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ImperfectionisBeauty Established Member

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Don't you think about you reputation when sending nude pics to guys you are not in a relationship with?

 

I didn't that much.

I do now which is why I stopped but like I said it is really hard.

I hadn't done it though since I was with my ex but we did it with each other so it wasn't a huge deal to me.

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I'm sorry, but I think this is pathetic.

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I'm sorry, but I think this is pathetic.

 

Ok... I know, but I need advice about this guy not my horrible decisions

 

 

He didn't even message me this morning like he always does... Ugh well it looks like he's not my future husband and children's father.

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Surely you must be pulling our collective legs.

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Surely you must be pulling our collective legs.

 

Nope. Believe me I wouldn't be here if I didn't have issues.

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Ok... I know, but I need advice about this guy not my horrible decisions

 

 

He didn't even message me this morning like he always does... Ugh well it looks like he's not my future husband and children's father.

 

You need help

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You need help

 

I know. That came out wrong though, he and I used to talk kind of jokingly about having a baby before he left for boot camp we really talked about it so it wasn't a super far fetched comment.

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Seriously? You "need" advice about this guy? Okay:

 

Never contact, or accept contact with him in any way, shape or form, ever again.

 

There.

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Is this real life?

 

1. How can you possibly "like" someone if you have nothing to talk to them about unless you are masturbating on camera? :confused:

 

2. If/when a man is looking for a woman who is fit to be his wife/the mother of his children, do you sincerely think he'll reach back for that girl who was so desperate for male attention that she used to masturbate for him on camera?

 

I mean... I can't.

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Is this real life?

 

1. How can you possibly "like" someone if you have nothing to talk to them about unless you are masturbating on camera? :confused:

 

2. If/when a man is looking for a woman who is fit to be his wife/the mother of his children, do you sincerely think he'll reach back for that girl who was so desperate for male attention that she used to masturbate for him on camera?

 

I mean... I can't.

 

I know. I just hoped that if he couldn't find anyone else he would want me.

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I know. I just hoped that if he couldn't find anyone else he would want me.

So you want to be the last option?

 

Have you really considered stopping dating - communication, sexting with guys that you have an interest in. Why not take a break?

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So you want to be the last option?

 

Have you really considered stopping dating - communication, sexting with guys that you have an interest in. Why not take a break?

 

I am trying to take a break he just snuck in. I want to not focus on dating and redirect my attention its so hard. I hate never having a guy to text me or anything that's the worst part, having this cool phone and getting no texts :( unpopularity. It's hard because one minute I'm like "ok I can so this I don't need a guy" the next I'm like "I'm super horny maybe I can text this guy and see what happens" then I text him feel like crap for talking sex then I'm super hard on myself and say "no I'm done with guys" it is a endless cycle.

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I am trying to take a break he just snuck in. I want to not focus on dating and redirect my attention its so hard. I hate never having a guy to text me or anything that's the worst part, having this cool phone and getting no texts :( unpopularity. It's hard because one minute I'm like "ok I can so this I don't need a guy" the next I'm like "I'm super horny maybe I can text this guy and see what happens" then I text him feel like crap for talking sex then I'm super hard on myself and say "no I'm done with guys" it is a endless cycle.

Don't you have friends to text you?

 

I use to turn my phone off when I felt like - I mean no phone sevice off.

However that isn't an option any more. I actually find solace in not having to deal with guys or waiting for a call or text.

 

I have been stopped texting guys when I was bored, I contact someone if I want to speak with them, I don't need anyone to full my time - I have way more than enough friends to text.

 

Try not keeping your phone around so much. Leave it in a next room.

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I know. I just hoped that if he couldn't find anyone else he would want me.

 

Wow. Okay, then...

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Don't you have friends to text you?

 

I use to turn my phone off when I felt like - I mean no phone sevice off.

However that isn't an option any more. I actually find solace in not having to deal with guys or waiting for a call or text.

