8year relationship over.

[scottydont505]

My Love for her is beyond words My name is Kevin Ream. I feel so grateful tohave found the love of my life at such an early age. It had been the firstserious relationship I had ever been in. I met Shannon when we were both in the7th grade. We had two classes together, and we were introduced by amutual friend. I fell for her fast and hard. She is so beautiful, kind, and hasan amazing personality. We were friends throughout 7th grade. When 8thgrade came around there was some miscommunication literally the first day ofschool, and we were no longer friends. We didn’t end up crossing paths againuntil sophomore year in high school. We ended up having a class together, and Ihad asked her if her number was still the same. Shannon said yes, so began ourfriendship again. We would flirt in class, slowly start to talk on the phone, andHang out during and after school. After months (3-6) of being friends I askedher to be my girlfriend. I remember it was in her dads living room 12/18/0411:55pm. We quickly came to love one another. Our families were very supportivein our relationship. (Kind of oddly supportive) Her dad let me stay the nightin her room the first time I ever went to her dad’s house. Not to mention thefirst time I ever got drunk. He said he had good feelings coming from me, andhe was right. Shannon and I were madly in love, but took more serious thingsslow. We waited 2 years before we had sex. I’m not the type of guy to rushanything on anyone or try to get someone to be something they’re not. We wouldspend as much time as we could together. Our parents would take turns taking usto and from school. We would go on dates on the weekends. Weekdays we would talkfor hours on the phone. It wasn’t an uncommon thing to wake up in the morningand hear the other person still sleeping on the phone. Once high school endedshe quickly moved into my room at my parent’s house. We argued just as much asany other great relationship, but it’s always been so easy to share ouremotions with each other. We would talk things out, and it never turned into ahuge fight. I was unemployed for 2 ½ years after high school, and she worked. Iwould take her to and from work. She then started to go to college and I wouldtake her to and from school as well. She ended up dropping out and id be a foolto mention college around her nowadays. Lol. I slowly started to get workthrough a temp agency for a few years. Throughout these years our relationshipwas still stronger than ever. I then ended up taking a 4 month long EMT class,and became an EMT. I’ve always been very anal with my own money, scared ofcredit cards, and just don’t want to be in debt. As for her money…I never oncetold her how to use it. It’s hers plain and simple. So working as an EMT wasgreat. Until I had a partner one day named Bethany. I was 22 at the time and startedto get the feelings like “I’m young and was to explore my options”. I quicklyran to Shannon and told her I was having the idea of a “break” in ourrelationship. We talked about it and decided it wasn’t for us. I stillstruggled with these feelings for weeks after the talk. I now knew Shannon and IHAD to get out of my parents’ house asap. She had already wanted to leave dueto her and my brother’s relationship. (You would have to know my brother tounderstand completely.) I wasn’t even off my probation period at work and wedecided to go look at apartments. The second place we looked at we signed upfor that day. It’s official. We are now moving out. Scott and Shannon vs theworld. A year and a half go by and we are still having relationship problems.No more or less than any other relationship. Nothing to serious. Well…..that’swhat I thought. I had recently started training for a marathon, and she startedhanging out with some girlfriends from work. Shannon never really hadgirlfriends before. There’s one girl (Nicole) in particular that nobody reallylikes. Both Shannon’s family and I disagree with them being friends. Mainly because nicole treated Shannon like apiece of ****. She treats people like toys. Play with you now until the nexttoy comes out. The new toy was named Christina. For this Shannon was deeplyhurt, and actually going to break off their friendship. But Shannon felt shehad to do one last thing before she did. The other friend of Shannon and nicolewas Fatima, and Fatima’s bachelorette party was going to be in Vegas. Shannon didn’treally have the money to go, and knew she wouldn’t have a good time with nicoleand christna. Not to mention they invited some of their guy friends to