MercuryMorrison1 Posted November 6, 2012 Posted November 6, 2012 (edited) So I've always been the shy guy type. Not overly nice, just shy and unable to make an approch...And here lately that's really been pissing me off! So I started doing something about it...I've started asking every girl I see that I'm attracted to out...She has a boyfriend? No biggie...Move on down the line! She's not intrested? No biggie...Move on down the line! Rejection doesn't suck at all when you just stop giving a ****. WHO CARES if a total stranger rejects you! That's my advice to anyone out there who is currently standing in the shoe's I was until very recently. Honestly, This is great! Its like a drug, and my odds have already skyrocketed by comparison to what they were this time last year...I got 7 phone numbers in less than an two hours last night. And 3 phone numbers the previous night! All from totally different place's, ranging from a bartender to a sack girl at a grocery store. The best part is, that I don't give a **** if any of them call me back or not...That's seriously key in dating...Not giving a **** until someone else prove's that feel the same way, otherwise its victimless! I even broke the cardinal rule and asked a female friend of 10 years out on a date! Its so intoxicating to finally be at this stage... Just wanted to share, thanks for reading! Edited November 6, 2012 by MercuryMorrison1 3
sweetkiwi Posted November 6, 2012 Posted November 6, 2012 bravo! Thats what its all about- having fun and increasing your odds!
mesmerized Posted November 6, 2012 Posted November 6, 2012 Lucky you. Another reason being a man makes dating easier.
todreaminblue Posted November 6, 2012 Posted November 6, 2012 So I've always been the shy guy type. Not overly nice, just shy and unable to make an approch...And here lately that's really been pissing me off! So I started doing something about it...I've started asking every girl I see that I'm attracted to out...She has a boyfriend? No biggie...Move on down the line! She's not intrested? No biggie...Move on down the line! Rejection doesn't suck at all when you just stop giving a ****. WHO CARES if a total stranger rejects you! That's my advice to anyone out there who is currently standing in the shoe's I was until very recently. Honestly, This is great! Its like a drug, and my odds have already skyrocketed by comparison to what they were this time last year...I got 7 phone numbers in less than an two hours last night. And 3 phone numbers the previous night! All from totally different place's, ranging from a bartender to a sack girl at a grocery store. The best part is, that I don't give a **** if any of them call me back or not...That's seriously key in dating...Not giving a **** until someone else prove's that feel the same way, otherwise its victimless! I even broke the cardinal rule and asked a female friend of 10 years out on a date! Its so intoxicating to finally be at this stage... Just wanted to share, thanks for reading! It is easier to ask a total stranger out on a date if there are no feelings involved.....but the true gift comes when you do have feelings for someone and it is reciprocated....rejection is a risk you take when soemthing means more to you than the rejection itself
ThaWholigan Posted November 6, 2012 Posted November 6, 2012 It is easier to ask a total stranger out on a date if there are no feelings involved.....but the true gift comes when you do have feelings for someone and it is reciprocated....rejection is a risk you take when soemthing means more to you than the rejection itself I am just glad he isn't bitching about how hard he has it, he's just getting on with it. He will succeed in finding someone who likes him sooner rather than never. 3
todreaminblue Posted November 6, 2012 Posted November 6, 2012 I am just glad he isn't bitching about how hard he has it, he's just getting on with it. He will succeed in finding someone who likes him sooner rather than never. Not giving a crap about anyone isnt getting on with it to me....i see your point about the whining.....and finding sooner than never......but doesnt that mean you also don't give a crap who you end up with just as long as you end up with someone....that mentality
