weddersinnes Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 two weeks ago exactly, my boyfriend of three months dumped me because for various reason I wasn't comfortable with him talking to his ex. He immediately asked to remain friends but I said no, maybe in the future, but not right now. Right after he left, I initiated no contact, and deleted all pictures of him from my facebook, but kept him on there as a friend. A week later he deleted all pictures of me, and "liked" some pages that he earlier deemed as "our thing." A couple days ago, I talked to one of our mutual friends, and found out that my ex wasn't even phased by the break-up at all. Didn't have anything to say about it, didn't want to talk about it, and has moved on like it never even happened. This hurt me a great deal, on top of the pain of being dumped over what I think is a stupid reason, so I deleted him from my facebook friends. I did this because I realized I should have done it in the first place as a part of no contact, and because I didn't want to see him moving on. Today I see that he has blocked me from facebook completely. What the heck? I haven't contacted him at all since he dumped me. I haven't said anything to him on facebook or text or anything. Why is he trying to one-up me with this facebook crap? I realize this all sounds very immature but I dunno, I guess facebook is the only indirect contact we've had since breaking up. I'd be lying if I said I wasn't secretly hoping he would want me back :/ We had a wonderful albeit brief relationship, and the break-up was a total surprise to me. I honestly thought we had more of a connection and was devastated that I wasn't worth more to him than some petty argument.
Author weddersinnes Posted November 5, 2012 Author Posted November 5, 2012 Thank you for the advice. I must admit it isn't what I wanted to hear at all, but I appreciate the truthfulness of it. I know deep down you are right :$
River Rain Posted November 5, 2012 Posted November 5, 2012 two weeks ago exactly, my boyfriend of three months dumped me because for various reason I wasn't comfortable with him talking to his ex. He immediately asked to remain friends but I said no, maybe in the future, but not right now. Right after he left, I initiated no contact, and deleted all pictures of him from my facebook, but kept him on there as a friend. A week later he deleted all pictures of me, and "liked" some pages that he earlier deemed as "our thing." A couple days ago, I talked to one of our mutual friends, and found out that my ex wasn't even phased by the break-up at all. Didn't have anything to say about it, didn't want to talk about it, and has moved on like it never even happened. This hurt me a great deal, on top of the pain of being dumped over what I think is a stupid reason, so I deleted him from my facebook friends. I did this because I realized I should have done it in the first place as a part of no contact, and because I didn't want to see him moving on. Today I see that he has blocked me from facebook completely. What the heck? I haven't contacted him at all since he dumped me. I haven't said anything to him on facebook or text or anything. Why is he trying to one-up me with this facebook crap? I realize this all sounds very immature but I dunno, I guess facebook is the only indirect contact we've had since breaking up. I'd be lying if I said I wasn't secretly hoping he would want me back :/ We had a wonderful albeit brief relationship, and the break-up was a total surprise to me. I honestly thought we had more of a connection and was devastated that I wasn't worth more to him than some petty argument. Pardon me for being blunt, but it's kind of childish for you to be upset that he deleted you from fb, since you deleted him. I'm sure had he deleted you first, you'd have reciprocated. I wouldn't try to look at this as a game, he's moved on and you need to accept it and stop over-analyzing his moves. Concentrate on you now, not on him. Go nc until you're in a better place emotionally or you'll just keep hurting yourself. And do yourself a big favour, stay away from fb.
flitzanu Posted November 5, 2012 Posted November 5, 2012 he did you a favor. you should have blocked him anyway.
Tally123 Posted November 5, 2012 Posted November 5, 2012 I don't agree with the replies....if he isn't phased about the break up then why does he need to block you...its not like he is crying over the keyboard!! Sounds to me like he is just trying to have one up on you on the Facebook front! You were totally right in deleting him for moving on purposes, def done the right thing! He too obv has the right to do what he wants, but the whole blocking seems a bit stupid and petty. Agree with the post above though that he has done you a favour!!
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