Violet12 Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 How should I do this? There's a guy I've liked for about 9 months. We've had two classes together for the past two years. We've talked one on one a lot and he seemed into me. But in a group he won't really Acknowledge me. I'm almost positive he's never had a girlfriend. Should I just come out and tell him how I feel?
Carenth Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 I would just go ask him out tbh, I used to be a shy guy then one day I stupidly told a friend I preferred it when girls approached me. Not long after someone who had liked me asked me out. (I had no idea that they liked me either. )
River Rain Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 Should I just come out and tell him how I feel? Yes. Always take a risk so you have no regrets. But maybe start off by asking him out instead of pouring your heart out about how much you like him.
crude Posted November 5, 2012 Posted November 5, 2012 It always amazes me that a woman will do everything short of asking a guy out. It's almost supernatural how this sexist double standard still exists. The woman will give hints, make faces, touch the guy, have intermediaries relay messages, but never come out with it. Sounds like you could pour your heart out to him, but if HE doesn't ask YOU out, it's all doomed. You won't say the words yourself. Bizarre.
River Rain Posted November 5, 2012 Posted November 5, 2012 It always amazes me that a woman will do everything short of asking a guy out. It's almost supernatural how this sexist double standard still exists. The woman will give hints, make faces, touch the guy, have intermediaries relay messages, but never come out with it. Sounds like you could pour your heart out to him, but if HE doesn't ask YOU out, it's all doomed. You won't say the words yourself. Bizarre. Not all women I'm very forward and I know what I want, and I make my thoughts known directly. Scares some guys off though I've found.
crude Posted November 5, 2012 Posted November 5, 2012 Not all women I'm very forward and I know what I want, and I make my thoughts known directly. Scares some guys off though I've found. Some men might not approve, but others would welcome a woman who acts like a grown human being, not some strange caricature of a stereotypical medieval woman (whatever that means)
River Rain Posted November 5, 2012 Posted November 5, 2012 Some men might not approve, but others would welcome a woman who acts like a grown human being, not some strange caricature of a stereotypical medieval woman (whatever that means) Forget the middle ages, I'll be the cavegirl who bonks you over the head and drags you away to my den, lol!
Emilia Posted November 5, 2012 Posted November 5, 2012 How should I do this? There's a guy I've liked for about 9 months. We've had two classes together for the past two years. We've talked one on one a lot and he seemed into me. But in a group he won't really Acknowledge me. I'm almost positive he's never had a girlfriend. Should I just come out and tell him how I feel? Hm I'm not sure. It depends on your personality. What kind of guys do you prefer? Are you more comfortable with intraverts or extraverts? As much as I find shy guys cute, their personality doesn't work for me as they tend to lack assertiveness and I need that in a man. You won't be compatible with everyone, if you prefer men who say what they think, this guy might not be for you.
Emilia Posted November 5, 2012 Posted November 5, 2012 It always amazes me that a woman will do everything short of asking a guy out. It's almost supernatural how this sexist double standard still exists. The woman will give hints, make faces, touch the guy, have intermediaries relay messages, but never come out with it. Sounds like you could pour your heart out to him, but if HE doesn't ask YOU out, it's all doomed. You won't say the words yourself. Bizarre. Not at all. Men have testosterone and that's a big driver. If he isn't able to get through the initial hurdle then in my experience he isn't capable that much else either.
Author Violet12 Posted November 5, 2012 Author Posted November 5, 2012 Emilia- I'm an introvert, but I don't like to sit in my room all day, I do like to have fun. I do not like overly assertive or outgoing guys. They don't bring me out of my shell, but rather clash with my personality. Thanks for the advice you guys. If anyone has another opinion, let me know.
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