Dazed_Confused1989 Posted November 6, 2012 Posted November 6, 2012 I feel really guilty about this...even as the dumpee. We were best of friends, but been in no contact for about 1 months now. She's moved to a different country for the next 2 months. I've already blocked her from the newsfeed, but stupidly checked out her page a few times only to see how much fun she is having...Should I send her a quick msg (one liner) saying I'll re-add you when the time is right? Or should I delete her without any contact...?
River Rain Posted November 6, 2012 Posted November 6, 2012 Question is, do you think she cares? If you contact her, it's just to make yourself feel better, although it will probably make you feel worse overall.
ffw Posted November 6, 2012 Posted November 6, 2012 I feel really guilty about this...even as the dumpee. We were best of friends, but been in no contact for about 1 months now. She's moved to a different country for the next 2 months. I've already blocked her from the newsfeed, but stupidly checked out her page a few times only to see how much fun she is having...Should I send her a quick msg (one liner) saying I'll re-add you when the time is right? Or should I delete her without any contact...? OP, listen to your inner voice. Just by visiting her page & seeing having her fun you are having all these emotions. Then why do you want to send her a msg or want to add her? Go with NC. Anyways, even if you add, can you handle her updated profile (you know what I mean)? GL.
Author Dazed_Confused1989 Posted November 6, 2012 Author Posted November 6, 2012 Question is, do you think she cares? If you contact her, it's just to make yourself feel better, although it will probably make you feel worse overall. I wouldn't say it's to make myself feel better. It's to let her know that this action is nothing personal - I still want to be close as friends, when I am ready to be again. I don't see why she wouldn't care - we ended on good terms.
KatZee Posted November 6, 2012 Posted November 6, 2012 I wouldn't say it's to make myself feel better. It's to let her know that this action is nothing personal - I still want to be close as friends, when I am ready to be again. I don't see why she wouldn't care - we ended on good terms. I mean if you ended on good terms and would like to be friends down the line just shoot her a quick message saying something like, "I need to do this for me right now, it hurts to see what you're doing right now. But I hope one day we can be friends again."
Simon Phoenix Posted November 6, 2012 Posted November 6, 2012 Not my ex's best friend, but in a somewhat similar situation, as she was a Facebook friend years before we went out and I have ties to her family that existed before we went out. I've kept her as a friend and blocked her news feed, but I've been able to resist going to her page for well over a month. If I couldn't, I'd delete her and deal with the potential political headaches. Since I've exercised self-control, I haven't deleted yet, though I'm open to it in the future if need be. If you can't resist snooping, delete or block her.
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