 

I have been stopped texting guys when I was bored, I contact someone if I want to speak with them, I don't need anyone to full my time - I have way more than enough friends to text.

 

Try not keeping your phone around so much. Leave it in a next room.

 

I don't have super close friends to text a lot maybe 2 girls?? I know I am a loser. I am not anti social but I just don't click easily with people. My 2 good friends I will text kind of a lot but not much. I need to do a super clean of my phone and contacts but I can't bring myself to yet because I try to have hope maybe someone (my ex in particular) will realize he should be with me. I could try turning it off more or leaving it in my car and stuff

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Haven't you noticed how your way of "getting" a guy DOESN'T WORK?

 

Haven't you noticed that as much as you sext and offer yourself up sexually to guys, it hasn't gotten you what you wanted?

 

So why do you keep doing it? You know it doesn't work, you have seen it doesn't work!!

 

That doesn't tell you that doh hey maybe I should go about this some other way?

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Haven't you noticed how your way of "getting" a guy DOESN'T WORK?

 

Haven't you noticed that as much as you sext and offer yourself up sexually to guys, it hasn't gotten you what you wanted?

 

So why do you keep doing it? You know it doesn't work, you have seen it doesn't work!!

 

That doesn't tell you that doh hey maybe I should go about this some other way?

 

I don't know what to do? Just say no if they ask? What if they stop talking to me? It's like all guys want sexy pictures and stuff I was talking to this guy at one point and told him I didn't want to and he got mad at me and told me I was being prude and pessimistic about our relationship. I did stop for a while though and I know I can stop next guy I won't do it with.

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I don't know what to do? Just say no if they ask? What if they stop talking to me? It's like all guys want sexy pictures and stuff I was talking to this guy at one point and told him I didn't want to and he got mad at me and told me I was being prude and pessimistic about our relationship. I did stop for a while though and I know I can stop next guy I won't do it with.

 

Uhhh if a guy stops talking to you because you won't send him naked pictures of yourself you say GOOD RIDDANCE! Helloooo??

 

The fact that they ditch you / get pissed when you won't send naked pics doesn't tell you anything about their intentions??? Their intention is sex only! Duh. This would be a great filter for you actually, geez.

 

Why are you making this so complicated.

 

No sexting

No naked pics

No sex

 

Until you are in an exclusive relationship that is initiated BY HIM.

 

Do you want a guy that you have to do those things for or he won't stick around? What next? he wants a 3some so you cave so he won't leave? He wants to fk another girl and you let him so he won't leave??? These guys know they can get whatever they want from you :(

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Uhhh if a guy stops talking to you because you won't send him naked pictures of yourself you say GOOD RIDDANCE! Helloooo??

 

The fact that they ditch you / get pissed when you won't send naked pics doesn't tell you anything about their intentions??? Their intention is sex only! Duh. This would be a great filter for you actually, geez.

 

Why are you making this so complicated.

 

No sexting

No naked pics

No sex

Until you are in an exclusive relationship that is initiated BY HIM.

 

Do you want a guy that you have to do those things for or he won't stick around? What next? he wants a 3some so you cave so he won't leave? He wants to fk another girl and you let him so he won't leave??? These guys know they can get whatever they want from you :(

 

Ok I can do that.

No sex, sexting or dirty pictures. Nothing.

I am just going to go for no dating in general because I have no one to date and I don't want to deal with the complications of who texts who first ad is he interested etc.. I just want to not be stressed out all the time

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A guy who is actually interested in you won't demand or even expect naked pics. But then again no guy is going to turn them down from a good looking girl who is offering them.

 

I can understand the texting thing, I miss texting back and forth all day it made the day fly by but eventually you get use to it, just like how it was before you were with them.

