ForeverlovingRami Posted November 5, 2012 Posted November 5, 2012 Broke up 2 weeks ago for various reasons.. Was supposed to be a break but we ended the relationship to somehow find eachother in the future. Barley spoken during this 2 weeks, NC more or less.. Now I find out shes with this guy, the've been kissing at the club and shes with him most of the time. Is this a rebound or has she moved on to give herself to this new "friend" of hers? Maybe I shud pack my emotions and move on, stop thinkin " it will be us again "?
dreamstate83 Posted November 5, 2012 Posted November 5, 2012 Unfortunately you may never get the answers you are looking for. The only thing you can do is walk away with your head held high and go through the process of grieving. Hang in there. 1
Chi townD Posted November 5, 2012 Posted November 5, 2012 Less than two weeks and she's with someone else? Kinda shows how much she valued you and the relationship. Dude, time to move on. I speculate that she's going to reach out to you sooner or later because she'll discover that you found out about the other dude. She'll contact you to see where your head is at and see if you hate her. So, when that happens, just ignore her.
witmadskilllz Posted November 5, 2012 Posted November 5, 2012 I hear ya OP, samething happened to me where as my ex left me for another guy 2 weeks post breakup. But now that you know the truth, it's better off to stick to NC until you have fully healed or have found someone else. Trust me bro, you're better off without her because her actions speaks louder than words; show how little she cares/respect for you.
River Rain Posted November 5, 2012 Posted November 5, 2012 Broke up 2 weeks ago for various reasons.. Was supposed to be a break but we ended the relationship to somehow find eachother in the future. Barley spoken during this 2 weeks, NC more or less.. Now I find out shes with this guy, the've been kissing at the club and shes with him most of the time. Is this a rebound or has she moved on to give herself to this new "friend" of hers? Maybe I shud pack my emotions and move on, stop thinkin " it will be us again "? It's a rebound likely. People have their different ways to heal from a breakup. Her way is to find someone to boost her self-esteem, doesn't mean she thought nothing of your time together though. I know it hurts you to see her with someone else, you must feel discarded - I know that feeling, it's awful. The best thing for you to do is continue NC and work on healing yourself. If it's meant to be down the line, it'll be when you've both healed and are in an emotionally stable state of mind. In the mean time, don't put your life on hold. 1
Author ForeverlovingRami Posted November 6, 2012 Author Posted November 6, 2012 That's what I thought aswell... She hates to be alone and they spent time together at the end of our relationship, he was prolly the one that listened to her problems and therefore she value him now.. I know his a freaking player tho but what can I do, it's her emotions / feelings.. But I don't let that stuff bring me down, I got a strong mentality and I know I can find someone much better.. I'm just focusing on ME ME ME atm.. Getting ripped and starting a new education soon aswell, prolly chageing city. I know I'll be the one coming out strong from this one, but sometimes it all just freezes and u start thinking "coulda, woulda, shoulda"... But deep down within, I think it's her physical attraction I miss, and the cuddle ofc. Been thinkin alot and I don't really miss her as a person.. For everyday that goes by, the good memories of her is slowly fading and the bad parts keep popping up more and more.. Guess it's time to move on! Thanks for youre awesome posts, helps alot
puzzled1 Posted November 6, 2012 Posted November 6, 2012 Move on bro. I know how bad it sucks!! Keep telling yourself, even if she came around, would you want to be with someone like her? Can you forget about everything that led you up to this point? You need time to focus on yourself and everything else will just come naturally.
flitzanu Posted November 6, 2012 Posted November 6, 2012 calling someone a "rebound" is a term dumpees use. fact is she's with someone else, and she's chosen to be with this person and choosing not to be with you. that should be enough to tell you to move on and stop worrying about "winning her back".
LostOne1 Posted November 6, 2012 Posted November 6, 2012 That's what I thought aswell... She hates to be alone and they spent time together at the end of our relationship, he was prolly the one that listened to her problems and therefore she value him now.. I know his a freaking player tho but what can I do, it's her emotions / feelings.. But I don't let that stuff bring me down, I got a strong mentality and I know I can find someone much better.. I'm just focusing on ME ME ME atm.. Getting ripped and starting a new education soon aswell, prolly chageing city. I know I'll be the one coming out strong from this one, but sometimes it all just freezes and u start thinking "coulda, woulda, shoulda"... But deep down within, I think it's her physical attraction I miss, and the cuddle ofc. Been thinkin alot and I don't really miss her as a person.. For everyday that goes by, the good memories of her is slowly fading and the bad parts keep popping up more and more.. Guess it's time to move on! Thanks for youre awesome posts, helps alot I know how you feel guy. My ex kinda did something similar. Broke up with me and had a new guy friend to help her out. Though kinda my fault, because I didn't spend as much time being sick and depressed myself. She felt ignored and found someone else who would listen. Though I dunno if they are going out. But at the end of the day moving on is really tough. Time helps, but I guess this is the downside to love. That if it breaks.. then the pain is so intense and I guess it;s the risk we take for love. It either works or it doesn't and we suffer for a bit till we heal. And even then some people never heal.
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