fortyninethousand322 Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 This is sort of a riff off of ThaWholigan's thread about things he'd learned. This is my list. It's probably a bit more negative than his but still true. 1. Being reasonably good looking/in shape/tall/white/stereotypical, generic “attractive” trait doesn’t guarantee success. There’s an element of edginess or confidence or “swagger” that really makes or breaks you. It’s not that shy or non-confident guys never get girls, but it’s such a rarity as to not bother trying to replicate that. You have to stand up for yourself, know how to flirt without meaning, separate sex from love, have a little bit of danger/adventure to you (and we’ve not calling “going on a trip to a battlefield” an adventure), and absolutely no cliginess; you have to seem like you don’t care. 2. College is really the best place to try to get some dating experience. No, not everyone is trying to get their Mr. or Mrs. Degree (nor should they) but if you’ve left your undergrad years with few (or no) dates and are still kissless/a virgin/etc. something must have gone really wrong. 3. There are certain people that cannot be successful at online dating. Men and women. People who are normally unsuccessful at dating offline will usually be just as unsuccessful at online dating. OLD should be used for people who want to broaden their available dating pool or for people who work like 75-80 hours a week and have no time for real dating. 4.The longer you wait to start dating the harder it will become. It’s very similar to staying unemployed for a long time…eventually nobody is interested in your services. There are quite a few women who find it kind of cute when their 19 year old crush reveals he’s never kissed a girl, but when he’s a 25+ year old…eww gross. For those skeptical I submit as evidence the myriad of threads we’ve had on LS related to this subject and I submit to you the various posters who have been on this site for some time without any progress. There’s a point of no return, and most of us have past it already or are nearing it. 5. If you don’t have that confidence thing going, and you’re not an insanely good looking guy, you’re going to need a decent job and your own place. No girl wants to hear how you’re in graduate school working part time at the grocery store while living with mommy and daddy. They want to know you’ve got a real job and can provide. Again, some guys have enough other stuff going for them that they don’t need to have their own place or a great job. But for the great deluge, you do . I’m sure I’ll think of something else but for now this list seems pretty good. 1
irc333 Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 They want to know you’ve got a real job and can provide. Again, some guys have enough other stuff going for them that they don’t need to have their own place or a great job. But for the great deluge, you do . In this economy "real jobs" aren't so real. Most people, though employed, are former workers that are laid off from "real" jobs, but have probably found themselves having to work in retail, warehouse work, working 2-part time jobs, etc. Yep, that's the reality of the situation here folks.
truth_seeker Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 malibu is on target. I tried being direct with a woman who was playing games with me and even though she had a crush on me, it went nowhere. My advice: if you're going to be direct, do it with an older woman. They're at a point in life they just want stability and someone who is no-nonsense. Younger women 30 and under are pretty much indecisive and all over the place with their thoughts and emotions. No need to analyze them; you date them, have some fun, and when the fun ends, onto the next one.
Author fortyninethousand322 Posted November 4, 2012 Author Posted November 4, 2012 6. Some people have it in them to change and get better at dating. Some people do not. It's kind of a "did faulty genetics cause John Doe to become a serial killer or was he just a bad guy by choice" kind of situation. Impossible to prove without sounding like some kind of fatalistic person. But that's my gut feeling on it.
Author fortyninethousand322 Posted November 4, 2012 Author Posted November 4, 2012 7. Success and initiative in other areas of life don't necessarily translate into success with women. I have been told that working in retail helps one gain communication skills which by extension helps you with women. I was a sales associate for almost a decade. I take charge when I play sports. Trust me, these things don't translate over.
MrCastle Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 This thread is depressing Yeah it's pretty dark. Good thing it's baseless in fact and solely one man's opinion. 1
Author fortyninethousand322 Posted November 4, 2012 Author Posted November 4, 2012 This thread is depressing Hey, reality has a negative bent...
ThaWholigan Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 Hey, reality has a negative bent... Your reality maybe.... It doesn't have to be that way, but oh well.... 1
Author fortyninethousand322 Posted November 5, 2012 Author Posted November 5, 2012 8. If a woman knows she's your only option (or something to that effect) she will use that to her advantage. Play games, lead you on. Sometimes use you for money, but a great many women will you use for entertainment when they're bored. And when you try to walk away, she'll lure you in with more promises. If you're one of those guys and a woman shows interest, run (don't walk) to the nearest exit.
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