terateal Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 I met this girl 2 months back.. The first week, we texted each other every night. the 2nd week we went out for lunch twice and dinner once. All three times we had a really good time... she immediately msged me saying she had a wonderful time and we should do it again.. But we have never kissed... i asked her out again after few days and we decided to go out. but she got busy at work and she msged me saying she cant make it and she feels really bad. I told her "it is fine.. I understand" one problem was, she never suggested a new day for dinner. Anyway, after 2 days(friday) i asked her out again and she said okay... but the date was after a week on a wednesday. that weekend, i msged her and she replied to first few msgs and ignored my last msg, which was "i was thinking about u.. take care".. I started thinking, maybe that msg put her off.. she never ignores my msgs... She was giving me mixed signals... so on monday, i asked her "if she ignored my message" over IM. she said "no. I was busy with friends, but i did read your message." then i said "that looks like ignoring to me". she said "I dont like the way u r behaving.. what else do u want me to say". i said "at least you could have messaged me the next day".. basically I pissed her off lol... anyway, i apologized to her a million times.. saying "i thought when i msged u 'I was thinking about u', it put u off and thats y u ignored my msgs..".. she said "i will talk to u about it later".. but she did not contact me... i tried contacting her many times(call and text), but she never replied.. next week i IMed her again.. she said "I have been distant on purpose. u r too sensitive, u seem like a person who needs a lot of attention. I am too busy with work and school." I replied "okay thanks"... next day emailed her saying "I dont think i am whatever u think i am but anyway I wont disturb u again.. if u ever want to talk or listen to my side of the story, u can contact me"... oh and i also unfriended her from FB.. not because i dont like her.. its because i kept seeing her updates... i wanted to get her off my head i havent contacted her for a month... thats my story lol i was busy last month and never thought of her.. last 2-3 days i started thinking about her.. its because of this one song that plays on the radio every min and its her favorite... I started thinking "what if".. except for that one off incident, rest of the time i really did enjoy my time with her... any advise on what i should do?? contact her one last time? I am okay with not contacting.. I am not desperate or anything... i want a girl' s perspective...if something like this happened to u, would you want the guy to contact u again? and would u ever contact that guy if u missed talking to him?
Carenth Posted November 5, 2012 Posted November 5, 2012 You went in too strong, then came off as needy and insecure when you accused her of ignoring you. Then she decided she didn't like you that way anymore. If she hasn't contacted you in a month then I would just leave it and move on.
MrCastle Posted November 5, 2012 Posted November 5, 2012 Let this one go. She isn't into you. Of course she ignored your message. But I learned early on never call a girl out on what they do. The last thing they want is a mirror held up to their face. You reacted poorly by calling her out on it. As the poster above me stated, you came off needy and insecure but that's ok, consider it a lesson learned. Don't react that way again. Also, don't ever apologize for something you've done. Unless it's something very offensive and out of line. Apologizing for your reaction came across as weakness and approval seeking. She ignored your message and started going cold on you, you don't owe someone like that an apology.
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