Allumere Posted November 6, 2012 Posted November 6, 2012 Dated a guy for 6 months and feel in love with him. He ended it because he was didn't think I was the one. Sadly he was for me. He started dating someone not long after and now they are in a relationship..its been 6 months. Over this time we have stayed in touch via email and texting. And over this time it would get to the point where he's say he's like to meet for drinks and then he's back off a couple house before saying he was sorry but it was confusing and he wanted to see where things went with this girl. After he announced his relationship I sent him a text saying it would be safe to meet now He responded sure, but do you think its a good idea. I left it as I have no problem with it. I respect your relationship and I really just want to catch up (not a lie. I miss him dearly and at this point just miss talking to him). Anyway a couple weeks go by and I get a text at 5:30 on a Sat. morning saying 'I'd like to meet for drinks if thats OK? I respond "of course its OK" Whats interesting is I know he is on vacaction with his kids and her and her children. Anyway a few days later he contacts me and suggest we meet at a festival if I want to play hookie. 'Sure'. So then we text a but more, a little flirty but no big deal. The day comes and I ask what the plan is and he says he has to work. I say 'No worries' He responds"Drinks"? 'Sure' The he says drinks and dinner and I again agree. At this point I am getting some butterflys thinking he is showing some interest again. So we make plans. I'm in my car on the way and checkmy phone and he has sent a text about an hour before saying "I'm sorry, I can't meet you. It will cause confusion and hurt both of us and we are friends but because we were intimate meeting isn't a good idea" WTF???? So I call (we haven't spoken on the phone since break up) and the long and short of it is he apologizes. Then tells me how great I am out of all the peoplr he has dated, but this one he thinks is the one. Ok, fine please remove knife from my heart. Then he proceeds to tell me we can't be friends because its preventing him from seeing of she really is. OMG. He initiated and sucked me in and then does that....I feel horrible and yes more than a little pissed. It sucks because I do love him and want to be with him but I also love my friend and now both are gone. I find it cold and cowardly. I was willing to take the hurt because I value him and if she is the one I will be happy for him (and cry but he would never know that). I reminded him that he initiated and that its odd if she is the one that he would be contacting me while on vacation with her. This is a 16 but a 50 year old...again WTF?
dustpull Posted November 6, 2012 Posted November 6, 2012 I can totally relate, 'hung out' (mind you, we never used the word date cause he wasnt still over his ex and wasnt ready for a commitment) for 4 months and he finally warmed up towards me for a whole month, we even had sex. Then out of nowhere he just met some other person and that crushed me to bits, all he could do was apologize and said how great i am but he said he 'clicks' with this person. Ironically I'm the one who let him go, he said he would enver want to lose me, he considers me as ab est friend. But it hurts so much to have him as afriend cause ive been through this over and over. so i ended our friendship today and he hasn't replied back to my text. That's a good sign I guess cause he's finally letting me go. I've been depressed about it, couldnt eat or function. Cause i thought he was the one, but i guess im not for him, even though he made me feel that way.
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