winstonsdreams Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 (edited) Oh God what is wrong with me, i saw her Friday night for a split second, she was out with her sister for her birthday, she noticed i was there then bailed to another part of the club. I am still on pretty good terms with her sister, and we spoke briefly. But my mind has been doing doughnuts since Friday night and i am so tempted to contact her to tell her how i still love her and want her back, even though she has a new boyfriend! I feel so ashamed writing this, we have been broken up 6 months, i am at 4 months NC and thought i was going ok. Guys i didn't know where to turn, i am getting all these images in my head if i was to go and see her tonight and professing my feelings to her, which i know would be a disaster! Someone straighten me out, it's Monday morning at the office and i am freaking out! Edited November 4, 2012 by winstonsdreams
River Rain Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 Be smart. She relocated to another area of the club to avoid you, she has a new boyfriend, she doesn't care about you any more and she doesn't want to be with you. If you contact her she will likely either give you a courtesy response or none at all, which will hurt you further. Don't go stalking her on social networking sites either. Man up and distract yourself and keep moving forward. How's that for straightening you out? I hope I wasn't too harsh, tough love type of advice.
frederickkk Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 agree with river rain. f**k her off. don't give her any attention. one day she may just call.
River Rain Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 agree with river rain. f**k her off. don't give her any attention. one day she may just call. I hope you're following your own advice.
Author winstonsdreams Posted November 5, 2012 Author Posted November 5, 2012 Thanks River, awesome advice as always, too think i just posted Friday about how well i was going with NC and then i saw her that night and well here i am, i am feeling so weak and pathetic! Reality check: She has a boyfriend! She does NOT want to be with me! Man the **** up dude! 1
River Rain Posted November 5, 2012 Posted November 5, 2012 Thanks River, awesome advice as always, too think i just posted Friday about how well i was going with NC and then i saw her that night and well here i am, i am feeling so weak and pathetic! Reality check: She has a boyfriend! She does NOT want to be with me! Man the **** up dude! Good boy! Seriously, you're not weak and pathetic, you're just human. Logic is lost in feelings at times, so it's good you came here. Just keep being strong. You'll get there, I promise.
thembones Posted November 5, 2012 Posted November 5, 2012 I don't suggest reaching out and seeing what her feelings are. You don't want to know, if she even talks to you. I was in the same situation and I acted on it, just to find there was no hope for us. I kinda wish I hadn't.
Frank13 Posted November 5, 2012 Posted November 5, 2012 i am so tempted to contact her to tell her how i still love her and want her back, even though she has a new boyfriend! This is what is so messed up with love and when people who don't want to be with us. That is, we have this urge to tell them how we feel when it makes no sense to do so.
PYTpisces Posted November 5, 2012 Posted November 5, 2012 This set you back. Sorry it had to happen . Remind yourself of how far you came before this and pledge yourself to get back on track. Acknowledge this as a set-back that derailed you. The urge to contact her will subside again with time. And I second River Rain her. Her actions speak volumes... So words are not necessary at this point.
Author winstonsdreams Posted November 5, 2012 Author Posted November 5, 2012 Thanks heaps everyone, fought off the urge and hung out with friends last night who were really helpful. Back on track now, damn NC can be hard even after 6 months! Will keep moving forward though! Might hang out somewhere else for a few weeks! 2
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