charlietheginger Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 Ok here is the deal..... I was married for 10yrs... Seperated from the wife last year... Lost 35lbs... I eat healthy workout 5days a week sometimes More..... In january i started really losing weight by April may people not reconizing me or my Face... my mom could not believe it was me Had not seen her in 6months back in june So that part has been done got my health back Im in shape... Not realizing women were notcing me at the time Im very shy id often turn away at them kinda lower My head... A girl at the gym works out some nights that i do.. She is the most beautiful women in the world... One night back in july after the gym i was at walmart Shopping... She stood next to me.. I glanced out of the corner Of my eye. I got scared really nervous i pushed my cart Away and left.... I could not believe in all my life the most beautiful women In the world was next to me.. I smelled horrible my eyes Were red from sweat i started shaking... I went to check out and left..... We worked out another Night and i went to walmart she pulled in the parking lot As i sat parked eating my after workout food.... I saw her my heart stopped i started to shake i paniced And drove off... Got down the road caugh my breath Drove back as she was leaving... Went home crawled inti Bed and cryed... A week went by never saw her again... Then she showed up.. She would often walk by me looking nervous This went on for 3months... I felt so bad about the night at walmart I wanted to aplogize... One day on a sunday she was working out she went To her suv.. I was headed out the door stopped To drink some water and do what i do usually stare at the ground as the girl of my dreams drives away But something happened she started walking my way.. she came to the door i opened the door She said thankyou so much... i then left But the ice was broken... Next night we exchanged glances from afar.... After the gym in the parkinglot I said my names charlie We had some small talk.... She then would smile at me id smile back.. Very light talk.... One night i went to the coffee shop to grab a Shot of expresso... Lord behold there she was the light from above shining On her as she glowed like an angel her angelic face Lips and eyes shined in the light... My heart raced... She didnt see me seeing her As i checked out she turned her head saw me Outta the corner of her eye took a double take Turned to a coffee machine then walked in the back.. She did to me what i did to her at walmart... Now i truly know how it felt... Next night at the gym she said hello i pretended not To hear it.... I decided she was not interested She passed by as i ignored her.... This went on 2nights.... She pulls into walmart as i pull in... I cant ignore her she is just to sweet and nice I go into walmart i see her we both see each other She smiles i smile... Say hello i told her i saw her at the coffee shop And figured she was not interested she looked Shocked told me she had to go in the back to close Shop it was nothing we spoke about her schooling A bone graph operation about our diets. Seeing each other at the gym we would smile say hello Some conversation ..some days she seems moody so i avoid Her and just let her workout somedays she is all smiles And talkative....we smile make eye contact This is where i dont know what to do.. I have low self steem i feel like im still Fat and ugly and dont think im good enough For her.. My sister told me i have a "god like body "what Ever that means...says i look like something Off the movie 300 Im also scared she dont like my redhair and freckles This women is amazing pefect tan about 5"4 115lbs Funky curly wavy hair pulled up.. Teeth whiter then first snow fall. no makeup needed a real natural Beauty... Im think i need to man up.... But im 35 And she is 27... The games 27 yr old women Play i dont think i can handle the emotional roller Coaster Plus my selfesteem is shot from my marriage My wife followed me around the house calling me Fat... Its in my mind now im still fat even though I lost 35lbs...looking in the mirror seeing freckles And redhair dont help..i used to have a very fat round Face but after removing all gluten and dairy my face Shrunk and now i have big cheek bones and a square jaw Not sure if its attractive or ugly... Never had cheekbones Before Plus ive been celibate for one year I dont goto bars dont drink or smoke Not my thing What to do what to do
Author charlietheginger Posted November 5, 2012 Author Posted November 5, 2012 Guess it dont matter.... In december i move to a new gym thats opening And ill prob never see her agian..... Its prob better off that way i wont get my heart Broke.... She seems to buzy with work and school If not even gonna ask or try
River Rain Posted November 5, 2012 Posted November 5, 2012 I believe in taking chances, I'd rather go for it than regret that I did nothing about it. Have you considered that she thought you were playing games with her by your behaviour? I know it was due to shyness, but it could have come off as a game in her perspective, especially when you purposely ignored her when she said hello to you. You shouldn't assume a person will play games because they are 27 years old. I think you are overthinking this way too much. Why don't you just ask her out?
Author charlietheginger Posted November 6, 2012 Author Posted November 6, 2012 Thanks for the advice... Ive decided ill never date anyone from The gym... Imo its superficial that people are Trying to meet people based on outside Appearance... I goto the gym becuase i love to workout Its not my fualt if i attracted someone... I keep telling myself its just the gym its Not a dating or place to meet women... The key conversation we had was 2 weeks ago.. Ive been at that gym 2 yrs so has she..... I talked about weightoss i asked her if she remembered Me when i was fat...... She looked puzzled and said no.... she told me she lost weight also..... Being she didnt even remember me at all Means any attraction is only physical.... I want a mental spirtual heartfelt attraction... To people pulled together by mental as well as visual Attraction She likes me and wants to be with me... Not because She wanted a guy to romp around with
yongyong Posted November 6, 2012 Posted November 6, 2012 Go date a fat girl. problem solved. You and I know what you said sound very idiotic.