Author MercuryMorrison1 Posted November 6, 2012 Author Posted November 6, 2012 Not giving a crap about anyone isnt getting on with it to me....i see your point about the whining.....and finding sooner than never......but doesnt that mean you also don't give a crap who you end up with just as long as you end up with someone....that mentality I think you're misunderstanding what I'm doing here. You see its like this... In the past...I used to take rejection very personally. It took me months to work up the courage to ask a single girl out and if she rejected me for whatever reason, It totally destroyed all of my self confidence, and then I would go on for many more months before I could bring myself to attempt it again. I've recently had a change of overall state of mind. Its not that I don't care about these people...But its more so that I don't care if they reject me...There is absolutly no point in investing my emotion's and feelings in someone who's just going to flake on me or tell me they aren't intrested. Now when I take a rejection, I take it like a man, and move on with life...No hard feelings, no decimated self esteem, just another life experience. And beleive me, when I say this...Its not that I just want to wind up with ''anyone''...But by changing the way I play the dating game, I've GREATLY increased my odd's of meeting someone I'm truelly attracted to and compatible with. After years of wondering what the problum was, I finally realized that it was just the way I was conducting myself. I've made a simple change that's made prodigious difference's in my dating life. 1
todreaminblue Posted November 6, 2012 Posted November 6, 2012 I think you're misunderstanding what I'm doing here. You see its like this... In the past...I used to take rejection very personally. It took me months to work up the courage to ask a single girl out and if she rejected me for whatever reason, It totally destroyed all of my self confidence, and then I would go on for many more months before I could bring myself to attempt it again. I've recently had a change of overall state of mind. Its not that I don't care about these people...But its more so that I don't care if they reject me...There is absolutly no point in investing my emotion's and feelings in someone who's just going to flake on me or tell me they aren't intrested. Now when I take a rejection, I take it like a man, and move on with life...No hard feelings, no decimated self esteem, just another life experience. And beleive me, when I say this...Its not that I just want to wind up with ''anyone''...But by changing the way I play the dating game, I've GREATLY increased my odd's of meeting someone I'm truelly attracted to and compatible with. After years of wondering what the problum was, I finally realized that it was just the way I was conducting myself. I've made a simple change that's made prodigious difference's in my dating life. I did misunderstand what you were saying and thank you for clarifying your original post ........they way i viewed your post was exactly the opposite of what you meant ....so i wish you well with your new perspective and fresh outlook....good luck......i apologize for taking your post the wrong way....best wishes....deb 1
Author MercuryMorrison1 Posted November 6, 2012 Author Posted November 6, 2012 I did misunderstand what you were saying and thank you for clarifying your original post ........they way i viewed your post was exactly the opposite of what you meant ....so i wish you well with your new perspective and fresh outlook....good luck......i apologize for taking your post the wrong way....best wishes....deb No need to apologize! I wasn't the least bit offended, I figured it was just a misunderstanding. Anyway, thank you very much!
River Rain Posted November 6, 2012 Posted November 6, 2012 I think you're misunderstanding what I'm doing here. You see its like this... In the past...I used to take rejection very personally. It took me months to work up the courage to ask a single girl out and if she rejected me for whatever reason, It totally destroyed all of my self confidence, and then I would go on for many more months before I could bring myself to attempt it again. I've recently had a change of overall state of mind. Its not that I don't care about these people...But its more so that I don't care if they reject me...There is absolutly no point in investing my emotion's and feelings in someone who's just going to flake on me or tell me they aren't intrested. Now when I take a rejection, I take it like a man, and move on with life...No hard feelings, no decimated self esteem, just another life experience. And beleive me, when I say this...Its not that I just want to wind up with ''anyone''...But by changing the way I play the dating game, I've GREATLY increased my odd's of meeting someone I'm truelly attracted to and compatible with. After years of wondering what the problum was, I finally realized that it was just the way I was conducting myself. I've made a simple change that's made prodigious difference's in my dating life. I've got to that point too. I used to be devastated by the simplest rejection, but I bounce back very quickly now because my overall view of life has changed, it just goes by too quickly to dwell on the negative. And I certainly have a lot more confidence these days, I don't let the little rejections lower my self-esteem, it just is what it is and I keep on chugging ahead.
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