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socrushed Established Member

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i'm a straight guy who's awkward and shy and bad with women.

 

What will happen if i hang around a gay bar wearing a tight tshirt if im a scrawny looking guy who ppl say looks young for my age? will guys approach me like they do with girls at a normal bar?

 

should i just go with it for the experience of intimacy if someone starts hitting on me?

 

i just want to feel really loved right now, and i can't get it from women :(

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amaysngrace Established Member

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Does the idea of having a d*ck in your mouth gross you out or turn you on?

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sweetkiwi Established Member

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well love isn't sex and sex isn't love. If you're curious about men then go for it. But if you're not then why would you do that??? Generally gay men will know you are not gay. Some may like the challenge but most will not approach you.

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I've thought about going to a gay bar myself, just to see if I do get hit on since at a normal bar it's supposed to be very rare for women to make the first move, and at a gay bar guys will be making first moves on each other.

 

And if I would get hit on, it would feel really nice to know that I am sexually attractive to some people, it would be nice to feel desired and wanted.

ScreamingTrees Established Member

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I'm awkward and quiet as well, you want to be gay bros? It's either that, or be forever alone. I'll go with the first one.

 

This whole penis-in-the-ass thing couldn't be THAT hard, could it?.. pun completely intended..

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socrushed Established Member

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i am not gay or attracted to men. But i read a forum post on the internet of a man who is completely straight, as in no attraction to men, but he gets blowjobs from random men in saunas as a hobby. He views the whole act as nothing more than receiving a massage. it feels nice to have a mouth around your dick.

 

i was thinking of doing something like that too. i would love to get it from women, but how much easier do you think i can get a random guy to suck me off? not hypothetical question... i assume it would be much easier, right? especially cause i have feminine body traits...

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I have to give props to what Sweetkiwi said. Ask yourself what you really are after? No offense, but try to consider your sexuality too.

 

What makes you bad with women, and what makes you think it would be different with gay men? If it's with your appeal, then what makes you think the gay guys would like you more? Take note that these guys are more into hunks. Lol.

 

Try to make the first move on a girl and see how it goes from there. Just be yourself and show the interesting points about you. If you are sure in your heart that you are straight, then you just need to wait for the one girl that will click with you. Cheers!

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i am not gay or attracted to men. But i read a forum post on the internet of a man who is completely straight, as in no attraction to men, but he gets blowjobs from random men in saunas as a hobby. He views the whole act as nothing more than receiving a massage. it feels nice to have a mouth around your dick.

 

i was thinking of doing something like that too. i would love to get it from women, but how much easier do you think i can get a random guy to suck me off? not hypothetical question... i assume it would be much easier, right? especially cause i have feminine body traits...

 

You sure you wouldn't prefer a soul companion? I don't foresee a woman in your future. I could keep you company on those cold, lonely nights my friend.. We could spoon.

 

Winter, spring, summer, and faaall... All you've got to do is caaaalll.. And I'll beeeee there yesss I will.. You've got a (sexual) frieeeeend...

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socrushed Established Member

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i don't really want any type of relationship with women i just want sex but im too scared and shy to approach, especially because even decently social and good looking guys have a very high rejection rate, so my rejection rate will be even higher.

 

but gay guys are much more open sexually, and there are things like gay saunas where guys literally just stick their cock through a whole and have it sucked, so i get the idea that gay guys are much more promiscuous and willing to, well, suck my dick.

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completely true. I went to plenty of gay bars and got guy's numbers. I am straight and i went with my gay friends. You see interesting stuff in there. And maybe the ideal me sexy has changed but most gay men i know want the big beefy guys for sex.

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i am not gay or attracted to men. But i read a forum post on the internet of a man who is completely straight, as in no attraction to men, but he gets blowjobs from random men in saunas as a hobby.[/Quote]

 

Quite a hobby. I usually stick with watching movies or reading.

 

it feels nice to have a mouth around your dick..

 

I guess that's better than you saying "it feels nice to have a dick around your mouth".

 

Jokes aside, you're basing this theory off the fact that you think you will be successful with dudes. Suppose they turn you down too? Then what?

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well love isn't sex and sex isn't love.

 

This is a bit humorous coming from a woman.

 

If I had a dime for every woman having sex with a man thinking she was developing a real/deeper relationship or that the man was in love with her just because they were being intimate instead of being used for sex...well, I'd easily be the richest man on the planet.

 

This guy can't be fooled by any self-made illusions, because he doesn't have the luxury of even falsifying any deeper emotions or connections because he can't even get his foot in the door.