Author charlietheginger Posted November 6, 2012 Author Posted November 6, 2012 (edited) Its not idiotic... Ive been in contest bodybuilding condition 10yrs Ago before i got fat......attracted decent amount of women..... Im back in the 8 9% bf range.. I attracted this one once my bf got lower.... Ive been treated like meat in the past.... I want to have conversations movies cuddle On the couch.... Not just sex... Im 35 not 21.... Edited November 6, 2012 by charlietheginger
Author charlietheginger Posted November 6, 2012 Author Posted November 6, 2012 (edited) Man im on the fence about her... Im not attracted to the makeup wearing Hoochie mama type and she is not one soulmate would be in sweatpants and a tshirt In the winter shorts and a tanktop in the summer No make up if any very little no stinky perfumes I like the tomboyish type... Jeans and a shirt is fine with me... If she wanted to get dressed up on occasion that's Fine also....she fits this persona perfect my only worry is what will happen if i gain a lil Weight .. Cant have viens in my biceps and abs year round id like to eat some food oneday Cant live off chicken eggs oatmeal and rice forever Then when im 40 she will be 32 ....im 45 her 37... Age gap might be bad at one point.. Edited November 6, 2012 by charlietheginger
taya Posted November 11, 2012 Posted November 11, 2012 (edited) Man im on the fence about her... Im not attracted to the makeup wearing Hoochie mama type and she is not one soulmate would be in sweatpants and a tshirt In the winter shorts and a tanktop in the summer No make up if any very little no stinky perfumes I like the tomboyish type... Jeans and a shirt is fine with me... If she wanted to get dressed up on occasion that's Fine also....she fits this persona perfect my only worry is what will happen if i gain a lil Weight .. Cant have viens in my biceps and abs year round id like to eat some food oneday Cant live off chicken eggs oatmeal and rice forever Then when im 40 she will be 32 ....im 45 her 37... Age gap might be bad at one point.. hahaha man stop worrying about those things and get the girl i would walk up to her and start a conversation and see what happens lol when you get her and those things come up you worry about them .and if she likes you your age and weight wont matter Edited November 11, 2012 by taya
21stCenturyMale Posted November 11, 2012 Posted November 11, 2012 hahaha man stop worrying about those things and get the girl i would walk up to her and start a conversation and see what happens lol when you get her and those things come up you worry about them .and if she likes you your age and weight wont matter Man, why must you self-castrate so? I agree with river rain and yongyong. Stop obsessing so much- realize that no one likes playing those games. Those are games that immature people play. Be straight forward. Take a day out of your routine at your new gym, buy some flowers, and wait for her at the old gym before she arrives to work out and ask her to go out. Your may get sick with anxiety, but just try it out, your results may surprise you in the best way. Don't say that people looking to date other people at the gym are superficial, that's incredibly offensive and I think you're just creating stories to justify your lack of action. If you were in a hiking club and you met her and things went well, how is that any different? I don't think you should post in here again unless you've taken some kind of action, or you have some great news.
Author charlietheginger Posted November 11, 2012 Author Posted November 11, 2012 Well guys ive come to a solid conclusion Shes outta my league.. If i were to walk into a room holding Her hand People would simply luagh and whisper Why is that hot chick with that ugly redheaded Guy... As a child and through highschool i had to Endure girls talking about how hott River Phoenix ,johnny deep,brad pitt Cristian slater blah blah all were Never once a redhaired guy.... i look at her beautiful bronze skin Then look at my pinkish freckled Body and give up Shes flawless perfect in everway If i were next to her it would Only magnify my flaws making Me look worse.... if you saw what i looked like I think you would get a better Picture... Im not dog ugly but im no movie star Once in the second grade i was crying As the other kids stood around me yelling Freckeled freak....that teacher took me Aside and told me one day id grow into A man and meet a women that loved My freckles and redhair... Ive grown the freckels on my face faded My bodys muscular filled in.. Am i finally Grown to be that man ... Did it really take 35yrs am i late bloomer.... I just dont know
taya Posted November 12, 2012 Posted November 12, 2012 (edited) Well guys ive come to a solid conclusion Shes outta my league.. If i were to walk into a room holding Her hand People would simply luagh and whisper Why is that hot chick with that ugly redheaded Guy... As a child and through highschool i had to Endure girls talking about how hott River Phoenix ,johnny deep,brad pitt Cristian slater blah blah all were Never once a redhaired guy.... i look at her beautiful bronze skin Then look at my pinkish freckled Body and give up Shes flawless perfect in everway If i were next to her it would Only magnify my flaws making Me look worse.... if you saw what i looked like I think you would get a better Picture... Im not dog ugly but im no movie star Once in the second grade i was crying As the other kids stood around me yelling Freckeled freak....that teacher took me Aside and told me one day id grow into A man and meet a women that loved My freckles and redhair... Ive grown the freckels on my face faded My bodys muscular filled in.. Am i finally Grown to be that man ... Did it really take 35yrs am i late bloomer.... I just dont know ok wow you dident even try just gave up and keep puting down your self so because your 35 you cant have anything good??? and as i said if she likes you those things would not matter but i guess you will never find out because you gave up because you worrying about what other people will think as you say your 35 so shouldent you know by now what people say doesnt matter, people will always say stuff dont live for people live for your self...and you put your self down too much,, have confidents ,,,at least if you had talk to her and get to know her and she told you she dont like you that way ,, you can say to your self i gave it a honest try ...and omg your 35 still pretty young my dad is 50 and his gf is a beautiful 23 year old to me thats too young for him but at least you get my point hes my dad but hes no movie star eaither Edited November 12, 2012 by taya
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