maria2290 Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 We've been good friends for a while now but our relationship is completely confusing me. I've always felt like there’s a bit of chemistry between us, even when we first started becoming friends there was initial flirting between us, texting each other etc. During our friendship we were both in relationships but have now both split with our partners for various reasons. We openly discuss everything as we've become close friends. We do act like just mates most of the time, we discuss who else we think is good looking etc, its like were nothing more than friends..but here's the thing, the other half of the way we act is the opposite. We hug quite a bit, flirt, kisses on the cheeks, he'll kiss me on the forehead, rub noses. Its gotten to the stage were we'll have occasional little pecks on the lips to, be both initiate it. We'll happily walk down the street arms round each other sometimes too. We stay over each other’s houses sometimes, and we'll cuddle up in bed half the night nothing has ever happened though, he's never tried to come on to me even though there’s been times were he might have known i may of liked something to happen. We had a discussion on a night out recently were he said that if he was going to get with a girl(he's bi) it would be me. But he said that right now he's an idiot, he basically said he wouldnt be great for me right now and i'd probably deserve better. He asked me questions like would i be able to handle his sexuality him being bi if we were in a relationship too. Sometimes he'll act hot and cold with me too, not text back, not be as close hugging me and stuff. We've joked about being together, overall ive now got to the point were i like him a lot. And im 90% sure he knows this. My feeling are starting to affect our friendship and im considering talking to him one night and just telling him out straight that i really like him, but im so scared if i do i'll loose what we have together now. I dont want him to get weirded out and think he cant be mates with me. Should i just continue to hold in how strong my feelings are becoming for now until something more happens in the future maybe or should i risk our whole relationship and friendship and be honest and tell him how i feel about it all? We have both said in conversation we love each other to bits i occasionally do have doubts about the whole thing though would he act this way if he didnt like me and he didnt have feelings for me?!
NateC Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 Think of it this way: if you don't say anything, eventually your feelings will get the best of you and it'll be too difficult to remain just friends without it causing a lot of emotions. If you do, you get that question out of the way. Yes, you could lose the friendship - but if he's a true friend, he will understand your feelings and not just run away.
crackerjacker Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 We've been good friends for a while now but our relationship is completely confusing me. I've always felt like there’s a bit of chemistry between us, even when we first started becoming friends there was initial flirting between us, texting each other etc. During our friendship we were both in relationships but have now both split with our partners for various reasons. We openly discuss everything as we've become close friends. We do act like just mates most of the time, we discuss who else we think is good looking etc, its like were nothing more than friends..but here's the thing, the other half of the way we act is the opposite. We hug quite a bit, flirt, kisses on the cheeks, he'll kiss me on the forehead, rub noses. Its gotten to the stage were we'll have occasional little pecks on the lips to, be both initiate it. We'll happily walk down the street arms round each other sometimes too. We stay over each other’s houses sometimes, and we'll cuddle up in bed half the night nothing has ever happened though, he's never tried to come on to me even though there’s been times were he might have known i may of liked something to happen. We had a discussion on a night out recently were he said that if he was going to get with a girl(he's bi) it would be me. But he said that right now he's an idiot, he basically said he wouldnt be great for me right now and i'd probably deserve better. He asked me questions like would i be able to handle his sexuality him being bi if we were in a relationship too. Sometimes he'll act hot and cold with me too, not text back, not be as close hugging me and stuff. We've joked about being together, overall ive now got to the point were i like him a lot. And im 90% sure he knows this. My feeling are starting to affect our friendship and im considering talking to him one night and just telling him out straight that i really like him, but im so scared if i do i'll loose what we have together now. I dont want him to get weirded out and think he cant be mates with me. Should i just continue to hold in how strong my feelings are becoming for now until something more happens in the future maybe or should i risk our whole relationship and friendship and be honest and tell him how i feel about it all? We have both said in conversation we love each other to bits i occasionally do have doubts about the whole thing though would he act this way if he didnt like me and he didnt have feelings for me?! Bi = gay. Don't do it. Find yourself a straight man who won't have gay cyber sex online behind your back or leave you for a man later.
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