blue_jay_bird Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 (edited) I'v already blocked, defriended my ex along time ago. But i can still tell he's untagged himself from all are photo's together. Seven year's untagged...five months later after BU. I'm trying hard to understand, but all I can think is "what a monster". Yes it's over, but is their a need to pretend it never happened. Has this happened to anyone of you. Any words of...support or understanding. Edited November 4, 2012 by blue_jay_bird
Simon Phoenix Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 Seems pretty normal to me. He's moving on, so should you.
sissy106 Posted November 4, 2012 Posted November 4, 2012 Yup Blue jay Bird, this happened to me too. I was not able to let it go... all those memories. I kept all stuff with me for sometime, but all the time I had these things I was in deepression. Letting go ur old memories is the first step towards healing. Yes it does pains too see all those years just wasted, but dont bother we have lot more to live and keep in mind all the good memories from ur past. I am much ahead in healing process now, so now I think that atleast I did get a chance to love someone truely and yes if we cant make it then, it was supposed to be best this way only. I know if now I try to get back to my ex then we can never work out the things, and during BU time we both were in too much stress and could not drag this further although both of us were deeply in love with each other. Though, i was not the one to leave him and he left me, but now I am living my life with my new life partner and he is much better than my ex in many ways (especially in love, care, trust and respect), though he is much lazy in his professional life and is undergoing lots of ups and down in his career, but present situation is much better than previous one. My ex used to love me a lot, but he was over possessive, jealous, and he never trusted and respected me. I could not have lived my life with him only coz we love each other deeply, coz rest of the time he was just shiit! U cant live with the person who loves u at one time and kicks u the other.... still I was hanging on to that unhealthy relation and that was my stupidity, but now I am at much more PEACE.
Author blue_jay_bird Posted November 4, 2012 Author Posted November 4, 2012 (edited) Do your parents have pictures of their Exes? Were their Exes at their wedding? Do your parents have their Exes over for dinner? Holidays? Your Ex isn't a monster... He just finished a chapter of his life and turned the page. Your right...and I have no idea how these break up things work. I feel like a idiot when all these new concepts come to light. It was such a shock when my ex didn't contact me months after BU. Even my family and close friends were shocked. But going on this form...it seems normal. I don't know what is concerted normal... I feel like a idiot. It just seems so sudden.. Edited November 4, 2012 by blue_jay_bird
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