 

Look socrushed, you could either;

 

A) Spend your time feeling sorry for yourself because you can't get anywhere with women, even deciding to turn gay which you really underestimate the gays which you'd probably fail equally as hard but maybe not, not a gay expert myself, however I've noticed they can be ridiculously picky and superficial as well so it would be best to work on the abs before attempting this venture.

 

B) Actually figure out what you can do to be more appealing with women (which of course isn't easy or every guy would be doing it), which will take time and effort but is achievable.

 

There are a lot of women out there looking for good men, and he doesn't have to be a super-model or ladies man.

 

I'll tell you one thing though, you'll do the worst with women when you are the most desperate...women can smell that like a funk. You're basically that guy in the room with the smelly feet.

 

Learn to bring out the best of your qualities and attributes, and actually develop some confidence in yourself through them.

 

Because there's no tissue paper being handed out to the cry-babies, you will be look down upon and pitied...that's the way the world works, so it's best you get back pick yourself up, get back to the drawing board and do the best you can with what you have, and improve the things you can.

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Jokes aside, you're basing this theory off the fact that you think you will be successful with dudes. Suppose they turn you down too? Then what?

 

i don't expect to have some type of 0% rejection rate. but i know that in general gay guys are much more willing to give random blowjobs.

 

i was bored one time and posted an ad of just my body on craigslist and made a long rant about how i'm depressed and totally straight and want some guy to put it in my butt. i got some responses with pictures and phone number saying i could call them any time and go to their place to face **** them in a dark room and **** like that....

 

never went through with it because i know i'll be disgusted. but now i am reconsidering... maybe it will be good for me to get any type of sexual experience at all?

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MrCastle Established Member

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I think the core of this issue is; at this point, what's the easier route to getting his dick sucked?

 

Women? Or anonymously via a glory hole at a gay bar?

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I think the core of this issue is; at this point, what's the easier route to getting his dick sucked?

 

Women? Or anonymously via a glory hole at a gay bar?

 

Glory hole. But it sounds :sick:

Ross MwcFan Established Member

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completely true. I went to plenty of gay bars and got guy's numbers. I am straight and i went with my gay friends. You see interesting stuff in there. And maybe the ideal me sexy has changed but most gay men i know want the big beefy guys for sex.

 

That's me out. :(

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I hate to break it to you guys but "gaydar" only targeting people who are gay to hit on is total BS. There are plenty of gay people, in fact most LGB people and even some T people who do not set off any gaydar. You only notice people who, for the most part, choose to be visible.

 

The second thing is there is no reason to think that going gay would make love easier. It doesn't. Nor do men go gay because they can't get women. Most "gay"* are into women to some degree and some women come after them.

 

 

*Really bisexual men, gay men, and bio males who are transgender are what people have in mind. Gay really means masculine male identified men who are into masculine male identified men only. Very few men are really truly "gay".

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I think the core of this issue is; at this point, what's the easier route to getting his dick sucked?

 

Women? Or anonymously via a glory hole at a gay bar?

 

The glory hole thing is not as common as people think.

 

There are women in every city who for a price will do all of that.

rocketman122 Established Member

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i'm a straight guy who's awkward and shy and bad with women.

 

What will happen if i hang around a gay bar wearing a tight tshirt if im a scrawny looking guy who ppl say looks young for my age? will guys approach me like they do with girls at a normal bar?

 

should i just go with it for the experience of intimacy if someone starts hitting on me?

 

i just want to feel really loved right now, and i can't get it from women :(

 

 

My sister went lesbian for a few years because she was frustrated with the men she dated. she came back from the dark side and is now married 2 years and just gave birth to her 2nd daughter 2 weeks ago. dont give up!!

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i'm a straight guy who's awkward and shy and bad with women.

 

What will happen if i hang around a gay bar wearing a tight tshirt if im a scrawny looking guy who ppl say looks young for my age? will guys approach me like they do with girls at a normal bar?

 

should i just go with it for the experience of intimacy if someone starts hitting on me?

 

i just want to feel really loved right now, and i can't get it from women :(

 

Many men will certainly approach you and have sex with you.

They will do it to any moving target.

And, you should be simple and easy. It means you should show that you are interested in sex. You show your interest by flirting. To flirt you do eye contact with men, look at them, smile at them, touch them accidentally and play with your hair/or smth else while looking at them.

 

IMO The men will be happy to f....k you, therefore, you are going to experience the true love.

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You want intimacy...get your kicks at a brothel, that should put thoughts of you being a bum buddy to some guy in a gay bar out of your head.

oh, just saw your new thread. Too late. lol

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