myheartbreaks Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 I have been with this guy for 10 years we have been through so much together and we lived together for 7 years. I had a family emergency and had to move home and he moved to my town a couple months later. Well a few weeks he started living here and i guess you can say i took him for granted but i was dealing with family issues that i didn't have the time to hang out with him all the time. So he broke up with me through voicemail. I tried calling him back to work it out and he ignored me so I gave him space for 2 weeks and called him to try and speak to him he accepted and we talked for a few hours about everything. i basically said i wanted to work it out and all he said was he needed to think things through... days go by and im the one calling him begging pleading to work it out and he was being so cold to me until after a few weeks he saw how upset i was and said we would take baby steps and we can be friends which is something he has never done in the past with his ex's. So i was content. we didn't hook up at all during this time. So i feel like the only time he calls or texts is when he wants something and there i go running when he calls which i hate but i still love him. its now been almost 3 months and i find out hes dating someone from his hometown and she comes and visits him here and he takes her shopping and all. im hurting literally. He does not know i know about this girl. do i comfront him do i not contact him? help please!
InThePinc Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 Hi hun, I'm so sorry for you. it's awful when theres a breakup. It is heartbreaking. I know what I would do and its not what id advise lol. I think honestly the best thing to do is ask him about her. Dont be confrontational but just ask him if he is serious about her and is she what he wants. If the answer is yes then I think its time to let him go and have no more contact as it would be really hard for you to move on. Its easier said than done I know that and I can pretty much guarantee I wouldnt follow my own advice but i honestly think it is the best way forward. Good luck x
Author myheartbreaks Posted November 4, 2012 Author Posted November 4, 2012 Thank you inthepinc. I want to comfront him but Im afraid he is going to get defensive or say yes and I don't know how to deal. We have broken up before and he always comes back but this time feels different and i do say that all the time. last week he was telling me that i want him and i to go at a certain pace and he says the ball is in his court and i have to wait a month, 2 months, whenever he is ready. and i can wait or move on. wth is this! after all the crap we have been through?! really! everyone that knows us says oh he is coming back to you! i want to be fine and move on but its so hard! i deleted his number its only been 2 days and its killing me inside not to call him because he might be with her. how can you be in a new relationship after 2 months? i can't even think about another guy right now?!
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