mortensorchid Posted November 6, 2012 Posted November 6, 2012 It was one of those first dates where you were so happy, you were practically walking on air. We met at some little bar about halfway between where he and I live. At the picnic table in the back, we sat and talked for most of the evening. Towards the end, we were both leaning in on our elbows, heads practically touching, smiling at one another. It left me thinking "Is he The One?" It made me so happy. Turned out he wasn't. He was an Alpha Male - he was more fun than a barrel of monkeys, he was a tornado in the sack, and yet it got old when he was getting into fist fights, getting fall down, stupid drunk, and throwing chairs through windows. (THe fights and throwing chairs through windows did not happen when I was with him, only tales I had heard). Oversized body and narcisism. He broke it off in March of this year. Then he called to tell me four months later he has a new girlfriend. It was hurtful to see their posts on his Facebook wall saying "Oh I love you baby!" and he would say "I love you" back when he didn't say it to me. I unfriended him, it was too painful to see it. I miss not having someone when I did for that brief moment. Tried moving on, but it's not until I find someone worth while who wants to stick around, who rarely does. Just thought I'd share how I feel.
Ami1uwant Posted November 6, 2012 Posted November 6, 2012 Have you tried to date? It sounds you are more infatuated with the idea of having a SO rather than the one you were with.
Ninjainpajamas Posted November 6, 2012 Posted November 6, 2012 Have you tried to date? ::spits a wad of chewing tobacco saliva out of the corner of his mouth:: You aren't from round these parts...are ya feller. 3
MrCastle Posted November 6, 2012 Posted November 6, 2012 Turned out he wasn't. He was an Alpha Male. Lol no he wasn't. He was a douche. 6
LittlePrince Posted November 6, 2012 Posted November 6, 2012 He broke it off in March of this year. Then he called to tell me four months later he has a new girlfriend. He broke it off and then bragged to you about a new girl. That's why I love loveshack. Your stories are so hilariously tragic and it's all your fault. How can you keep picking up **** and not realize it is ****?
LittlePrince Posted November 6, 2012 Posted November 6, 2012 Lol no he wasn't. He was a douche. That's what an alpha male is.
MrCastle Posted November 6, 2012 Posted November 6, 2012 That's what an alpha male is. No. That's what an alpha male stereotype is. I'm an "alpha male" (I prefer the phrase "man" but I digress) Strong, confident. Leadership qualities. I know what I want, make it known that I want it, and go after it. At the same time I'm loyal, respectful, don't get into bar fights, don't belittle people, etc. In other words, I'm no douche. 1
LittlePrince Posted November 6, 2012 Posted November 6, 2012 No. That's what an alpha male stereotype is. I'm an "alpha male" (I prefer the phrase "man" but I digress) Strong, confident. Leadership qualities. I know what I want, make it known that I want it, and go after it. At the same time I'm loyal, respectful, don't get into bar fights, don't belittle people, etc. In other words, I'm no douche. You are bossy and in denial. Just that is douche-y.
Eternal Sunshine Posted November 6, 2012 Posted November 6, 2012 Sigh. I had a date like you describe recently. It wasn't a first date. Nearly all dates I go to, in the back of my mind I keep thinking if I have spent a requisite amount of time with a person before I can go home. That is even with the guys I kinda like, even with the guys I want to see again. But happy, walking on air, after 6 hours couldn't get enough of him feeling. Holding hands, stopping to kiss every few minutes, the world around you disappears. That almost never happens to me. And it's painfully hard to date others, to go back to mediocre dates when you know what is possible. Too bad my guy didn't reciprocate the feelings. Truthfully, I would rather be alone than force it.
Eternal Sunshine Posted November 6, 2012 Posted November 6, 2012 OP, what helps me is knowing that those awesome dates to us are mediocre dates to them. Kind of like with a guy you are not that into but think he is a nice person and you should try. If it was any different, it wouldn't have ended this way.
