Chibaby Posted November 5, 2012 Posted November 5, 2012 Hi, I just found out I'm about 6 weeks pregnant. My issue is, my husband and I live in Cali an he wants to fly to Washington for Christmas with out two dogs. Both our parents live there, and his Mom is aging. Every year he insists on going back no matter the cost or difficulty. I am already feeling being pregnant, I'm sick and exhausted. He said "we'll see what happens" but I know as usual he will insist on going. Do you think this year I have a right to put my foot down? I have negative vacation time at work, and I can't imagine flying pregnant with two dogs being around a million germs and sick people. I like to see our families, but this seems so stressful to me and I just don't want to do it this year. Am I being too selfish? What should I do?
CarrieT Posted November 5, 2012 Posted November 5, 2012 You might want to consider the fact that after you have the baby (assuming next May?), a six-month old might be too young to travel as well for next year's holiday. Maybe offer a compromise and ask which one he would prefer; this year with you pregnant or next year with an infant - but not both... 2
River Rain Posted November 5, 2012 Posted November 5, 2012 Hi, I just found out I'm about 6 weeks pregnant. My issue is, my husband and I live in Cali an he wants to fly to Washington for Christmas with out two dogs. Both our parents live there, and his Mom is aging. Every year he insists on going back no matter the cost or difficulty. I am already feeling being pregnant, I'm sick and exhausted. He said "we'll see what happens" but I know as usual he will insist on going. Do you think this year I have a right to put my foot down? I have negative vacation time at work, and I can't imagine flying pregnant with two dogs being around a million germs and sick people. I like to see our families, but this seems so stressful to me and I just don't want to do it this year. Am I being too selfish? What should I do? You're already stressed about it...I don't think selfish is a factor at all. I mean, selfish yes, you want your body in good health to take care of your child...which is good. Is it such a huge deal if you stay home?
pink_sugar Posted November 5, 2012 Posted November 5, 2012 I agree with Carrie. I think traveling with an infant would be a lot more stressful. Try not treating your pregnancy like an illness. Unless you're several months along, I don't think it would be too terrible to fly to Washington from CA. 1
Got it Posted November 5, 2012 Posted November 5, 2012 Do you have to travel with the dogs? Can you put them in the care of a trusted person/company? That would make traveling a lot easier. Also fly at less peak times and that should help limit the people you have to be around. Try to fly early morning or late evening. The 8am flights not Monday or Fridays tend to be quieter and especially on the weekend. You are also less likely to have flight delays/issues early morning. I agree, that after the baby is born, flying with an infant is much worst (unless you would leave the child in the care of another).
BellaMarieOC Posted November 5, 2012 Posted November 5, 2012 (edited) Christmas is only a little over a month away. It will be a LOT easier to travel now vs. traveling later with an infant. If you don't want to go, then don't go. But don't give him crap for wanting to spend time with his aging mother.. What if she isn't around next year and he missed a chance to see her one last time? In that retrospect I think you are being very selfish. Tell him to go and spend some time with his Mother and you can stay home. This way you don't have to travel when you don't want to, and you won't go into even more debt with vacation time. Edited November 5, 2012 by BellaMarieOC 1
whichwayisup Posted November 5, 2012 Posted November 5, 2012 His parents are elderly. He needs to see his parents no matter what...... Sorry to be blunt, but there are things in life nobody wants to do but have to or obligated to. This is one of them. A week won't kill you! If you're not well while with them, I'm sure none of them will mind if you sleep and take it easy. As for your dogs, ask a friend or another family member to stay at your place or hire a dog sitter. a six-month old might be too young to travel as well for next year's holiday. Really? Tons of people fly with new borns, or ones under the age of 6 months. Both my nieces were on planes visiting other family and friends (obviously with their parents) at 3 months old. Traveling is a good thing, especially when it comes to (elderly)seeing parents. If it was your family, and they were older like his are, you'd go see them, yes? 2
BetheButterfly Posted November 6, 2012 Posted November 6, 2012 (edited) Hi, I just found out I'm about 6 weeks pregnant. My issue is, my husband and I live in Cali an he wants to fly to Washington for Christmas with out two dogs. Both our parents live there, and his Mom is aging. Every year he insists on going back no matter the cost or difficulty. I am already feeling being pregnant, I'm sick and exhausted. He said "we'll see what happens" but I know as usual he will insist on going. Do you think this year I have a right to put my foot down? I have negative vacation time at work, and I can't imagine flying pregnant with two dogs being around a million germs and sick people. I like to see our families, but this seems so stressful to me and I just don't want to do it this year. Am I being too selfish? What should I do? Hmm. He said "we'll see." I was wondering, can y'all pay for his parents to fly to where y'all live??? That would be nice. It's not fun being sick or exhausted. I've never been pregnant before, as far as I know so I don't know how you feel. I think it would be good to keep you from stress though. I really hope y'all can find an alternative way to celebrate with the least amount of stress and feeling bad as possible. After reading other posts, maybe there is a safe pain reliever you can take to help you? I agree that pregnancy is not an illness, though my Mom has was horribly morningsick when she was pregnant with me. I told her sorry lol... I didn't know. She has been through so much for me and all my sisters. Love her so much!!! Edited November 6, 2012 by BetheButterfly
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