TheFemaleVoice Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 We've only been married for 3 years, but things have gotten to the point where everything my husband is telling me is a lie. I know that he is NOT cheating and no he does not beat me, but this dishonesty matter is major for me. He recently invited his best friend to live with us, without my consent, and since that point we have been falling furter and furter apart. I accidentally stumbled across some messages on facebook about me..my husband and his friend were talking about me, now it happened again! enough is enough and he lied about it to my face..i cant take it anymore..i have tried to talk to him and its so freaking pointless, he always says im over reacting..whatever!! We have an 18 month old son and im trying to make my marriage work, but you cant squeeze blood out of a turnip you know. Im leaving tomorrow for a few days to try and clear my mind..he needs to get his priorites straight because im not going to play second fiddle to his best friend any longer, he talks to him more than he talks to me, and did i mention that our sex life lately has sucked! 1 a week if im lucky...im 22 freaking years old people im very sexually active and so should someone whose 27..idk anymore...i personllay feel this is the right decision..i dont know whats gonna happen from here..but hes sleeping on the couch tonight!
Soxfaninfl Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 Have you suggested marriage counseling to your husband? It is good for a third party to point out to the person that's is causing the issues in the marriage when they aern't getting it and their spouse keeps telling them over and over. I would also suggest individual counseling to deal with what your going through. Have you talked to him about why your having less sex? That is odd for a 27 year old man not to want it much?. I'm 37 and at that age I wanted and still do every day. I guess we're all different.
Gunny376 Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 There was once a "Mule Skinner" in Mississippi. He was famous for turing hard headed mules into working farm animals. A reporter from the local newspaper decided to do a story on him. He went out and interviewed the guy? The "Mule Skinner" took him out back of the barn and told him he had a new mule to skin? He picked up a 2X4 of oak plank, and cracked it over the mules forheard and turned and said: "FRIST OFF! YOU'VE GOT TO GET THIER ATTENTION! 3
Gunny376 Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 Twenty years in the Marine Corps I've dealt with this! And EACH AND EVERYTIME I found out about it? About one of my Marines MOVING one of his buddies into his house with him and his wife out in the "ville" or town, or on base? I went out and moved his "buddy" back into the barracks, gave them 60 to 80 hours of extra duty, (Both of them!) Or I would send one of them on the next boat/flight/detachment "smokin" out of town! Company Commander or First Sergeant would call and tell me they "Need" one man for? "Got JUST the Marine you need Captain! Marine Corps definiton of a "Buddy" Someone that goes to town and gets a BJ and comes back to base and give you one! Do you KNOW of anyone like that? No you don't! You've not got any buddies! 1
Gunny376 Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 Let me spell it out for ya! I. God - Wife - Close Family ~ Children, grandchildren, grandparents, uncles, aunts Great Aunts, Uncles, In -laws of such ~ Hers and Yours (If worthy) Close Family ~ Cousins, nephews, nieces (If Worthy) II. Country III. Job Buddies and friends? :lmao: :lmao: The diference betwen "In-laws and Outlaws? Outlaws know their wanted! Buddies and friends? :lmao: :lmao: :lmao: 1
M30USA Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 (edited) We've only been married for 3 years, but things have gotten to the point where everything my husband is telling me is a lie. I know that he is NOT cheating and no he does not beat me, but this dishonesty matter is major for me. He recently invited his best friend to live with us, without my consent, and since that point we have been falling furter and furter apart. I accidentally stumbled across some messages on facebook about me..my husband and his friend were talking about me, now it happened again! enough is enough and he lied about it to my face..i cant take it anymore..i have tried to talk to him and its so freaking pointless, he always says im over reacting..whatever!! We have an 18 month old son and im trying to make my marriage work, but you cant squeeze blood out of a turnip you know. Im leaving tomorrow for a few days to try and clear my mind..he needs to get his priorites straight because im not going to play second fiddle to his best friend any longer, he talks to him more than he talks to me, and did i mention that our sex life lately has sucked! 1 a week if im lucky...im 22 freaking years old people im very sexually active and so should someone whose 27..idk anymore...i personllay feel this is the right decision..i dont know whats gonna happen from here..but hes sleeping on the couch tonight! From other relationships I've observed, men start to "lie" when they get to the point where they KNOW everything true they say to their wife will result in a knock-down fight which keeps them up all night (or potentially worse like assault or destruction of property). Even my ex father in law said that he just yesses his wife no matter what she says. Otherwise he will be forced to deal with her rage. I've seen women do this a lot. But often these are the same women who set up their husbands in a lose-lose situation where he literally can't do the right thing. Does this explanation apply to you? Only you know. (When I say "lie", I'm not talking about big lies like cheating, etc, but what you might call "little white lies". Obviously all lies are wrong and this isn't an excuse for men, but whatever happened to the idea which women love to throw out there which says "it takes two" for a succesful relationship?) Edited November 4, 2012 by M30USA
Gunny376 Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 From other relationships I've observed, men start to "lie" when they get to the point where they KNOW everything true they say to their wife will result in a knock-down fight which keeps them up all night (or potentially worse like assault or destruction of property). Even my ex father in law said that he just yesses his wife no matter what she says. Otherwise he will be forced to deal with her rage. I've seen women do this a lot. But often these are the same women who set up their husbands in a lose-lose situation where he literally can't do the right thing. Does this explanation apply to you? Only you know. (When I say "lie", I'm not talking about big lies like cheating, etc, but what you might call "little white lies". Obviously all lies are wrong and this isn't an excuse for men, but whatever happened to the idea which women love to throw out there which says "it takes two" for a succesful relationship?) From the 'get-go' women will MAKE A man lie! They do it to test us. They do it when they ask, "Does this make my _______________look big?" You KNOW you've got to lie ~ lie well, ~ and lie your azz off!
trippi1432 Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 From the 'get-go' women will MAKE A man lie! They do it to test us. They do it when they ask, "Does this make my _______________look big?" You KNOW you've got to lie ~ lie well, ~ and lie your azz off! LOL!! Ya know...a smart man will look at a woman and say "Oh He** no!! I'm not falling for that one!" 1
riverratt Posted November 5, 2012 Posted November 5, 2012 LOL!! Ya know...a smart man will look at a woman and say "Oh He** no!! I'm not falling for that one!" +1 on that...just took me awhile to figure that out..
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