LittlePrince Posted November 6, 2012 Posted November 6, 2012 OP, what helps me is knowing that those awesome dates to us are mediocre dates to them. Kind of like with a guy you are not that into but think he is a nice person and you should try. If it was any different, it wouldn't have ended this way. You mean your loins burning for him because you can't have him?
Eternal Sunshine Posted November 6, 2012 Posted November 6, 2012 You mean your loins burning for him because you can't have him? I would be the happiest girl in the world if I could have him. But he explained why our connection doesn't work for him or rather why he thinks it won't work long term. He was on the fence, not sure what to do. I could have given him a little push to change his mind. I don't want to convince a guy to be with me. So it ended -or rather never really began.
LittlePrince Posted November 6, 2012 Posted November 6, 2012 I could have given him a little push to change his mind. Did Mr. Friskers tell you that delusional tripe? It sounds like he was handling you and you never had a chance. Probably why you are so into him.
MrCastle Posted November 6, 2012 Posted November 6, 2012 You are bossy and in denial. Just that is douche-y. Touché.
gaius Posted November 6, 2012 Posted November 6, 2012 I'm an "alpha male" (I prefer the phrase "man" but I digress) Strong, confident. Leadership qualities. I know what I want, make it known that I want it, and go after it. I'd actually put you in a tier right above the lovable losers. At least you try to hide your dysfunction behind the excuse of not wanting a relationship. I've never seen a single guy respond to you thinking you're an alpha here. There are a few guys I'd consider alpha. Pyro has at least one male follower who immediately copies whatever theme he's got going on. As far as you go Morten, you are stuck with the curse of being attracted to the wrong type of guy. Why don't you give that male friend of yours who gets jealous a chance. Seems like he's sticking around.
Pyro Posted November 7, 2012 Posted November 7, 2012 I'd actually put you in a tier right above the lovable losers. At least you try to hide your dysfunction behind the excuse of not wanting a relationship. I've never seen a single guy respond to you thinking you're an alpha here. There are a few guys I'd consider alpha. Pyro has at least one male follower who immediately copies whatever theme he's got going on. Care to explain?
gaius Posted November 7, 2012 Posted November 7, 2012 Care to explain? I've seen a few guys that seem to look up to you around here, one in particular. Like when you start talking about Nutella then he starts talking about Nutella. You put up a Nutella avatar then he puts up an avatar of a similar spread. Kind of like a big brother little brother dynamic. That's what I mean, some guys just naturally have that effect on other people. Make them want to follow along. It's the guys that run around talking about how alpha they are that really aren't, at all. This isn't the first example. I remember some dude who used to run around talking about how alpha he was and would flirt with some crazy chick in the break up forum who was obviously jerking him around. He claimed he was going to meet up with her but I would be surprised if he even got a bikini picture. But aren't we supposed to be talking about Morten?
Pyro Posted November 7, 2012 Posted November 7, 2012 (edited) I've seen a few guys that seem to look up to you around here, one in particular. Like when you start talking about Nutella then he starts talking about Nutella. You put up a Nutella avatar then he puts up an avatar of a similar spread. Kind of like a big brother little brother dynamic. That's what I mean, some guys just naturally have that effect on other people. Make them want to follow along. It's the guys that run around talking about how alpha they are that really aren't, at all. This isn't the first example. I remember some dude who used to run around talking about how alpha he was and would flirt with some crazy chick in the break up forum who was obviously jerking him around. He claimed he was going to meet up with her but I would be surprised if he even got a bikini picture. But aren't we supposed to be talking about Morten? I know of a couple of females on here that had a nutella avatar unless I am forgetting someone. Either way that is an interesting perspective that you have. Yes let's get back on topic. Edit: I know who you are referring to now. Edited November 7, 2012 by Pyro
Eternal Sunshine Posted November 7, 2012 Posted November 7, 2012 I see Mr. Castle as alpha male. Enough said.
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