Kissed on the first date and now she ignored me

[unbeknown]

Firstly Hi, apologies for starting a new topic for my very first post. I will be sticking around though. Can't believe I've only now discovered this forum ha.

 

Right then. I'll try and keep this as brief as possible.

 

We met online and chatted for a bit then the conversation died. I was at a gig and noticed this girl staring at me. Thought nothing of it. Went home, back online realised who it was. sent her a mesage asking if it was her and she replied saying she saw me but was too scared to come say hi. We chatted some more and I set up a date. So, she's seen me in real life and agreed to a date with me. So there has to be some interest there.

 

 

The date was last Thursday. It was the first time we met properly. I like to think it went good. Conversation was great. Made her laugh out loud a lot and plenty of playful teasing and punching each other in the arm etc. I decided to leave the first bar we were at and go to another and when we left it was raining. I had an umbrella so let her come under and she initiated linking arms to walk there. All good so far.

 

As we're leaving she recognises the bouncer and has a brief chat with him. Then tells me "that was so awkward wasn't it?" and tells me she used to date him for quite some time to which I totally ignore and reply with "I hope I haven't left my umbrella in there" to change the subject and show her I'm not there to talk about ex's and other guys and I couldn't care less. I think I handled it well by not reacting or feeding her conversation on the topic. She has to go in the other direction as she's meeting some friends to stay out (would have walked her there but I had a train to catch) so we hug and I get quite a passionate kiss (2 to 3 minutes/tounge). I pulled away frist and whispered in her ear "tonight was fun Sophie" Took her hands and said "we'll do this again sometime". She wanted to kiss me again but I left leaving her wanting more. Not sure if that was a good thing or not.

 

We briefly chatted about setting up a day two, some loose plans but nothing definite. I sent her a fun upbeat text in the evening the day after out date and got no reply. (I know I should have called rather than text but if she was interested I really don't think it would matter how I got in touch).

 

I'm just confused to why she would show so much interest on our date and then not reply. On our date she was constantly touching me. Playfully hitting my arm when laughing, touching my leg, touching my face even. Linking arms with me when we walked. And then kissing me quite passionately at the end. Just confused to why a girl would show definite signs of interest and then go cold so quick. Unless she went on a date the very next day with someone else who was better ha.

 

What's going through my mind is she's thinking 'becuase we kissed he's going to want a relationship'. Which isn't the case....well not yet anyway after only 1 date.

 

Do you think she only kissed me becuase she was a little drunk? She tweeted some guy soon after I'd gone telling him to come to the club she's at but he was already out somewhere esle so couldn't . She tweeted him again this morning saying she needs coffee and is he coming round hers to which he replied he'll be round shortly. I've seen him on the dating site too so maybe she knows him off there. (I always go in to dates assuming their dating multiple guys anyway so it's easier to deal with if I discover they are) but whenever they chat he always tweets to her and her friend/flat mate so maybe their just friends.

 

Basically I'm looking for any advice on if this is recovereable or not. I want to send one text tomorrow before deleting her number (I'm going to guess people will just say delete her number now but I always like to try at least once). What would be the best thing to say? Start a new topic and remind her how fun I am? Or Should I call? We're only 21 so texting seems the more appropriate form of contact but maybe I'm wrong. Thanks for any input. I really appreciate it and I hope this is in the right forum room

[tori0001]

I always say just try one last time. Try just saying hi, how are you.