River Rain Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 Anyone who is online dating, do you put effort into choosing your username? Do you choose your real name? My real first name is actually Rain, so I always have some variation of it. I got a message today from a guy who calls himself "TNT-69"...I have to admit, his chosen username causes me to make an immediate assumption about him. After looking at his profile, I saw that he was looking for a LTR, wondered why he chose that username then. Just wanted to start a conversation on this if anyone is interested.
ascendotum Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 When I did OLD I put a little effort into it, choosing something a bit qwerky. For sure many monikers would have already been used in the past. A guy can still have a risque user name and be serious about having a LTR, but I thought many would be conscious of the name as somewhat of a reflection of how they are immediately perceived somewhat. Which carries more weight...as dirty/risque username or ticking the box saying 'looking for a LTR'? A lot of guys will tick that regardless so they widen their prospects but they will play it differently when dating or because they actually do want a LTR, but with a young sexy girl. 1
curlygirl40 Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 Mine is a play on my name but yet not so much that someone will be able to figure out who I am in they live in the same town, etc. I'm also curious why some of these guys pick what they do, and why they don't understand (or care, maybe?) that they could be turning girls off at the get go. I have seen things like 'bootyrub', 'likes-to-lick', 'mysteriousguy4u'. And this is on Match, a paid site. Yuck. Anything with a 69 (unless they were born in 1969) is a huge turnoff for me. I mean come on show a little bit of class. Good topic. :-)
curlygirl40 Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 I just logged onto Match to browse and found a new member in my area who chose the username "ithinkiloveu" with a few numbers after it. smh
Author River Rain Posted November 4, 2012 Author Posted November 4, 2012 'bootyrub' Okay that really made me laugh.
curlygirl40 Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 Okay that really made me laugh. I wish I was kidding but you just can't make that stuff up. 2
Author River Rain Posted November 4, 2012 Author Posted November 4, 2012 I wish I was kidding but you just can't make that stuff up. If "bootyrub" were to message me, it would certainly make me laugh, but I have to be honest, I would probably delete the message. I think that goofy names are fun and they do get my attention, but when it's overtly sexual, I don't take it too seriously just because my intent is long-term dating/relationship. I guess I'm a little old-fashioned when it comes to first impressions. I'm sure if I were looking for a hookup, it would be different though. 1
xdahliax Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 I pay attention to usernames. It doesn't have to be anything outstanding, but as others have mentioned, I stay clear of men with sexual innuendoes in their names. This is probably due to my religious beliefs (it would be a waste of time to bother speaking to a man who's mainly looking for sex), but I probably wouldn't regardless of that because it's not classy. 1
Mrlonelyone Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 I try to choose one which hints at my gender status in some way or relates to where I live in a subtle way. They are the first clue about someone's personality. 1
Anela Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 I know what you mean. I don't take people with those names seriously either. I used "bashful" as a part of my last one, because I can be shy. 1
gullibleme Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 thats funny this is brought up...I had a guy message me with the name "one tongue for u to enjoy" I was like WTH...I just told him thanks for the message but your profile name belongs on a porn site....lol. For all I know he could have been talking about kissing but hence my name here GULLIBLE...i try not to be....I do look at the usernames always! 1
Author River Rain Posted November 4, 2012 Author Posted November 4, 2012 I know what you mean. I don't take people with those names seriously either. I used "bashful" as a part of my last one, because I can be shy. I think that's fine, because it does give a first and honest impression of your personality.
utterer of lies Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 I have a great nickname in OLD and it's often the first thing a girl mentions when she contacts me. It's an easy way to show a glimpse of your personality and humour. 1
Author River Rain Posted November 4, 2012 Author Posted November 4, 2012 I have a great nickname in OLD and it's often the first thing a girl mentions when she contacts me. It's an easy way to show a glimpse of your personality and humour. It's good to attract a person's interest, I think besides the photos, the username is really important as that first impression. Humour is important too, that's an attractive quality so showing it in a username is a good idea. 1
FitChick Posted November 5, 2012 Posted November 5, 2012 I use ones descriptive of my appearance. It paints a picture of me in their minds. Easier for most men to remember than something too clever.
ImperfectionisBeauty Posted November 5, 2012 Posted November 5, 2012 I always use my first name initial and my middle name
SmileFace Posted November 5, 2012 Posted November 5, 2012 I think I usually do a variation of my name or something spanish. Truthfully I would think twice about replying to a guy who had "69" in his name.
Author River Rain Posted November 5, 2012 Author Posted November 5, 2012 I can't get my mind off Curlygirl's "bootyrub"...why is that making me giggle so much? Anyway, tonight I was on POF, and a guy sent me a message, his username was "Biology Guy" and his tag was "looking for a female specimen"...I thought that was very clever. 1
tigressA Posted November 5, 2012 Posted November 5, 2012 My username is a condensed version of a nickname I got in college. The nickname itself is not exactly classy but so far no one I've met online has figured it out. If I get to know them well enough I tell them the story behind it.
dasein Posted November 5, 2012 Posted November 5, 2012 For guys, it's a good idea to have a clever or interesting username. Make it a word or words as opposed to a meaningless abbreviation that includes numerals like birth year. My first OLD handle was the standard name abbreviation reference with numerals attached. I later changed to a provocative combination word that says something about who I am. Many email replies asked about that handle, so I assume it contributed to why more women decided to return my initial emails.
sabre80 Posted November 5, 2012 Posted November 5, 2012 I have not put much thought into usernames. I think the headline/subject gets more attention. If I try OLD again I want to try "Co-Dependent Seeks Another Co-Dependent for give give relationship" 1
xdahliax Posted November 5, 2012 Posted November 5, 2012 I have not put much thought into usernames. I think the headline/subject gets more attention. If I try OLD again I want to try "Co-Dependent Seeks Another Co-Dependent for give give relationship" And I am running for the hills. 1
Emilia Posted November 5, 2012 Posted November 5, 2012 I tried to come up with feminine user names that didn't have sexual conotation. They do matter. They don't need to be that imaginative (though humour is always a plus!) but anything like '9inch' is offputting because let's face it's stupid on many levels. Only an idiot would raise expectations he can't fulfill to start with. 1
sabre80 Posted November 9, 2012 Posted November 9, 2012 And I am running for the hills. Aww cmon xdahliax. It's funny. Especially since everyone OLD seems to go the extra mile to show that they aren't broken and doth protest too much. The less serious and more absurd my profile became over time the more hits I got. 1
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