indiff Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 Hey people how is everyone? Just wanting some advice if its cool I have been speaking to a russian girl overseas for couple of months, cant say it was easy though, she would constantly question me, be insecure and think im a game player...for no reason at all. we would talk maybe once a week on skype and things were pretty cool. we developed some feelings and 5 months into the relationship we decided it was time to finally meet up. I was excited to say the least. I had to face some hurdles along the way, and thats when the problems started. I bought the tickets to go see her, but I was just promoted to a trainer at work and had to stay another 2 weeks. she didn't take that well at all, she didn't believe I bought the tickets, so I had to go on cam and show her the reciept. she was ok after that, altho she warned me if I cancelled again she would start looking for someone else. I was hurt but I let it go.. so I booked the tickets for the 24 of november. a week later I snapped my achilies tendon and I am now bed ridden for a good 5 to 6 weeks. I told her if she could wait until i recoved and keep talking like we have been, and once im able to walk im come straight away and be together. but nope, she said she is going to put her self back on the dating sites and look for someone else, she said to me "I want ACTION no words! words mean nothing to me...and I don't believe you hurt your ankle..its all bull****! and how convent you hurt your ankle.. I dont believe you!" I was hurt and shocked, and wanted to show her proof on webcam! and show her my operation but nope she didnt want to see it. she said if I mean so much to you then it shouldn't matter if im on a dating site. and then she proceeded to call me a manipulator and not to treat her like a toy....I just...I just dont get it! I was kind of baffled and hurt..and tried explaining that if you have feelings for someone that you shouldn't just give up on them just because I have hurt my ankle! its all about trust and communication, but she is acting like a child over it. I would send her gifts, send her msgs, do everything she asked, but she would always analyse everything I say, call me a liar and never believe anything I say, she has major trust issues, I dunno. so anyhow, I checked the dating site this morning and yup she is back on looking for another man, just like that. should I pursue this, was I in the wrong in any way? need some advice guys. thanks heaps.
theLWord Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 Let it go... First the fact that she is ''overseas'' is almost setting yourself up for a heartbreak. Then she is threatening you that she will find someone else.. Instead of having any sympathy for your injury, she is mean about it. Sounds like if you continue, that relationship will revolve around her and her needs. She doesn't trust YOU but she is the one on a dating site. Do you even have to ask what you should do? I think you know. I wouldn't even go if I were you. Get out now.
Author indiff Posted November 4, 2012 Author Posted November 4, 2012 Let it go... First the fact that she is ''overseas'' is almost setting yourself up for a heartbreak. Then she is threatening you that she will find someone else.. Instead of having any sympathy for your injury, she is mean about it. Sounds like if you continue, that relationship will revolve around her and her needs. She doesn't trust YOU but she is the one on a dating site. Do you even have to ask what you should do? I think you know. I wouldn't even go if I were you. Get out now. Yea makes sense man. I just thought it was pretty heartless of her to go back on a dating site...for what? because I hurt my ankle and had to cancel twice. she said once I do meet up with her then she will take her self off the site, untill then she will remain on it. that doesn't seem like how a relationship works...correct?
theLWord Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 Yea makes sense man. I just thought it was pretty heartless of her to go back on a dating site...for what? because I hurt my ankle and had to cancel twice. she said once I do meet up with her then she will take her self off the site, untill then she will remain on it. that doesn't seem like how a relationship works...correct? Not at all. She sounds really heartless. Say you do get together, how could you trust her now? She's on a damn dating site but is supposed to care about you?? Don't waste anymore money on her either. That's not how love works, at all. Don't get stepped on anymore.
Author indiff Posted November 4, 2012 Author Posted November 4, 2012 Not at all. She sounds really heartless. Say you do get together, how could you trust her now? She's on a damn dating site but is supposed to care about you?? Don't waste anymore money on her either. That's not how love works, at all. Don't get stepped on anymore. So true man. thanks btw.
Author indiff Posted November 4, 2012 Author Posted November 4, 2012 she just sent me an email saying " its your choice, I put my self back on dating site, what is the problem? if you are really coming in couple of weeks then not much will change. and once I see you in person I will take off my profile on dating site. you will not maniplulate me, I am not your toy." what the hell ??? what is it with the manipulating ? how am I doing that? I dont get it people! I just couldn't make it due to a injury! ..sigh
TopCat22 Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 Not having a go at you here, but you've never actually physically met this girl and you're calling it a relationship? Technically you haven't even been on a first date, so the way I see it she is free to be on a dating site if she wants. What you have is at best an online friendship.
Mint Sauce Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 why did you not buy her tickets to come over to your place?
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