kyle77 Posted November 5, 2012 Posted November 5, 2012 So me and my ex go to the same university and lately I've seen her with this other guy. Who knows if its a relationship or just a friend, a part of me doesn't even want to know. However, it still gets me a little flustered when I see her with him. Seeing her is inevitable at school it's going to happen I just don't know when. So what do I do to deal with this? And prevent myself from doing something stupid out of rage or jealousy?
River Rain Posted November 5, 2012 Posted November 5, 2012 Nothing. You can't do a thing because it's not under your control. But what is under your control is your anger. You have to just find a way to accept it. But if you see them, always turn and walk away.
lakerman34 Posted November 7, 2012 Posted November 7, 2012 I saw my ex make out with a guy. We had a beautiful 7 month relationship that just went a little sour in the end, and we broke it off in love with each other, and 3 weeks later she's making out with a guy, and a week after that she is insisting to mutual friends that she's WAY over me, and I NEED to get over her. This guy (who was a friend of mine until I saw him locking lips with her, by the way) is a mega-downgrade from me, but it is what it is. We cannot control what they do. We have no say. Unfriend and block from Facebook (and not just her, all her friends too), and make concerted effort to STAY AWAY FROM HER. I am on a small campus. VERY small. So I see her from time to time and it sucks (she just avoids me, I just avoid her). If you know her class schedule, where she works, what clubs she goes to, AVOID THOSE PLACES AT ALL COSTS. Don't do what I do and play the game of 'I'm going to show up and walk by her on her way to class to see how she reacts.' You have to make her 'just another girl.' My ex smokes cigarettes regularly now, smokes more weed than ever, and blacks out almost every night during the weekend. I'm keeping my grades up, trying to take a camera class, and have a HUGE medical internship coming up soon. The best revenge is success. Make yourself better. Hang out with friends. Trash her to friends (but not mutual friends--I made that mistake as well). And, if the situation arises (she may see that you are ignoring her and MAY want to make you jealous and bring up the fact she has a new boy toy), just smile, say you're happy for her, and WHATEVER YOU DO, DON'T BE A FANBOY FOR THE NEW GUY. The less you talk about him, the better. If she goes ON AND ON about him, smile and excuse yourself from the conversation. He's NOT 'better' than you. He doesn't have the history you have with her. In her 'boy' legacy, chances are you're going to be considered much more valuable to her than he ever was (I mean, of course there IS the chance that this new guy is THE ONE for her, but that chance is so slim to none. Most rebound relationships don't work out). Because she may have moved on does NOT change your time with her. ALL the love, sex, memories have happened and will ALWAYS be on both your minds. My ex-friend who is now screwing her (I assume the worst, but they may not be screwing) is getting my sloppy seconds. I ate first, he gets the crumbs that fell from my mouth. Way I see it, I got that pussy about 30 times, he, not as much. I got EMOTIONAL, MEANINGFUL sex from her. He probably won't. If you're not ready to, don't rush things, but it is SO true that, at least for guys, you get over someone faster by getting under someone else. I did that a week after my breakup, and it didn't work RIGHT AWAY, but now I think about it, that one night stand showed me that the 23year old girl I got with was 423234532 times better than my 19 year old ex. Comparing girls physically (once you forget the emotional part) always helps. My ex was like a corpse in bed, this girl kinda rocked my world. Not bad for a one night stand.
suladas Posted November 7, 2012 Posted November 7, 2012 I know how it feels, I seen my ex with a new guy last weekend. Avoiding her is best, if you can't like me because she lives next door you just have to get use to it. Think of it this way, if you assume they are together and having sex, there is nothing worse. It hurts a lot, but you get over it.
Author kyle77 Posted November 8, 2012 Author Posted November 8, 2012 I like your idea here....when you assume the worst it cant get any worse
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