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So I found this guy I went to HS with my junior year on FB the other day. It is a long story but when I was a junior in HS I did a program that sent me to another school half of a day, I met him at this school and I liked him then he was really cute and sweet but he had a girlfriend and she was STUNNINGLY BEAUTIFUL like honestly a billion times more prettier than I could ever be so I never tried to talk to him much beyond friends. The problem back then was that he pretty much cheated on his pretty gf with like 3 girls from our class, at the time (before my total desperation haha) I thought that was terrible and I didn't want to be associated with that. We talked as friends and that was it, I don't hold it against him now because he was 16 or 17 and so obviously you live and learn. I dropped that program after my junior year to be a normal senior and be with my friends but I reconnected with him after I graduated and we sexted a little and I intended to lose my virginity to him, we went back and forth with texting and making plans and I backed out every single time because when I was 18/19 I imagined myself losing my virginity to someone I was in a relationship with and dating and it would be great and make me and whoever the guy was a stronger couple.. Obviously I failed at that. He went to the Marines and I haven't heard from him since, until last week when I found him on FB. I added him we messaged and he was very receptive to talking to me, I apologized to him for being so flaky back in the day and just told him I didn't know what I wanted, he accepted it blah blah, basically he is in some other country but it is a secret. We talk on skype and use this text program and it is cool talking to him but all we do is sext, and webcam and stuff. He said he wants to get together when he comes home which is in a few months and I want to. I know that it will probably entail sex but I just want to spend time with him I feel like I like him. The thing is we could have worked out had we both shared our feelings sooner, I heard he thought I was hot in HS but he had a gf and slept with a lot of other girls so I was uninterested. I'm afraid it is too late and I don't know how it would work out with him being in the Marines, but I am graduating in May so if we did get together I could work my life plans out to include him right?? I just don't know what to do because I like him but I don't know anything haha I don't know if I will want to have sex when he comes here, but I also really like talking to him and I hope it could turn into something.

 

Could anything ever even be serious because of the whole webcaming and sexting?? He said he wants a relationship but I am not going to interrogate him about it.. If he comes here and I get to be around him it's only going to be a few hours.

 

 

My teens have hassled me to get a webcam i hate them I have never liked the idea of it people looking into your house so when my son got given one i lost it....on purpose.....as far as sexting goes and webcaming talking on skype i don't see the appeal its emptiness same as texting actually.

 

 

 

reality is so much sweeter.I dont think you can say yay or nay to whether it would be serious or not....depends on the couples involved.......i personally dont feel a relationship that started as sexting has any chance of being something....doesnt say anything about mutual physicality, words are not actions web caming is not virtual and skype is a good way to keep in contact with family who are distant....starting a relationship based on ummmmm ahhhh please more ooh baby is akin to being a phone sex operator pretending to have sex over the phone while someone masturbates, normally i will say the woman is not having sex adn the guy is,same as sexting......i have never seen the appeal......of make believe sex....i could write steamy stuff doesnt make me feel it unless i had been with that person and had strong feelings for them......even then i don't need to have that in my life.I would question what you want, going back to childhood days is never as good as the first time...people change..its meant to stay in the past.He is a marine so you have to decide if you think you are the only port he is going to call in at.......sounds a bit risky considering......deb

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I know. I just hoped that if he couldn't find anyone else he would want me.

 

 

IF...he Could NOT find ANYONE else, he would WANT ME! You don't see anything wrong with this. Even with your other conversations...you posts still amaze me.

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Haven't you noticed how your way of "getting" a guy DOESN'T WORK?

 

Haven't you noticed that as much as you sext and offer yourself up sexually to guys, it hasn't gotten you what you wanted?

 

So why do you keep doing it? You know it doesn't work, you have seen it doesn't work!!

 

That doesn't tell you that doh hey maybe I should go about this some other way?

 

 

Excellent questions.

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IF...he Could NOT find ANYONE else, he would WANT ME! You don't see anything wrong with this. Even with your other conversations...you posts still amaze me.

No I know, it is super pathetic but that is how much I want to be with someone. I am willing to be someones last option to be with them, it is terrible. I need higher man standards lol

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