Online addiction ?

[Sasu]

I am currently hopeless on my situation.My ex gf is is feel dating someone on internet again after breaking up with me,even after saying she won't date anyone to me as she loves me only..I don't know what i am feeling,if it was some decent guy who could take care of her i would be happy but its just some douche i know from same country as her friend who is making her learn all this online dating drama ( for just fun ) now for months..

 

I am worried as hell for this girl & her thoughts,that the real relation we had for two years didn't had that much priority to her & she ended it giving me excuse of studies and family problems..but now she is all time online chatting up with her reckless group of her friends for like 8 hrs a day telling me she need some fun to deal with her stress..I just don't know how to deal with my emotions,i love her & want her in right track,even with me..but all the situation is just hopeless....i don't know what to do anymore to get her out of all this ,the same thing which messed our relation in past.

 

Is there any hope at all ...

Edited November 5, 2012 by Sasu

[PYTpisces]

No amount of love you have for her will change her behavior. You're essentially throwing your love into an empty pit. Sometimes you have to love someone from a distance to save yourself and to show them that the behavior is hurting you and the relationship. If you're looking for hope here, your best plan of action may be to step out of the picture for a while. Let her life sort itself out as it may. Sometimes things need to play out on their own. If the two of you are able to have healthy communication, I say definitely be definitive about where you stand and then take action. Good luck

[Sasu]

Thanks,we are talking on regular basis now on phone,i call her everyday to see how is she & all ,if i don't she does.And talks are mostly like when we used to be gf & bf with lot flirting,Just no " love you" in end unlike before ,that's all .kind feels weird ^^"

 

Bust mostly its her stress she talk about.She told me that she started drinking & drugs from yesterday .I can hear her shouting on her family literally many times and hear their nagging in background..so dunno

 

Its not like being friends with an ex,its like recreating the same atmosphere when we fell in love for first time again.The only diff is i can't come online anymore due to my studies & even if i bring it up,she won't enjoy the idea pretty much so just staying on ph calls to be on safe side .

 

Oh and pheww,she isn't dating anyone online for now,in real it won't be anytime sooner as far as i know her

"Sometimes things need to play out on their own " - Good words ^^

[PYTpisces]

Just guard your heart. It can get messy if you are in what appears to be a relationship minus the actual committment piece (if that's what you are ultimately hoping for). If not, and you're comfortable with the arrangement okay. Otherwise, proceed with caution!

[Sasu]

I understand ,Its about guarding myself from getting hurt again .

 

At this point,I am confused..I am not sure if shes with someone online.I am confused at what frequency i should try to call or msg her to keep hope alive or If i should call or msg her at all if shes happy without me with her friends and online bf ( in case) .

 

If shes with someone online again,then either shes doing to pass her time or if she get serious it won't work out,I know her well enough.She'll be single in real for long time,that i know for sure.

 

Just want someone to tell me,what should i do ? I love her & want her back but i know i can't rush things and i can't go away from her life as i'll live a life with guilt that i gave up on someone who still loved me ( maybe not as a lover) & wanted me in her life.I am lost....