted November 7, 2012 It's crazy how he has the audacity to 'never want to lose' me, and want me to always be there for him in the long run as a close friend. I feel guilty though for promising him that I'll always be there for him to talk and confide in, but I simply can't be his therapist anymore. I have strong feelings for him, and he did too, but all of that was dissolved because I became just a mental support for him... Sigh, never again, life lesson learned.
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