a bacheloretteparty… Shannon was pissed. Especially because the guys didn’t pay for ****, andwere unemployed. I ended up giving Shannon money to have for drinks and whatnot at Vegas. When she got back she had told me how nicole and Christina are nolonger friends. Nicole messed around with Christina’s “friends with benefits”.Quickly nicole started to take interest in Shannon again. Shannon and I startedto go through another little rough patch in our relationship, and it became hardto talk to her. September 29, 2012 I got ready for Fatima’s wedding. Shannonwas getting ready at nicoles. When I went over there Shannon looked beautiful,but I failed to mention it to her. I was nervous (god knows why…) in front ofnicole, nicoles brother, his friends, and the rest of nicoles family. Duringthe wedding I was paying close attention to the priest talking aboutrelationships, and knew Shannon and I needed to talk. I also started thinkingof ways to ask Shannon’s dads permission to marry her. The next day I had a17mile run for training, so Shannon knew I couldn’t drink at the reception. Ihad also told her that I had to leave a little early. I ended up staying fairlylate and only got 4 ½ hours of sleep for my run the next day. This wasn’t thefirst time I had to leave Shannon, nicole, and their other friends early fortraining. Shannon had also started a new habit of accidently falling asleep atnicoles house without letting me know. So come nightfall Sunday September 30,2012 Shannon tells me “I don’t know if I want to be with you anymore”. I’m devastated,confused, shocked. WTF JUST HAPPENED. She said she had been unhappy for 1 ½ years(the same time we moved out, and the same time the whole Bethany bull**** cameup). She thought I was in the same boat as her, and figured we would both wantthe breakup. I clearly didn’t. I started freaking out. I talked to her entirefamily to see what was going on with her, and they had no idea. They also werebeing neglected by Shannon. This is very strange because Shannon values familymore than anything in the world. Till this day I’ve done everything I can tomake her happy, and support her, and do everything I can so we would end uptogether. It took about 2-3 weeks to endour relationship. Including getting all my stuff, bills figured out, sayingwhat we needed to say to each other. The last time we met it was because shehad to get some stuff off her chest. She had feelings for nicoles littlebrother tyler. Tyler had bought Shannon a few items from the Disney storebecause he overheard her saying she wanted them. She said it was a thoughtfulgift, whereas the iPhone 5 isn’t thoughtful. Which I can understand why shethinks that. (She didn’t end up getting the phone due to the breakup) She liedto me and said some girl from work bought it for her. She thought I would getmad. 8 years down the drain to pursuesome little punk. I feel she didn’t even try to work things out with me. Shesaid she did, and I can tell in her head she thinks she did. Our friends andfamilies are just as confused as I am. No one knows what’s going on, buteveryone comes to the agreement that this is temporary. Shannon’s mom tells Shannonthat she’s making a huge mistake, and Shannon’s step mom looked me in the faceand said “I guarantee you you’ll end up together.” Some of the things Shannon havesaid to me or our mutual friends that confuse me are “I have hope for us in thefuture”, “my biggest fear is wanting him back, and he not accepting me”. I havealready decided that I’m not going to talk to Shannon until next year (2months).I’ve heard the first 2 months are the worst. Shannon text me the other dayabout rent for the apartment, and I didn’t respond. We have since been communicatingthrough her older brother, and one of my closest friends. He has hung out withme every day I have off, and he even says” If you guys don’t end up together itwouldn’t make sense” There is so much more I can write about my confusion andlittle things said here and there, but I feel I’ve gotten the majority of thestory out. I guess I’m writing this for advice.I don’t know what kind. It feels like I don’t know anything anymore other than Ilove Shannon to death, and I would do anything for her. Anyquestions/advice/comments…please share. Thank you.

[Sameold]

sorry but it is nearly impossible to read that with no paragraphs or breaks.

 

8 years is a long time and as somone who recently came out of a long term relationship with my first love I feel for you freind, look after yourself. It will be hard for a long time (source = me, I was dumped nearly 6 months ago).