fortyninethousand322 Posted November 6, 2012 Posted November 6, 2012 What? How are you creepy? I think you're attention seeking now hehe - Honestly though, I don't think you've ever come across as creepy. Well, I was trying to give an example of somebody who is creepy but an otherwise normal person. I might not come across as creepy on LS, but that's probably because there aren't many avenues to do so on here.
CailinPig Posted November 6, 2012 Posted November 6, 2012 This has been an amazing thread! Hahaha! Anyway, the OP has gotten several answers, I'm sure she knows what to do now.
phineas Posted November 6, 2012 Posted November 6, 2012 Um, no, he's creepy because he didn't respect her saying "no" and pushing his hands away. How is it even a question if that's creepy? A guy ignoring a direct request regarding her body is creepy! so answer this, why does she want to still be friends with the guy if he did all this? Either op is making things up to justify her dropping the guy for being bad in bed or she's got a whole bus-stations worth of baggage. personally my call is for the former since i've known women who demonize their ex's still friends with them yrs later & when I say friends I mean still sleeping with them. Obviously they can't be that bad a person if their still friends & still having sex. 1
SWEETIE33 Posted November 7, 2012 Posted November 7, 2012 I have this same problem also...the guy will not leave me alone. I wanted to be his friend but now i am just not sure. He sends me messages all the time and says he loved me. I have only known him 3 weeks. Seperate to that, I explained to him that I am still in love with a man that I had been with for 4 years. I tried to stay honest with him and it seemed to make matter worse. Now I am afraid becasue mutal friends are telling me he has a history of stalking woman. OMG!
phineas Posted November 8, 2012 Posted November 8, 2012 I have this same problem also...the guy will not leave me alone. I wanted to be his friend but now i am just not sure. He sends me messages all the time and says he loved me. I have only known him 3 weeks. Seperate to that, I explained to him that I am still in love with a man that I had been with for 4 years. I tried to stay honest with him and it seemed to make matter worse. Now I am afraid becasue mutal friends are telling me he has a history of stalking woman. OMG! This is what happens when you lead a man on. duh.
serial muse Posted November 8, 2012 Posted November 8, 2012 Now I am afraid becasue mutal friends are telling me he has a history of stalking woman. OMG! This is what happens when you lead a man on. duh. Seriously? He has a history of stalking women and is declaring love after three weeks and she told him she's in love with someone else and still we go to "stop leading him on" and .... oh BLECH. Always ends up here, somehow. Thread jumps shark. 1
phineas Posted November 9, 2012 Posted November 9, 2012 Seriously? He has a history of stalking women and is declaring love after three weeks and she told him she's in love with someone else and still we go to "stop leading him on" and .... oh BLECH. Always ends up here, somehow. Thread jumps shark. So her mutual friends let her go out with a guy who has a history of stalking? Sorry, don't buy it. she's either really dense for coming here instead of going to the police for a "stalker" or she led the guy on or making it up. Honestly "stalker" is one those words women love to throw around like "creepy" & "controlling" If she honestly thought this guy was a "stalker" why is she on LS instead of a police station getting a restraining order? 1
spiderowl Posted November 9, 2012 Posted November 9, 2012 I think you probably gave him mixed messages at first, but after you slept with him you made it clear that you didn't want to continue. He is not accepting this. His behaviour was appalling, not considering your feelings and trying to force you effectively. I can completely understand why you became decisive at that point. You need to continue to be blunt, no matter how hard it is. Refuse to meet him at all again. If you meet him, he will assume he has a chance. If you talk to him on the phone, he will assume he has a chance. All in all, you are best telling him a relationship with him won't work and you don't want any more contact. If he still doesn't accept this, then there is something seriously wrong with the guy. It sounds like he has an empathy deficit anyway and this could be why he's not taking you seriously. If you do make it clear to him, again, that you are not interested, I'd advise you to tell the friend that introduced you, in case he consults with her. At least your message will be reinforced then. My concern is that the guy could become a stalker as the lack of empathy and willingness to ignore your feelings is worrying.
Goldenbrwn Posted November 9, 2012 Posted November 9, 2012 The op actions seem creepy to me. I would bet this isn't the first or even second time she has found herself in a similar situation.
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