mper6763 Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 Me and my boyfriend have been together going on 3 years, we are still young and gonna have a baby soon. But things havent been the same with him. Yeah, we still have our "lovey-dovey" moments, but they dont seem the same like the first year. I just want things to be how they were, when id always catch him staring and me and me asking him what hes looking at and he says just how beautiful i was. Or when he "loved" me. How can i get all that to come back? I know he loves me and cares, but he doesnt show it. Why? He says it because he's stressed over everything, and the baby. But theres nothing he really does yet that has to do with the baby. He doesnt have a job anymore but still goes to school. ANYWAYS, back to the point, what could I do, to get him to do the things he used to do.
Exit Posted November 5, 2012 Posted November 5, 2012 Maybe I'm just a really blunt and straight forward person, but I'll never really understand why situations like this present such a mystery to some people. How do you get these changes to happen? You tell him. Communicate with him. Writing to people on an internet forum is not going to do anything. I'm not trying to discourage you from posting, of course you are welcome here, but what I'm saying is, what stops you from taking exactly what you wrote above, and just saying it to him? The easiest way to get what you want, or to find out if your partner is even willing or able to give it to you, is to ask. Too many people have that attitude of "if I have to ask for something, then it's not really special, it's forced". That's not true. If you ask someone to do something and they care enough to do it, that's still pretty special. Trying to deliver the message through subtle hints or hoping that your partner can read minds is just going to lead to frustration and resentment. Tell him what your needs are, tell him how you are feeling. There's no mystery here. Communicate.
River Rain Posted November 5, 2012 Posted November 5, 2012 You also have to remember that relationships evolve. The "honeymoon stage" is probably over for him, but it doesn't mean he loves you less. You can't really make anyone act a certain way, but you can continue to show him affection and appreciation so that he'll reciprocate. If you want something you need to ask for it. He says he's stressed out, so give him a massage, a hug, or tell him you love him first...don't expect him to always make the first move when it comes to affection.
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