iris219 Posted November 6, 2012 Posted November 6, 2012 1) She sees nice guys as settling. She wants her friends to envy her for having Mr Hunky Exciting Hot Guy as a boyfriend. She wants to believe she can "beat the odds" and tame the untamable. She wants to believe she's so "amazing" that the jerk will want to be good to her, that he'll give up banging other loose women to commit to her. With the nice guy, she sees it as the easy pickings...her friends won't think he's some amazing guy and she simply went for the easy safe choice. Not saying it doesn't happen, but I have never met any woman who consistently rejects nice guys. The nice guys I know are happily married. 1
grkBoy Posted November 6, 2012 Posted November 6, 2012 Not saying it doesn't happen, but I have never met any woman who consistently rejects nice guys. The nice guys I know are happily married. Later in life. I usually see these women suddenly go for nice guys when they finally get burned enough to give up on those fantasies of their "Mr Exciting". That or they get knocked up and thus are seeking out a person who can be a father/husband. Plus I'll also mention many "nice guys" gain more spine and better fashion sense at this point.
Mrlonelyone Posted November 6, 2012 Posted November 6, 2012 2) She psychologically can't handle being treated well. In my past experiences with "bad boy chasers", I noticed how most of them came from broken families. Divorced parents with abusive fathers, jerk fathers, or negligent fathers. They grew up believing they are worthless and real men are those who show a heavy idea of "power". The nice guy who treats her well isn't pushing his dominance on her. This is why I tend to look at women who chase or used to chase bad boys as "damaged goods" and even a red flag. The reality of the "jerk" is he only cares for himself, and these low self-esteem women want him to care about her too. He simply won't, and he's been raised to believe women are lower life-forms. This is why he'll act out in rage when a woman challenges him, and why he won't talk to or deal with any women who have brains and backbones. Spot on. All the psych literature says a big motivator for choosing who we choose is because the remind us of our parents or early lovers. We try to make a relationship work with the lover and in a vicarious way get it from that past person. Men do this too.
phineas Posted November 6, 2012 Posted November 6, 2012 so what does that make the men Apparently in great demand to cum dumpsters because these guys have a reputation for being a player & the women don't seem to care.
phineas Posted November 6, 2012 Posted November 6, 2012 Not saying it doesn't happen, but I have never met any woman who consistently rejects nice guys. The nice guys I know are happily married. Well I know women who consistently lament about the nice guys they used to know who are now married to hot women & have great jobs. All they can say is "We used to hang out as friends but we never dated. I don't really know why & then one day he fell off the face of the earth when he got a GF" Translation: "i friendzoned him & used him for attention so when he got tired of waiting around he forgot about me & found a woman that wasn't looking to waste his time"
yongyong Posted November 6, 2012 Posted November 6, 2012 If you read 'I dated many jerks blah blah' from her online profile, stay away from her unless you can give her the same treatment she had in the past. The difference between a woman and a dog in this situation is, a dog will appreciate new owner's better treatment. How about a woman with jerks bfs in the past? would she go after the same guy? would she appreciate your nice behavior or lose interest because of that?
fortyninethousand322 Posted November 6, 2012 Posted November 6, 2012 Yes, some women do like dating guys who treat them like crap. Some do it consciously, some do it subconsciously. My suggestion is not to believe the women who say they dated bad guys and regret it (thus are looking for "nice guys"). It's all an act...
bac Posted November 6, 2012 Posted November 6, 2012 I notice that guys who treat women badly tens to not stay single for long. I know that women say that they don't like jerks, but they tend to say one thing and do another. I am wondering if treating women badly works. So far, my observations tell me that women subconsciously like being abused. I am having no success and have nothing to lose by treating women badly, anyone else have a similar experience? You should try to abuse women. Let us know how you are going to abuse girls and if it works out well. Some women even like to be abused consciously. It is called S&M.
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