JBJB Posted November 5, 2012 Posted November 5, 2012 So Ive been seeing a girl for the past 11 months. The relationship is quite different because im 16 and shes 18. Last year we were on and off during the spring but really seemed to have a spark. Then we both had our first on the last day of school. I didnt go to her grad party and she was drunk and mad and cheated on me. I wouldnt forgive her but she begged for me to come to her house so she could apologize. I forgave her and we got back together and were inseperable for the rest of the summer. We were with eachother all day everyday because we WANTED too. I still had suspicions of cheating but i was with her all the time so i trusted her. Now that shes in college, partying and getting drunk im having a hard time trusting anything shes doing. She always says shes gonna take a nap. who takes a nap for 3 hours every day. i feel like theirs someone else. Also i know how she gets when shes drunk and she wears very provacative clothes. Short skirts,dresses, bandeus. She said shed never hurt me again and we tried breaking up but we both went crazy. I dont know if i can trust her or what to do. we skype and text every day and talk to each other on the phone all the time. helppp me
River Rain Posted November 6, 2012 Posted November 6, 2012 For the record, I'm a full-time student, and yes, I do nap often for ours at odd times because of my study schedule, I don't think this is a red flag. Young girls, at least some of them, just dress provocatively because it's the style. Nobody wants to be betrayed, but she said she'd never hurt you again. At some point you have to try to trust her again. You said you had a wonderful summer and spent quality time together, that wasn't enough to rebuild the trust?
umirano Posted November 6, 2012 Posted November 6, 2012 If she's any serious she can make time for you, for example by getting drunk less often. Having cheated on me once would most likely be a deal breaker. If I were to consider getting back with a girl like this, she'd have to make an exceptional effort to prove her loyalty to me. Statistically relationships were the guy is younger than the girl are less stable than relationships where the age gap goes the other way.
Timothy Posted November 17, 2012 Posted November 17, 2012 I don't understand what you're doing here. You're 16 years old, and you should be the one doing some partying and learning about life. What do you think you're going to do, marry this girl? She's 18, she's in college, and she's having the time of her life. If she's a normal American girl nothing on earth is going to hold her back. That doesn't mean she doesn't care for you, obviously she does, but there's no way she's ready to make it exclusive, not from what you've described. Most 16 year old guys dream about enjoying the situation you're in, so relax and enjoy learning from an "older woman" and find ways to otherwise enjoy being single, and let her do the same. But do remember where there's other people involved, keeping it safe is the order of the day. Condom up.
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